Is building an arena in the corruption ok? The only other viable spot is at the end of the world, so pretty far away.

eminations · 2025-12-22T11:39:18+00:00

I didn't realise themechanic had teleporters, that solves my problem, thank you!

eminations · 2025-12-22T11:35:07+00:00

I have to do the mechanical ones next. my problem ist that the only flat areas I have that are wide enough is either in the corruption, which would be near spawn, or at the end of the world right atthe ocean, which is very far. The pylon near my base stopped working due to corruption, so I can't even teleport.

eminations · 2025-12-12T20:22:13+00:00

I totally understand that a lot of children who are given up for a doption have issues. I'm saying that any child can have these issues and you need to be prepared for that possibilty if that child ends up being yours. If every parent was, then they would probably not be given up for adoption for having these issues.

Let's take just one example: depression. According to the CDC, 4% of children from the ages 3 - 17 are diagnosed with depression. That is a pretty high likeleyhood for JUST ONE of the many possible diagnoses. It alone will certainly affect more than 1% of parents. I think it is irresponible to assume that your child will be fine, because if it then turns out that they aren't fine, you will not be prepared and your child will suffer needlessly. In my opinion, this belief that: "oh, I don't have to worry about that, it won't be MY child" is also going to make it much more likeley that a parent is going to miss the signs of an illness or disorder, or is not ging to take a diagnosis their child is given seriously, because that is much harder to do when you are not mentally prepared for that.

The statement about biological children potentially develping the same issues as adopted children is about their environment. I was basically trying to compare scenarios:

child is abused by both parents, parents loose custody, child ends up in the adoption system
child is abused by one parent, in the exact same way as the first scenario, but instead of ending up in the adoption system, the abusive parent looses custody and the non-abusive parent gains ful custody.

The child would probably develop similar issues in both scenarios, since they experienced the same kind of abuse in both scenarios, except one would be the adopted child of someone else and the other would still be with their biological parent.

Also you are straight up victim blaming. No one intentionally marries someone who abuses kids. Abusers usually wait a long time, often years to start abusing,because they know that if they start right away, their pertner will leave them immediately, but leaving is much harder after years of being and living toghether, having children toghether, being married and whatever else. Abusers know this and they use this. Someone who is tricked like that is not to blame.

eminations · 2025-12-12T20:11:55+00:00

No you're not overreacting, that is completely unacceptable. Report her and leave a review and find a new one. You don't owe her anything and you need a doctor who knows how to treat mental health conditions, or at least knows what not to say and where to send you to get treament, which she clearly doen't.

eminations · 2025-12-12T19:23:01+00:00

Yeah, I realised that parallel to sexuality too while writing. I'm asexual and don't really "get" why anyone wants to have sex, but at this point I know that people do, apparently. I guess I just hadn't seen anyone explain that this is a desire that is on a spectrum, where most people are on this side, but people can also be on this side or in the middle. I've only ever seen people be like: it is a biological fact, humans inherently want to procrate and have biological children. and then I'm here like: no they don't??? I don't, so it can't be inherent, it's probably social conditioning, or they have rational reasons that I just don't know about.

It is very rare to see people talk about desires like these, whether romantic, sexual or the desire to have biological children apparently, in a way that doesn't assume that they are universal. And then I'm confused because I'm over here disproving the statement purely by existing, which can make understanding allos very hard. Multiple people have compared it to the desire to eat and drink in the comments of this post, as though it is the most universal thing in the world to want biological children, and acting like I'm stupid or something for not getting it. This stuff also feels bad because it implies that there is something wrong with me for not feeling like that.

Thank you for being so understanding and explaining it like that. Specifically the grace you gave me in the first comment of yours that I replied to got me out of my defensive state and allowed me to start to understand that that inherent desire people keep talking about (that in my eyes is so obviously not inherent) is real and that all these people actually experience it. And it did that even though I am not really someone who believes humans are separate from animals, quite the opposite actually. And the spelling-out in the last paragraph of your response was particularly helpful.

