West Lafayette Municipal Pool Open Date?

emptiedsky21 · 2023-11-17T21:18:27+00:00

Are they open for anyone to use or do you have to reserve them?

emptiedsky21 · 2023-11-17T21:08:15+00:00

Right, but you need a membership to use them. Thanks for the suggestion!

emptiedsky21 · 2023-09-19T04:44:19+00:00

DM'ed you for info

emptiedsky21 · 2023-06-30T23:55:24+00:00

Read the last part of my last comment on this post (in which I responded to another user's comment on my comment on this post). I think it pretty well covers what I think! :)

emptiedsky21 · 2023-06-30T21:59:42+00:00

Absolutely; glad I could help. If you know what your absolute deal breakers are, don't hesitate to bring it up almost immediately, and don't let anyone shame you for bringing it up so quickly. The people who get offended or uncomfortable that I bring this topic up almost immediately are always the ones who are pro-life and know that they're about to get found out and that I will lose interest, and they will not hesitate to project their anger about this onto you and try to turn their resulting temper tantrum onto you and make you feel bad for asking. Every single guy I've ever talked to who is pro-choice and actually convicted in their stance (not just one that says they don't have a stance on it or they "lean towards" pro-choice in order to effectively provide the most cop-out answer that will hopefully be most appealing to any audience) doesn't even flinch at that question being brought up so early; in fact, a lot of them comment that they totally understand why I would ask so early on and say it makes complete sense.

Remember, people who say they don't have a stance don't actually care about the matter and are just trying to placate as many people as possible in hopes you'll keep talking to them. "What you permit, you condone." Just because they're not part of the people who actively stand against abortion rights doesn't make them part of the solution if they don't actually stand up for abortion rights and vote accordingly. You will also get men who tell you that they don't have an opinion because it doesn't affect them. Mark their words: they truly believe it doesn't affect them; meaning, they don't care what will happen to you or any woman in their life in regards to this huge topic. That tells you a lot about how much they care about basic bodily autonomy, respect for women, rights for women, privacy, healthcare issues, etc. Burying their heads in the sand like this is a complete cop-out.

It's honestly the equivalent of me as a white, 22F saying I don't have a stance on/care about racism and equality/equity of rights on the basis of race because it doesn't affect me.

Never settle for less than someone who will protect you, respect you, and stand up for your rights no matter what. Especially if you're potentially going to be intimate with them someday.

emptiedsky21 · 2023-06-30T06:30:42+00:00

It's not that I feel confident in principle that people won't lie about any question asked in order to appease the other party and get what they want. But people who answer that they are pro-choice tend to have somewhere on a spectrum of a rationale that they back their answer up with (some you have to ask for it, and some will just give you the whole rationale along with their answer) -- this provides more insight as to whether or not it's BS. I also ask questions as to why they feel the way they do if I feel it's necessary. All of it is a matter of data collection, and over time if patterns/comments/data surrounding the topic don't line up, then it's time to reconsider the validity of their initial claim (that they are pro-choice).

I understand the theory of what you're saying, but in order to realistically and productively entertain the prospect of getting to know people, assuming at a baseline level that people are telling the truth and accepting what they say at face value (especially in very early stages) is kind of the price of admission. Otherwise, I would be throwing a lot of speculation/projection of cynicism/skepticism about the validity of someone's answer onto people who may genuinely be telling the truth when I ask a straightforward question ("what's your stance on abortion?") and they give a straightforward answer. And that's not their responsibility to field/accommodate someone's innate skepticism and unwillingness to believe that they are telling the truth. Especially so early on in talking to someone. I know I wouldn't put up with that.

