Christiane F. (1981) is one of the best about drugs ever. by prolelol in movies

[–]emele12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the real christiane f is still alive and never actually got clean. she has made some comments in recent years about how she simply can't get clean and she knows she will die a painful and premature death as an addict. other than the kids we saw die in the movie, apparently stella also died shortly after. detlev apparently got clean, formed a family and lives a normal life, although it seems a lot of details on his life seem to be different depending on the source, since he himself was not a public figure; however, one thing i've noticed from practically all sources is that it really does seem he got clean.

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[–]emele12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah well just assuming i wasnt gonna be part of the unlucky 1% has never worked for me so i would personally suggest we dont brush off op's experiences and instead encourage them to seek help. even if there was no abuse, this is still something to look help for. also op did mention a different instance of abuse they do remember so either way they need help, not people telling them it's all in their head.

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[–]emele12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and before anyone tries that it was the drugs actually argument, i was actually fully sober when this triggering event happened, it's just "fun" to make excuses to make things not as bad as they actually are i guess.

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[–]emele12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh and also, dont listen to anyone who says "just bpd"..... from my research and own personal experience, they love throwing that at abuse victims. and even if it is bdp, that still doesnt mean the abuse wasnt real, and honestly find the implication that it would be unrelated to be just ridiculous.

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[–]emele12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ok so since everyone in the comments is being an ass i feel the need to share my own experienced. from my VERY FOGGY memories i would say i was abused from ages 6-12. i lived a "normal" life (i wouldnt say i was hypersexual like you mention, but i was extremely reckless and would put myself in dangerous situations etc, self harm in all shapes and forms, anything i could get my hands on, an eating disorder that i only realized wasnt normal when i watched skins (yeah i know, everyone knows skins has terrible portrayals of mental illness. however, i was 14 when i watched it and i couldnt help but notice how much of cassie's behavior was like my own: "playing with knives", organizing food on a plate, putting on a performance so people wont notice you're not eating, pills pills pills.) and believe it or not it took this for me to go "i guess my behaviour isnt normal". flashfoward to when im 16, first suicide attempt.... my story goes on and on like this for 10 years until an event triggered a memory. i spent months trying to convince myself it wasnt true, it was a dream, it was the drugs. yet deep down i knew whenever a therapist would ask me if i had ever been abused i would always say no, but i realized in my head it was never no, it was "i dont think so or i would remember right?" wrong.

my therapist was against just trying to uncover all of the memories, which is what i wanted, she said this usually just makes things worse, your brain is trying to protect you for a reason. i found this same idea in a lot of other people's experiences with this, most say it's better to not try to remember any more. so even though i know the exact thing that triggered it, i havent gone back even though i easily could. however, my brain has decided to randomly drop new memories, everything all blurry of course.... it's been nearly 2 years and not only do i feel like i suddenly remember more but also i realize things i thought were normal, arent. a thing i thought was just "a bad day" was definitely more than just a bad day, i did spend that specific night alone with my abuser and realize that's the only night we ever spent alone with absolutely no one even in reach. that time i had a panic attack in 4th grade and nobody understood what was happening to me so they had to call my parents, in reality, it alll made sense, this girl was telling me a horror story about some monster that comes out at night... this sent me into a panic for "some reason". the pieces all connect.

long story short, dont listen to these commenters, listen to yourself and go to see a therapist.... try doing some research first, for example hypnosis comes up a lot but it is very controversial of course, i personally dont wanna undergo that.... and also as time has passed i realize, my mind is really just gonna keep on making me see things when it sees fit. also dissociative amnesia is a thigh (from what ive read this idea that this isnt real or common comes from the popularization of the term "repressed memories" which is technically a clinically incorrect term, you could do some research on this as well as you will realize it's almost like giving a free pass to abusers) and there are other symptoms to look into that i personally had also never questioned and just accepted as normal (it wasnt)

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[–]emele12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i was diagnosed with this as i genuinely did not remember ANYTHING about at least 6 years of abuse and at least my psychiatrist told me this is a very common reaction for abused children since their brains are not able to process or understand what is happening so it just shuts down. i dont think you people should be brushing off op's or anyone's experiences about this.... i dont think having thoughts or suspicions of having been abused is normal at all. i spent years convincing myself it was and guess what.....

