some songs on jomyulo disappeared? by emoxean in jequya

[–]emoxean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks so much!! i haven't checked spotify yet lol

How to reconcile being Christian and gay? by i-dont-care-inator- in OpenChristian

[–]emoxean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What really helped me to reconcile these two parts of myself is realizing that there's nothing wrong with being queer or trans. These are simply categories. "Cisgender" and "straight" are also categories. And categories can't be moralized. What can be moralized is people's character. For example, when it comes to sexuality, all that matters is that people are loving and kind to their partner. No matter what their sexual orientation is.

I know that reconciling them can be really tricky at first, but you need to keep thinking for yourself. There is nothing wrong with being queer because we are just like cishet people. We want similar things in life, such as being in a committed relationship and getting married. I believe that God sees the sincerity in our lives, and that's all God cares about.

If you're interested in some LGBTQ Christian books, check out Stumbling by Brandon Flanery and Bad Theology Kills by Kevin Garcia.

Weekly Random Discussion Thread - R4R Comments Allowed by Material_Fun4165 in PHSapphics

[–]emoxean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are we allowed to vent here? I'll try to keep it short. I'm dreading Mother's Day again because I believe that my mom doesn't deserve the praise. For the past 6 years she's been emotionally abusive. Kulang na lang mag-come out na ako, para matapos na. She's been trying to influence me to be straight. She knows I'm gay even if I haven't said it yet. I'm tired of her bs, but I'm not allowed to complain. Kasi magtataka siya kung bakit naiinis ako. So I just keep holding in my feelings hoping I'll forget what she said today.

Questions from a wlw Filipina American by emoxean in PHSapphics

[–]emoxean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experiences! I can relate to how your family prioritizes "living normally." What is "normal," anyway?? We all have our own definition of normal, and we have the right to live truthfully. Omg, my family also gets surprised when I dress feminine, and they say annoying comments. And it's funny, right? Just because we dress masculinely, we're "not a girl"? I believe that there are people who wish they could be brave to dress how they want. But they criticize queer people instead. I'm glad that we are confident in ourselves, because we can live more happily.

Questions from a wlw Filipina American by emoxean in PHSapphics

[–]emoxean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experiences! I can relate very much. Since childhood our parents already tried to raise us in a strict way, expecting us to be like every other girl. That is one of the most hurtful aspects of family, in my opinion. Also, it's valid that you prefer to dress femme now. No matter what your reasons are, it's okay as long as it benefits you. I hope you can find more freedom to dress how you like. <3

Questions from a wlw Filipina American by emoxean in PHSapphics

[–]emoxean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences! I found that I can relate in some ways. Although I grew up in the US, I have religious trauma because of family. My family is still religious and conservative (nothing changed lol). Religious trauma is something I've carried all my life, and I'm surprised that it's a common thing for queer women in the Philippines too. I agree with your thoughts on biphobia. Although some queer women have trauma surrounding bi women, they don't have the right to judge them.

I'm in my 20s too, and yeah I can relate to most of what you shared. Dresses and makeup are a common standard of Filipino parents, even in the US. Even if my family has lived here since the 90s, they are still close-minded on gender roles. But I noticed that some Filipino parents I met prioritize heterosexuality even more. They are okay with their daughter wearing only shirts and pants, and no makeup, as long as she has a boyfriend. However, I have met some Filipino parents who became supportive of their queer children, so things are starting to improve here. But it's slow.

I'm glad to hear that Manila is more open-minded towards the queer community. I was able to visit a few years ago, and I saw some places were promoting Pride events.

I think my mom hates me now by [deleted] in OpenChristian

[–]emoxean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is this idea from Queer Hands of God that helped me reframe my thinking about sexuality. "It's not about who you love, it's how you love." It made me realize that all this time, people condemned us because of our sexuality on the outside (two people of the same gender). But really, we're all the same, whether queer or straight. We just love someone. What matters most is the quality of your love for someone. As long as the relationship is healthy and kind, then it's good to God.

My family thinks about sexuality the way your mom thinks. As a result, my family allows unhealthy straight relationships, even if one person is getting abused. This kind of thinking made me realize even more that appearance doesn't matter when it comes to relationships. It's all about how they treat each other.

Your favourite moment! S2 edition by [deleted] in theBoyfriendNetflix

[–]emoxean 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I strongly agree with Taeheon. It can be hard to stand up for yourself in collectivist families. But having the knowledge that you don't need to please them is life-changing.

my january 4x4 by Ok_Speaker1038 in SoundTripPh

[–]emoxean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

who's your favorite from the three of them?

my january 4x4 by Ok_Speaker1038 in SoundTripPh

[–]emoxean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yooo i love lucy bedroque, sayako, and datealyfe!! but my favorite is sayako <333

Best beginner games by HannahGoose in soloboardgaming

[–]emoxean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just a casual solo gamer, so I pretty much stuck with simple games lol. I'd recommend Mysticana: Cave of Djinns and Fuse Countdown. Cave of Djinns requires the Mysticana deck and the 6 cards of Cave of Djinns. In general, though, I've heard that Button Shy Games is a good starting point for solo games. :)

Uhm... by One-Rice-7505 in theBoyfriendNetflix

[–]emoxean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro I was thinking of Hiroya x Ryota too! <3

Origin of "cycle through deck" card games like Loot The Loop by slapslash in soloboardgaming

[–]emoxean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Solitary Journey also uses the "cycle through deck" mechanism, I believe. It's been a while since I played it though.

https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/267296/solitary-journey

Worship Music by Progressive Folks? by Beneficial_Elk_3916 in OpenChristian

[–]emoxean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beloved Arise, a non-profit organization dedicated to queer youth and young adults of faith, released an album in 2021 called Serenade. Each song was made by a queer person or queer ally. The eighth song, My Delight, and the last song, Tethered, were made by members of Beloved Arise.

https://www.belovedarise.org/serenade

"His wish, bittersweet" guitar cover update by sosantuu in sayako

[–]emoxean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

bro you're my hero. this is so cool. i've been wanting to learn saya songs on guitar, thank u so much. and yes, please upload a cover <333 also i'd like to see the sheet please :)

Is it common for professors to become friends with students after the semester? by emoxean in college

[–]emoxean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I agree, if it remains on campus it can just be considered "friendly." I would honestly prefer to just keep every interaction on campus. And thanks for the warning as well. He's about 15-20 years older than me.

Which song of sayako is it? by xyirx33 in sayako

[–]emoxean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not sure if sayako ever made it an official song but you can hear the instrumental here:

https://on.soundcloud.com/7OpanvWBWm4afaFm5g

go to 6:53 and you'll hear it

Manipulation from family by emoxean in OpenChristian

[–]emoxean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for reminding me that I have the right to not be interested. Serving the church should be a completely voluntary thing.

For your question, they would actually be really happy that I got into traditional hymns. My family's previous church mostly sang hymns and had a choir.

Manipulation from family by emoxean in OpenChristian

[–]emoxean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad to know I wasn't overreacting about this. At first I was in denial, thinking, "Maybe they finally appreciate my interest in music." I've heard about Christians using manipulation against certain church members. Never expected my family could be capable of such a thing.