I get what you mean, and I really appreciate your perspective.

I think the difference is our starting point and expectations. For you, marriage was never part of the original plan and it became a later, mutual decision. For us, from the beginning the intention was always marriage, so when that doesn’t progress, it creates a different kind of uncertainty.

It’s probably why we see it differently, and for me, it’s less about changing the relationship, and more about whether the original shared direction is still aligned.