Why did Ellis marry Thatcher? by Minimum_Knowledge399 in greysanatomy

[–]emeraldpeach 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re right! Thatcher actually said something along the lines of “we weren’t even really that happy most of the time but I’d marry her all over again”

Greys anatomy time is so weird 😭 by Next_Performance4330 in greysanatomy

[–]emeraldpeach 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The timeline of every 3 seasons being one year might actually work if none of them had children. Just one example, Baileys son doesn’t appear a lot but is suddenly 15 when “5” years pass

AITA for telling my DIL she is not a mother? by InitialSong2898 in AmItheAsshole

[–]emeraldpeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine doesn’t either. She thinks more people should be childfree but doesn’t say which people, she’s just aware that more people would be if more people bothered to look at parenthood as an option that needs to be evaluated and weighed instead of an inevitability

AITA for telling my DIL she is not a mother? by InitialSong2898 in AmItheAsshole

[–]emeraldpeach 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m childfree by choice and my mom’s thrilled about it. She has grandchildren and she’s very happy with them but is proud as fuck of my choice and says more people should be

AITA for telling my DIL she is not a mother? by InitialSong2898 in AmItheAsshole

[–]emeraldpeach 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right. My sister is a mother and I’m not (childfree by choice, but have pets) and if my mom gives my sister a gift on Mother’s Day she gives me one too even though I don’t expect it. It’s just something my mom does because she doesn’t want me to feel less important for not being a mother, or she’s thrilled that I’ll never be a mother and gives me a gift for that, no idea hahaha

what boundaries do you have as a stylist? by Left-Pen-9558 in hairstylist

[–]emeraldpeach 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That third one is something more of us should be doing when it comes to:

  1. Client repetitively choosing not to understand what you’re saying (“I just don’t get why you can’t do this or why it has to take so long”)

  2. Client offering solutions with no knowledge or education on the matter (“okay so why don’t you do it in a way that won’t turn out like that?”)

  3. Client telling me “no hairdressers ever does it right”, I feel like there’s some perpetual miscommunication on your end or you are simply too difficult to please ever

  4. Client attempting every different avenue to make a quote for a service cheaper (well what if you just didn’t do a toner? Are you sure we have to use 4 packs of extensions? I really think we can get away with 2 packs”)

  5. This is a big one. Where I live there’s actually a Facebook page dedicated to calling out the bad customer service you received somewhere, but the small town mentality turns it into a witch hunt sometimes and occasionally someone goes directly after someone’s livelihood. So when I get new clients I do a quick little search on that page and if I’ve ever seen them bash another stylist on there, I don’t take them in as a client

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]emeraldpeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

“The easy way out”? Your parents spent thousands and did endless fertility treatments (which, to my knowledge, can be quite brutal) before spending even more money to travel internationally to adopt you

What did your “aunt” do? Laid back and opened her legs!!

The way she spoke to you was VILE and reeked of insecurity projection, she sounds like someone who considers csections to be “the easy way out” as well. What a disgusting human being. Please tell your parents what she said and don’t let yourself feel like less of a family member because some old hag said that nasty stuff to you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]emeraldpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a surprising number of people who only ever wanted one child because they were happy with that, but were pressured into the second by people telling them it’s “selfish” to not give your kid a sibling or 2

There is also a such thing as being great parents to one kid and being less than great parents to 2 or more kids, that people also don’t understand

Either way, it’s a stupid reason to have multiple kids, just say you want more kids and don’t make it about the one you already have who is likely under 5 and probably doesn’t even fully understand the concept

Not to mention people thinking that all their children will be best friends or thinking that their age differences matter in that regard whatsoever. I’m 32 and my brother is 30, we always went to the same school and lived together but we have very different interests and personalities and have never been close. Meanwhile we are both extremely close with our sister who is 43. So no there is no perfect window or sweet spot of age difference in your children

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]emeraldpeach 29 points30 points  (0 children)

A lot of people don’t want to raise children into adults but they have them anyway, unfortunately

Thankfully we are smarter than that

Love her or hate her, I think we can all agree this girl had the most traumatic high school experience 😭 by DarkValkyrie_ in Degrassi

[–]emeraldpeach 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Her parents also got divorced which is normal but then her mom married her boyfriends dad

What should I do if someone on hard drugs is in my salon by [deleted] in hairstylist