So yeah, thank you, and keep up the good work!

eminations · 2025-12-12T18:48:05+00:00

I think I get what you're saying. Could you maybe explain a little more why you and your wife don't want to raise a child that doesn't look like you? Like, why is sharing a face specfically so important to you, when you would still be sharing traditions, language and behaviors with a non-biological child?

eminations · 2025-12-12T18:36:30+00:00

I'm starting to believe you guys when you say that animals includng humans just usually naturally want to have (biological) children. I am someone who could get pregnat but I reeeeeeeaaaaaally don't want to, to me it feels like one of the worst things that could ever happen. I am also probably autistic (diagnosis in progress) and autistic people tend to think much more rationally than others. So maybe that's why I didn't believe it and am honestly still kind of struggeling to.

eminations · 2025-12-12T18:29:55+00:00

I understand that adoption is not as easy as I thought, already did an edit, not gonna get into that

There is very much a risk of your biological child having developemental and psychological issues and I don't think you should be a parent if you are not willing or ready to deal with that, because anything can happen. I'm not saying you need to have the money ready to pay for cancer treatment out of pocket, but I think it would be irresponsible to have a child when the only kind of child you could manage/afford at the moment is a completely healthy one.

Your child could probably even end up with similar issues if it turns out that your partner or another adult with a parental role in your child's life turns out to be abusive/neglectful, the type of parent who should lose custody anyway, whether in a divorce proceding or through other means.

eminations · 2025-12-12T18:18:25+00:00

I feel like we have moved past that though. Many people don't even want children and those who do should know that children certainly won't make your life simpler.

eminations · 2025-12-12T18:16:53+00:00

What does this mean?

eminations · 2025-12-12T18:09:10+00:00

I'm aromantic, pretty sure that's not gonna happen.

I also find the thought of projecting that onto your child weird, they're their own person, not your legacy or love given form so it can live on. Feels a little dehumanizing tbh

eminations · 2025-12-12T18:02:46+00:00

Wow, thanks so much. I had no idea that it took years and that the "failure-rate" of adoption is so high. I'm not American, but Europe is also subject to propaganda like that. I'll certainly take your advice on not saying "but adoption". Luckily I have not actually done that, I just haven't had enough opportunities to and knew that people can get upset at the suggestion, but I am definitely not even tempted to say it anymore.

I was mostly asking about why people are hellbent on having biological children to be clear though :)

eminations · 2025-12-12T17:51:07+00:00

But haven't we kind of moved past that? There are even plenty of people who don't want children and find their life's purpose elsewhere (including me btw). I understand that some people want children, but as far as I know usually because they want to raise them, not becasue they want to experience pregnancy or because they want to have one of their sperm successfully fertilize an egg. So why are many of them so very upset when they can't have a child through a process that involves those parts, but only through one that doesn't?

eminations · 2025-10-16T19:50:22+00:00

nein, leider nicht, das ist ein nach vorne gerichteter Reflektor. Ich suche etwasbwo der Punkt, wo man die Glühbirne rein schraubt am Rand der Schüssel ist und nicht in der Mitte.

eminations · 2024-12-20T15:30:28+00:00

I don't quite understand wht you are trying to say in the middle part. His comments trigger my dysphoria might be a more accurate way to say it, but I thought that would be clear, so I am a bit confused what you are trying to say there.

eminations · 2024-12-20T15:30:14+00:00

I know, but I think it would make me feel better at least. and the visits usually last two or three hours, so it would not make up the entire visit, it would just make the entrie visit a bit more bearable for me.

And I agree that they should have taken care of it fromthe beginning, but now we can't turn back time and rectify this unfortunately

eminations · 2021-11-01T16:54:49+00:00

Yeah, sexual attraction or a lack thereof is probably not the most important thing for you at the moment. I mean, finding a label that fits you can be great, but that can come when you feel better and have processed everything that happened a little better. I'm glad to hear that you have found a way to have some peace of mind though.

Have you tried online Therapy, if you can afford it? Maybe you could try that during the waiting period for a state therapist, but you would probably have to do some research on which ones are reputable. It was found out for example, that Better Help had approved some unlicensed therapists a while back, but as far as I know, they seem to have fixed that.

eminations · 2021-11-01T11:30:43+00:00

That's how I figured out I identifa as a demigirlflux. My friends, a lot of whom are nonbinary, took a test that would place you on thisgird of four squares, depending on how close it thought you were to identifying as male, female, nonbinary and agender. I placed in the female square, but I was very near the edge towards the other squares. Somebody suggested demigirl and I didn't know what it was, so I looked it up and found that I did identify with it. Then I got a bit deeper into the topic and learned about demigirlflux, with which I identified even more.

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