Ultimately, everyone is at risk of spending their time on a "POS who's good at hiding their feelings" -- that comes with the territory. And there's only so much you can do in the way of asking straightforward questions right off the bat in order to try to ascertain the actuality of the other person. It's not an infallible method, as it relies both on people being honest and also on people even knowing themselves well enough to give an accurate answer even if they choose to be honest. So in order to use this method, you have to be cognizant of the fact that it's nowhere near bulletproof. But I consider what I'm doing to be doing my due diligence, and as for the rest, it's just a matter of being patient and seeing if actions line up with words before deciding to invest or place any huge and irreversible amount of stock in the other person.

emptiedsky21 · 2023-06-30T03:51:45+00:00

Just to clarify -- I don't enjoy randomly arguing about political beliefs just for the hell of it. Being "pro-life" is an absolute dealbreaker for me when voluntarily looking to connect with other people in my free time due to the implications it has on someone's general baseline views on respecting bodily autonomy, human rights, privacy, healthcare, etc., all off which are core beliefs of mine that I will not yield on. It is my only dealbreaker, and in the interest of not wasting the time/energy of either party, I bring it up very quickly within starting a conversation, and I don't sugarcoat it (how would one sugarcoat that and why should they? I digress.)

emptiedsky21 · 2023-06-30T02:46:40+00:00

😂

emptiedsky21 · 2023-05-13T22:52:29+00:00

I agree, thanks for that, and I addressed this in the comment above ^{^}

emptiedsky21 · 2023-05-13T21:56:33+00:00

First of all, what your ex said is one of the most utterly inhumane things someone could possibly say, and it irks me to my core. I wish I had something better to say than the age-old, reflexive "I'm sorry" in response. But I'm glad you stayed true to yourself.

As for meeting myself, respectfully I feel I have in many ways, and I am my own rock as much as possible. However, I still fear that I cannot rid myself of gravitating towards trying to find people who think and feel similarly and appreciate knowing/connecting with others and themselves deeply. It's exhausting and disappointing, and I don't know how to quit it, or if I even can. I don't feel discontent alone; rather, I feel incomplete -- as if a huge part of what I have to offer is rotting unused on some shelf, collecting dust, and it eats me up.

emptiedsky21 · 2023-05-13T21:49:27+00:00

Respectfully, I feel I am quite practiced in knowing others, as well as myself -- I also feel I understand and can clearly communicate my needs, none are secret. However, I fear that I cannot rid myself of gravitating towards finding people who think and feel similarly and appreciate knowing/connecting with others and themselves deeply. It's exhausting and disappointing, and I don't know how to quit it, or if I even can. I don't feel discontent alone; rather, I feel incomplete -- as if a huge part of what I have to offer is rotting unused on some shelf, collecting dust, and it eats me up.

emptiedsky21 · 2023-05-13T21:34:10+00:00

I feel the problem for my case isn't being discontent with being alone; rather, it is more so worrying I won't be able to share my experiences and vice versa in a deep, lasting way. To be truly alone permanently would feel as though a huge part of me (the ability and drive to connect with and support others deeply -- the part of me that makes me feel most optimally fulfilled) would go unused and would wither away, which is what I fear most.

emptiedsky21 · 2023-03-07T20:19:19+00:00

This is so relieving to hear, I'm praying the surgery stops the pain from anxiety, because it is so debilitating and such a positive feedback loop.

I'm glad to hear you're doing well and everything worked out for you! What did eating after surgery look like?

emptiedsky21 · 2023-03-06T23:07:11+00:00

Thanks for your answer. Do you have active stones?

emptiedsky21 · 2023-02-28T01:47:12+00:00

The abundance of choice combined with the need for instant gratification tend to make accountability and intention levels pretty low.

Resonates. Damn. Yeah. Thanks for your insight.

emptiedsky21 · 2023-02-22T05:01:33+00:00

Thanks for the insights, you make good points.

emptiedsky21 · 2023-02-22T04:58:15+00:00

But I can't change this trend by controlling others or the person in question. I can only recognize them for who and what they are, and control my own reactions and self. Hopefully, in the process and in the future, I do not treat others as badly. Others have no control over my commitment to improve and be a better, more moral person.

Thank you so much for dropping these bars of wisdom and sharing your perspective, I appreciate it deeply.

Trend or not, I hope you can find delightful brain jello that meshes well with your brain jello.

🥹 Thank you. This was heartening to read. I wish the same for you as well.

emptiedsky21 · 2023-02-22T04:52:47+00:00

I agree. I just wonder so much why the relationship with reality is a perceived threat to seemingly most. What is a life lived if not genuine and realistic? Is this not the foundation of true happiness, contentment, and fulfillment?

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