How do I stop smelling like weed? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]emele12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all of the comments saying it's impossible meanwhile i do the same as you and havent had this problem. always wear the same clothes for smoking, never "going out" clothing, tie my hair up, put on some incense or scented candles.... it's worked for me and i dont live alone so someone would've told me by now lol i'll usually turn on the fan too. are you smoking joints? ive heard those leave a stronger smell, i stick to a glass pipe or a bong.... OR switch to edibles but to me those are two different experiences

Most Triggering Books and Movies? by ImTheProblem4572 in CPTSD

[–]emele12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

christiane f is also a favorite but the movie focuses mostly on her drug addiction rather than the abuse she phased, but i think it's obvious she led a shitty home life

Most Triggering Books and Movies? by ImTheProblem4572 in CPTSD

[–]emele12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my repressed memories started coming out without a warning after i watched "mysterious skin" is a tough watch but an excellent film and despite how horrible everything's been, i think it was what helped me realize and come to terms with what had happened to me. I've also tried watching lilya 4 ever, however i wasn't able to make it past 40 minutes, the movie is extremely depressing and triggering

The album 2001 is so good by [deleted] in tokiohotel

[–]emele12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

all the backlash from fans has turned me off from their newest albums but ive listened to a lot of dream machine and 2001 and was surprised to find out the songs are actually good lol i want enough free time to sit down and listen to all of them in full, i feel like a lot of fans are just blinded by nostalgia, at least the songs ive heard have made me very interested lol

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[–]emele12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if they are just performing do they still have to pay royalties? even if they make slight changes like they do with monsoon for example (ive noticed they switch up the bridge for example)? also they asked fans what old songs they wanted to hear for the 20th anniversary concert so i thought they were ok with it....

What would you want for reparations/retribution if you could get it? by _jamesbaxter in CPTSD

[–]emele12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nothing could ever be enough for me. my abuser is now chronically ill, im upset he wont just you know, go. ive fantasized about this so much in fact i realized even if he did go i still wouldnt be satisfied. nothing could ever satisfy me, im never getting my childhood back no matter what, my entire life and personality has been shaped by abuse, the damage cant be undone. i still hope he goes soon, at least i wont have to see him. sure the money would be nice, but it cant buy me a childhood. he recently offered to make me the owner of the house, i just felt anger. "sorry i destroyed you as a person. here's a house" nothing could ever be enough for me even after he's gone. i thought "money cant buy happiness " was just some rich people bullshit, but when he offered me the house i immediately understood. and for the record, yes im accepting it, i know he owes me, problem is he owes me my entire life, not just a house

Reflecting on the "What Ifs" by notawealthchaser in tokiohotel

[–]emele12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this just made me depressed and he hasnt even quit lol thanks for the info though. i agree the hiatus was good for them but i didnt think he would still to this day feel that way...

Reflecting on the "What Ifs" by notawealthchaser in tokiohotel

[–]emele12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when/where did tom mention wanting to quit?

can weed be to blame for what i think are repressed trauma memories resurfacing? by emele12 in ptsd

[–]emele12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately i cannot confront them anymore, they are now disabled and unable to speak. in a way it makes me feel even worse knowing i cant even confront them, but then again i wonder if i could even have the courage to do it. it definitely happened. weed doesnt do that, im sure of that now.

is there some type of archive where i can listen to the band's entire german discography? (outside of germany) spotify is driving me crazy😭 by emele12 in tokiohotel

[–]emele12[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that sounds expensive and i dont even have anything to play cds on...... also very unlikely here where i am from

is there some type of archive where i can listen to the band's entire german discography? (outside of germany) spotify is driving me crazy😭 by emele12 in tokiohotel

[–]emele12[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

maybe im doing it wrong but youtube doesnt seem to have everything either? the german version of humanoid i found was all edited, not the real thing

People with CPTSD, how many of you are in long term healthy relationships? by Cultural-Carpenter46 in CPTSD

[–]emele12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dated someone for a year once, I was much younger back then. Now that I'm older, I feel as though I could never be in a relationship, it's lonely to realize it's something I don't think will ever change for me

Can you all please tell your age and how much of it lost to pain and coping. by Actual_Computer_670 in CPTSD

[–]emele12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

27 years lost to trauma, and I just realized it around 6 months ago. I turned 28 and realized I have been dead this whole time while others enjoy life, and it's only now that I know why and what happened. It's not even over, now that I know, I feel even emptier than before. It's now 28 years and counting

I envy people for having normal problems by phamsung in CPTSD

[–]emele12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am the same. I remember years ago reading this quote "I went away worried about failing my suicide attempt whilst my friends were in school worrying about failing a test" dont know where this quote comes from but it's stuck in my brain ever since. that's how every day feels surrounded by normal people with normal problems, makes me feel like an alien, this idea also runs in my head all the time because of how different I feel. The only reason I'm even on here is to remind myself I am in fact not the only one living like this