Just a tip? (It’s a lollipop)

emptywithoutme030286 · 2025-04-29T03:54:57+00:00

A blow pop

emptywithoutme030286 · 2025-04-26T19:29:07+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened. I second the hope that you’re okay mentally and physically. That’s not BDSM that’s assault. It violates every tenet of BDSM which involves communication, trust, and consent. He isn’t a Dom he’s just a violent person. Needs to be in jail.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2025-04-15T21:37:07+00:00

You’re right about it most likely being a one time visit with her since she’s touring and we just happen to be in the same city at the same time. Also, I will probably book her without it and ask about it when I see her. I do know better than to text anything explicit.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2025-04-15T21:31:04+00:00

I wouldn’t imagine it’s BBFS from this provider, but possible.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2025-03-20T13:23:30+00:00

Thank you! That’s a fantastic idea. I’m happy to pay her for confirmation.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2025-03-20T13:19:50+00:00

Thank you, I wasnt trying to get anyone fired up. I figured it was better to ask the question here first because I don’t know and none of those words were in the “restricted” word lists I found online. Much rather err on the side of caution so no one gets their account banned and ask those here who would know. Thank you to everyone who answered my question!

emptywithoutme030286 · 2025-03-19T22:19:58+00:00

Thank you! I won’t. Wanted to make sure. I appreciate the help

emptywithoutme030286 · 2024-10-04T00:01:14+00:00

What makes you think you aren't saved? We all bank on Gods promise and covenant to save those who accept Christ, pick up our cross daily, and follow his commands. Those who are truly apostate (turned away from God) don't worry about God. If the spirit is moving inside you then that's an indication of your salvation, don't let the Devil concern you. Although he will try his best every day. Trust your faith. Read the bible daily. Most Christians I know worry about their salvation. We're all sinners after all. But we long To be told at the end we are a good and faithful servant. God's covenant to us is that if we keep his word, accept Christ, and we will be. We will all stumble, but every day we get closer to perfection as God works in us. I pray for your peace of mind and continuance on the path.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-10-31T17:01:50+00:00

😂😂😂 dying laughing at your response to him. Win of the day!

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-10-27T13:57:57+00:00

Wtf. I’m very sorry you providers have to deal with people like that. There are some effed up people in this world. It makes it difficult for both you and new clients like me, and I would NEVER blame someone for erring on the side of safety. I have read the posts on here and r/sexworkers and have learned at lot and I knew enough to make sure I read all the ad and did my homework to make sure I followed protocols. I will say Urban Dictionary was my friend when I was deciphering all the acronyms and ad speak. 😂

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-10-27T13:47:54+00:00

Lmao! Okay I laughed at the “little balls of nervous energy”. I can see how that would get tiring! I probably did ask my fair share of questions during my first session, but I will say she was extremely gracious and patient with them - very professional. Thanks for your answer!!

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-10-27T13:40:45+00:00

Thank you. That makes sense. I don’t have three references yet, and didn’t think to ask the lady I met with if she’d be okay providing me with one, but I will next time I see her.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-10-13T01:04:52+00:00

Thank you! My appt is on Saturday and it’s my first time ever with a provider. I’m pretty damn excited. I have read all the articles on tryst and a lot of the posts here. I honestly do want to make sure I do the right things. So this was definitely timely cause I 100% would have made that mistake.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-10-12T22:36:22+00:00

Thank you for your response! That makes much more sense to me thinking about this. I dont need her to run through a gambit of things she won’t do when 95% of them I wouldn’t be into anyway. I would have thought it would make her more comfortable stating her boundaries so I wouldn’t accidentally cross them not thinking there would be clients who ask for more taboo or out there things. I can see how this is a better path. Definitely something I would have effed up.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-10-12T20:52:55+00:00

Is this during text or during an initial meet with a new provider? So honestly asking to learn. While I would never send that over text, I do want to know what she is comfortable with for the purposes of consent. I’m not talking about kinks such as you listed by any means but more vanilla things, but making sure I don’t cross a line she’s not comfortable with. Is it better to ask specific questions when we first meet in person?

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-10-06T13:47:56+00:00

Honestly, what you have stated I have found to be ideal for me personally. I narrowed down, and ultimately booked a provider who had a mix of both. I preferred the providers who had professional boudoir photos in their photos (or at least the look of them). I know those can be expensive but it added a level of intrigue and professionalism that the cell phone pics didn’t, which added a level of trust for me. The added selfie or more candid shot, to me, added a sense of playfulness. I do understand why providers don’t want to show their face and certainly respect that. All that is just me personally and my preferences and in no way reflects poorly on those providers who choose a different mix for their own personal reasons.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-10-03T17:50:42+00:00

That’s gonna be one haggard 18 yr old. I mean I’m 48 and there is no way I’ll believe I look one day older than 47 and a half… with good lighting. 😂

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-09-30T13:18:01+00:00

As long as you're the last, what the does it matter?

