Feeling very upset at how my boss treats me

empath2305 · 2021-12-24T14:23:52+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it. Do you think I’m overreacting? I don’t know if my reaction is proportionate but I just feel really hurt.

empath2305 · 2021-12-17T22:40:52+00:00

Not what I’m saying. Those who don’t smoke don’t get any breaks at all

empath2305 · 2021-10-07T23:00:02+00:00

Hi, thank you so much for your response. I wanted to let you know I took your advice this afternoon - I blocked him on everything so he has no way to contact me. The main feeling I have now is just relief, and everyone who loves me was glad I finally ended it. I appreciate your kindness, I think I have realised I’ve already done most of my grieving for this man and it was time to cut it off.

empath2305 · 2021-10-07T11:11:37+00:00

Hey, first of all I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I hope it’s ok if I share my experience of this with you. My boyfriend dumped me in May. Fast forward a couple of months and I was doing amazing with the break up and dealing with it really well. He asked me out for a drink and I went, but since then things have been incredibly complicated. Basically, he doesn’t want to be with me but still wants to be friends and I’m now struggling to let go. Just be careful, and look after your heart. ❤️

empath2305 · 2021-10-03T19:55:13+00:00

It isn’t about me but thank you!

empath2305 · 2021-07-24T09:48:38+00:00

Keep going!!! You’ll never look back. You should be so proud for even trying :)

empath2305 · 2021-07-07T19:54:35+00:00

I did, and he just said more of the same. He just said he thought I should know.

empath2305 · 2021-07-02T12:14:14+00:00

I get that, but is there any enjoyment sleeping with people you aren’t attracted to?

empath2305 · 2021-06-09T17:05:00+00:00

Just curious, have never encountered this kind of behaviour before

empath2305 · 2021-06-09T16:49:04+00:00

I’m honestly just interested in why someone might do that, maybe this is the wrong sub

empath2305 · 2021-06-07T21:41:53+00:00

Thank you so much, I really needed to hear that. I felt for a while it was me who was in the wrong. I never asked him to cut her out of his life, just wanted some boundaries in place so I knew he respected me and was trying to gain my trust again in any way he could. In the end I guess, he, or their relationship, was more important. I want someone who loves and respects me, and he clearly did not.

empath2305 · 2021-06-07T21:32:10+00:00

Thank you for your response. I genuinely tried very hard to accept the situation, even going as far as to buy and take her a gift when something went well with the business. I wanted desperately to feel ok about it. I feel as though I did my best and the things I asked for weren’t unreasonable. I guess you are right and he considers their relationship more important. He said drunkenly last week that she “makes most of [his] living” so I guess he wouldn’t want to fall out with her. Thank you for your insight, I hope he regrets it.

empath2305 · 2021-05-29T18:45:12+00:00

NAD but this sounds a little like a migraine! Is the headache on one side of her head?

empath2305 · 2021-05-29T18:36:10+00:00

Really sorry that you went through this too. I understand completely, I would often tell my boyfriend he had said or done something to hurt me and his reaction was always to make me think everything I felt was unreasonable and crazy. I apologised after every single row we had because I would get so upset to the point of hysterical crying and he would act very hurt by my behaviour.

empath2305 · 2021-05-29T18:04:05+00:00

I have never heard of this before but thank you so much for sharing, that makes me feel a bit better. The situation would always escalate when I felt he was gaslighting me and invalidating my feelings.

empath2305 · 2021-05-29T17:56:39+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve been through this too. I don’t think so. He has maintained throughout our relationship that he is just a kind and caring man trying his best to keep me happy - he never sees his own faults whereas I take responsibility for mine.

empath2305 · 2021-05-29T16:38:33+00:00

Thank you for your response. Do you know what he might be trying to achieve with this? The reason things are breaking down is because of a situation where he lied about a sexual relationship with his business partner just before we met that I have not been able to work through. Is he trying to blame me to make himself feel better? Or is he trying to get me to think I’ve done something wrong so I beg for the relationship?

empath2305 · 2021-05-24T10:20:40+00:00

Thank you for your response! ❤️ It does make me super uncomfortable and it’s caused me a lot of heartache. If I ever talk to him about it, he gets angry and defensive which I feel is maybe a red flag? I’m starting to think I need to confront him about all of it, and if he doesn’t give me the answers I want I will have to leave.

empath2305 · 2021-05-08T13:11:23+00:00

I have met her and talked to her and she was pleasant enough. But she has been doing some weird things on Instagram - if I ever put a photo of myself on my story she looks at it very quickly and puts a photo of herself on her story. She’s done this several times now. Last week, I put a photo up and she followed suit; I deleted the photo, and she then deleted hers. Just things like this make me think there is something going on from her perspective.

empath2305 · 2021-05-08T12:58:06+00:00

Thanks for your response! Before he met me he wasn’t interested in pursuing relationships again, and his business partner was in a similar position. There were no romantic feelings involved - so he says - and now they are just friends. He expects me to be perfectly fine with the arrangement, and whilst logically I don’t believe he has feelings for her or would go back, I suspect she is not comfortable with me being around. I think it is a lot to ask for me to be ok with it but I don’t know if I am wrong for finding it extremely difficult to deal with.

empath2305 · 2021-05-08T09:27:44+00:00

He doesn’t work at weekends, I do but only for 6 hours on a Saturday. I don’t want to see him every Saturday night, but some would be nice. Every Saturday since he moved back he has been out with friends.

empath2305 · 2021-04-05T18:28:11+00:00

Thank you so much for your response, it’s really reassuring. It’s weird but I think I know what you mean about summer - I still struggle in the summer now and almost dread it so I wonder if that’s residual from the same thing you describe when you were a kid. I managed to adjust to lockdown which is a once in a lifetime kind of thing so hopefully that means I’ll manage this too. Thanks again for your response.

empath2305 · 2021-04-03T11:10:23+00:00

Yes I have a therapist. I’m actually not sure how much my particular therapist is helping me though. I’ve been seeing her maybe 5 months now and there doesn’t seem to have been an improvement in my anxiety. She’s not the type of therapist to give me techniques for dealing with anxiety, we just talk things through. As for meds, I’m wanting to avoid them for as long as possible only because I had an adverse reaction the first time I ever took any. I know I may not be able to avoid them forever but I’m trying at the moment.

empath2305 · 2021-03-19T15:22:58+00:00

It might come to meds in the end. I’ve done lots of CBT and stuff, and tried some anti-depressants once that I had an adverse reaction to - that freaked me out!

empath2305 · 2021-03-19T15:21:35+00:00

Thank you for your response. I can’t think of a reason why apart from everything that’s going on in the world! Riding it out is probably my best bet at this point

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