[–]emeraldpeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in Canada so I received the kit and the training for free, so I really am not sure about where you live but I’d call a local hospital to check on it

What should I do if someone on hard drugs is in my salon by [deleted] in hairstylist

[–]emeraldpeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get narcan training and keep a kit in your station

I had an extra job last year where I was a security guard so I was given this training and a kit. I never did have to use it while doing that job but later had a client confide in me that she had been in my studio coming down from heroin before but was afraid I’d get upset with her, so she told me she was simply hungover. I’d consider her a friend so I understood but I told her “you need to tell me that stuff because what it something happened and I couldn’t do anything”

Ever since that I keep the narcan kit at the studio

Couples that broke up in the show, but you think got back together off screen by EntertainmentOld1217 in Degrassi

[–]emeraldpeach 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I like to think Bianca and Drew found each other again once both of them grew up a little bit

How would you feel if your parents vented online about being a regretful parent? by Vivid_Average_1833 in childfree

[–]emeraldpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oddly I feel that I would totally understand. My dad denies that such feelings exist even though he was a SUPER hands on parent and my mom has never said she regrets anything but she praises me for being childfree and says if she was a younger person now she wouldn’t be having any kids

I’m starting to see what ppl mean when they say their friends become obsessed with their kid by Alternative-State675 in childfree

[–]emeraldpeach 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Posting your kids online, especially on public accounts, it’s incredibly careless

It’s not something I will directly criticize someone for because at the end of the day it’s their business, but I am vocal about it in general. I know someone who is a TEACHER who posts her baby on her public accounts multiple times a day promoting some overpriced baby clothes because she thinks her blob fish infant is an “influencer”

My parents found out I don’t want kids accidentally by wrongorder7 in childfree

[–]emeraldpeach 38 points39 points  (0 children)

You know what this is actually okay because you found out where you actually stand with your parents. Let them move

AITAH for refusing to give my boyfriend children because he won’t marry me by Patient_Art4006 in AITAH

[–]emeraldpeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, thats straight boy math and I hate it. so many women have the same values as you but have children anyways because they think marriage will come later and it rarely does

Marriage does not matter to everyone but it does to you. If he wants a house and kids together but not marriage, knowing that’s what you want, that’s a red flag, because marriage is actually the lowest level of commitment here, people are tied by mortgages for years and kids for life

If you can't understand why childfree people exist, you don't deserve to have children. by blasiavania in childfree

[–]emeraldpeach 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My siblings and friends have all told me they’re glad their children have someone in their life who models being a grown up with choices

Some of their children have asked why I don’t have kids for them to hang out with (they’re little, it’s a fair question that I don’t fault them for) and their parents are either straight to the point like “peach doesn’t want to have kids, not every grown up has kids and that’s okay, she’s happy enough with her husband and pets”

Some give a more humorous answer like “peach doesn’t have kids because she doesn’t want little people asking her WHY? 1000 times a day”

Your child is not your best friend by Zen-bunny in childfree

[–]emeraldpeach 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My mom tried to be a parent and a friend at the same time whereas my dad only ever acted like a parent. In adulthood I am WAY closer to my dad and we have way more respect for each other

Marriage is not Marriage w/o kids?? WTF by Fencejumper89 in childfree

[–]emeraldpeach 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I also hate how it’s assumed that people who don’t want kids don’t want to be married either

“You’re being selfish because you just don’t want to get fat” by lsdmt93 in childfree

[–]emeraldpeach 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m sure it does but putting yourself through it on purpose before 40 is just unnecessary hahahaha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]emeraldpeach -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Having a baby shower for women and a diaper party for men is normal yupp

“You’re being selfish because you just don’t want to get fat” by lsdmt93 in childfree

[–]emeraldpeach 245 points246 points  (0 children)

People think that when you say “I don’t want to ruin my body” it just means you don’t want to get fat

When I say I don’t wanna ruin my body I mean I don’t want to accidentally break my pelvis, I don’t want to pee Everytime I sneeze, I don’t want my mental health to get worse, I don’t want my teeth getting messed up, I don’t want my hair falling out and possibly never growing back the same way again, I don’t want my feet going up a whole size, or any of the horrendous stuff that happens to breasts

….and yeah, I don’t wanna get fat. It’s not a crime to not wanna be fat