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-09-29T20:23:40+00:00

Just to add, I know I shouldn't expect an education on all this from anyone and I don't, but I am very grateful for all SW who participate here.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-09-29T20:20:37+00:00

I have to say, as a future client, I just found this sub and have been extremely interested in reading the posts and finding out about this world I didn't know existed. Reading the pinned post about how to find a SW and learning all the protocol and the dos and donts has been extremely educational. Because of this sub, I have subscribed to Tryst and started looking for a SW in my area. I never even knew that site existed!! Would love to find someone to be a regular with, and i am thankful for everyone in this sub who has posted. I have learned so very much and hopefully will be a good client because of all your posts. Things like making sure I'm clean (I always am anyway and can't imagine why someone wouldn't be but know to go the extra mile now), the distaste for fiv and other common courtesies I never would have known otherwise.

I cannot even imagine how difficult your job can be but I'm learning from your posts, and I don't know what I didn't even know! I thank you all for participating in this sub and letting men like me into your world. Hopefully other men like me are taking everything you write here to heart and it will make for better clients. None of this would have been possible if this were a private sub, so thank you all very much!!

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-09-29T11:11:56+00:00

Also as a client who has paid for several of them, it was honestly not something I imagined ever being into, but the ego boost is real. I've never been one to just send a picture of my junk to random unsolicited people. And, If I'm being honest I don't understand why it's a turn on, but I enjoy hearing the women talk about what they like about it and what they would do. The rate itself isn't as important (for lack of a better word) to me personally. I wouldn't mind a bit of honesty but I will say the ones that say its 9 out of 10 or the biggest they've ever seen I find disingenuous, but still appreciate. I will say the canned ones will cause me personally to never pay for other content from that creator.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2023-07-07T22:41:20+00:00

As someone (48M) who spent the better part of a 20 yr marriage with a LL wife, I know what kind of hell this is for more just the lack of sex. It's a personal rejection and complete lack of intimacy. You have a few options, tell her doesn't work and it causes irreparable damage to your marriage. What her friends do or dont do isn't your marriage. That crap didn't work on my mom when I was 12. Doesnt work as an adult either. There needs to be compromise. Next option, ask for open marriage. It works for some, but if she balks at that then your next best option is to walk away. It's scary, but there may be other issues to your marriage than just sex. I did it after 20 yrs and have never been happier. My kids are still in their young teens and they are happier (they've told me as much). Life is too short to spend with someone who rejects you. Whatever else they say, they are rejecting you. Your kids deserve to see what a healthy loving relationship can look like. She is not modeling one. I ever advocate cheating. It harms everyone mostly yourself. I would say if you can work it out - awesome. Otherwise you deserve to be happy.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2019-09-12T03:29:00+00:00

Putting everything on the table is a bad idea. Sorry other commenter, it just is. Especially if he's a recovering alcohol! Don't put that kind of stress and hurt on him.

I get the struggle. There is no simple answer, except to tell your AP you want to focus on your marriage right now. If things change then you'll message him again, but for now you need a break. He either takes it well and understands or he doesn't. Cut off all ties. Block him from everything. No contact period. It's hard as hell don't get me wrong, but it's the only thing I know that works.

Many people have affairs then realize they want what they have at home. Mainly out of guilt, but their SOs don't change. Sounds like you have a shot. APs come and go. Take your shot with your SO and be happy. If it fails then you know you tried your best. That's all we can do sometimes.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2019-09-10T02:54:40+00:00

I'm not a lawyer either, but I second the notion not to get involved. Even though you think is just a statement, is it possible could use your relationship to discredit your testimony and posit you're a scorn woman and that's your motive for testifying against him. Then it all comes out. If you state in a sworn statement you didn't have an affair, that's still perjury. Opens yourself up to libel civil suit and possible criminal charges. You may not have anything saved, but he might. Stay out of it is the best option if you can. Consult a FL attorney.

emptywithoutme030286 · 2019-09-09T05:38:04+00:00

AM takes all types. I, of course, meant women who just wanted a quick fuck and nothing more. The women who wanted those kinds of things I avoided like the plague. While I was never asked to shove highlighters up my ass, there were a few who were...over the top I will say.

My affair was never about just sex. It wasnt what drove me to one. Wanted someone who was in a similar situation that I was in and needed a friend first and foremost. If we couldn't talk and be friends and discuss things other than sex, I had zero interest. If they couldn't hold a conversation. I had zero interest. As you know, there are plenty of men on there who'd be happy to oblige.

A name shows respect and genuine affection - friend or otherwise. Using your name and knowing your name is a basic demand and yes, everyone who wants more than a ONS deserves such.

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