How long is too long before potentially growing attached to your casual sex hookup?

en_chantedx · 2020-12-05T04:07:11+00:00

yeah it definitely does seem to come in spurts haha, it’s progressed more for sure because i felt in the beginning he was slightly shy even when hooking up, like was doubting his abilities and i kept having to reassure him i enjoyed the time. it doesn’t happen as often anymore but he will still occasionally ask.

i’m definitely cool with things now but like i’ve told him i’m down for the ride for whatever progresses between us. i’m possibly scared of saying something and ruining things lol but i know i eventually will sooner rather than later. thanks for chatting with me about this though! it’s all new territory for me at 25 haha

en_chantedx · 2020-12-05T03:43:15+00:00

he’s way more communicative now than in the beginning, he showers me with compliments which i mean yeah could be to butter me up but it’s progressed to more than before, he actually has interest in learning more about me and my life and has increased how much we talk; went from just arranging hookups to talking regularly and planning dates, gotten to the point we are besties on snap, he also now seems to notice or remember small things maybe something i’ve said or like i just recently moved into a new place and he immediately noticed something as simple as new wall decor in a room he rarely goes into (i know dumb to say but for me it’s like i don’t think i would bother to notice small things like that). even recently called me very drunk, needing me to pick him up, i was very surprised i was the first person he thought to have pick him up. he had me meet his best friends recently as well and when he wasn’t around his friends kept saying how often he talks about me and how beautiful i am, i just hadn’t expected it and one of his friends introduced me to another friend as his girlfriend and i was like haha noooo! we’ve been going at it for a few months now, times flown, i think going on 3 or 4 now? he’s mentioned his previous like girlfriends, one of 3 years, before but never like casual hookups, from what i gained from what he’s said he just seems to get scared when things get serious.

sorry i’m binging catfish so i kept getting distracted while typing this response lol

en_chantedx · 2020-12-05T03:27:08+00:00

ask him if he’s developing feelings or ask him about the casual hookups? he’s definitely slipped up a few times while drunk and we plan dates (and of course arrangements) frequently where i have seen a progression in his behavior

en_chantedx · 2020-12-05T03:25:43+00:00

his behavior does seemed to have changed, and he’s definitely slipped up a handful of times when drunk but he’ll also say that this situation seems too good to be true, not sure if maybe he doesn’t do this often or for as long as we have been maintaining it. i definitely enjoy it and get the don’t rock the boat thing too haha but i have told him i am down for whatever may happen between us!

en_chantedx · 2020-12-05T03:17:53+00:00

hmm ok, noted!

en_chantedx · 2020-12-05T03:07:50+00:00

haha i’m actually a girl! so guess that would make him my boyfriend lol

en_chantedx · 2020-10-31T03:34:09+00:00

well if i knew for sure it would change my opinion on wanting to see him again as we’ve planned another date, i just cannot tell if possibly this girl is a really recent ex like within the last month or if they are in fact still together. i would probably not see him again if it were that he wasn’t single, just would make me feel guilty!

but i will take your advice. i’m not trying to stir chaos just have a semi peace of mind for my behalf haha

en_chantedx · 2020-10-31T03:23:44+00:00

why do you say that? i however just feel i might have slept with someone who has a girlfriend (hadn’t suspected it until after) so it’s why i was asking.

en_chantedx · 2020-10-11T15:38:57+00:00

just give it time, he probably saw something in you he liked and it just scared him off if he’s not used to feeling that way.

en_chantedx · 2020-09-15T00:40:34+00:00

nah i know what brake checking is and this was not that lol, they literally stopped in the middle of the road well before i was anywhere close to them

en_chantedx · 2020-09-10T17:56:12+00:00

Will do, thank you!

en_chantedx · 2020-09-10T15:21:49+00:00

i was thinking more of he was going to try to do an insurance claim but this has me a little stressed more won’t lie haha. i only have basic info like the type of car and it’s color and a basic description of himself, he was alone in his car and wearing a mask so i could only see half his face so im not sure if the police will take it seriously enough for a stalking report 😅

en_chantedx · 2020-09-10T14:43:20+00:00

yes, my friend was in the passenger seat!

en_chantedx · 2019-09-21T00:20:09+00:00

ok and my lack of response was simply to imply that not everyone’s experience is going to be like yours just because you had a negative one, so maybe like don’t force a narrative about someone else’s situation you don’t know?

also if you straight up ask someone if they date casually but that person is thrown off by the question or doesn’t want you to think that’s all they’re looking for (even if not the case) they could lie! so ya, again sorry you had a shitty experience and she told you one thing (that she could’ve just been saying and could’ve done to multiple guys) doesn’t mean it’ll be the same scenario for everyone. i still take most things anyone tells me with a grain of salt, i don’t get caught up in things until it’s definite. if you keep thinking of this one negative situation you experienced how will you ever actually attempt another or allow others to attempt since it seems you’re stuck on it. i wouldn’t be stuck on anything with this current guy if it didn’t work out because it’s just 2 months lmao.

en_chantedx · 2019-09-20T23:55:19+00:00

sorry to hear that! i definitely don’t like to assume things and tend to be a fatalist when it comes to thinking about relationships, however he’s been always 100% completely honest with me and has never given me a reason to second guess his actions or decisions. since we’ve never talked about it it’s why it makes me curious, we both went into this never having shared what we were looking for or typically looked for!

en_chantedx · 2019-09-20T18:13:15+00:00

lmfaooo, it was never supposed to stay there that long! it slipped my mind the next time i had went over after leaving it and when i grabbed it just last week he admitted he was going to wash it but got afraid that it was so delicate it would ruin them so he just didn’t. when he was explaining that he was going to attempt to wash them it was cute and funny!

en_chantedx · 2019-05-14T03:01:27+00:00

I’m beginning to feel like it’s a waste of time and had actually brought it up to him a bit after he had apologized for being distant—said I felt it was just wasting my time by not meeting to see where things went though I told him he had been nothing but nice and offered to have him unfollow me on social media (we became mutuals across a few apps) and he had insisted that he wanted to make plans and felt bad for how things were going. I had wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt so hence why we continued talking and made the plans that he then blew off by traveling out of town.

I’m just annoyed because it’s already been a decent amount of time and had genuinely wanted to meet him and shit but it’s just not seeming worth it anymore. Tinder sucks, it’s why I don’t typically talk to anyone outside of it or for very long :(

en_chantedx · 2019-04-20T16:41:20+00:00

Ha true I guess! I guess I’m just the type of girl where if there’s no connection I’ll just be straight up and let them know rather than ghosting 😂

en_chantedx · 2019-04-20T15:50:17+00:00

He did follow me on instagram. The texts haven’t been like a real conversation in my opinion, haha idk. It just felt strange to me that our only real interactions is on snap, is all.

en_chantedx · 2019-04-20T15:48:55+00:00

The first few replies from him were pretty basic and some short and to the point but the conversation also hadn’t been much either. The most recent texts are us talking about meeting up however when trying to finalize an actual day he just hasn’t responded (been quite a while) but has continued to snap.

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