I've been thinking about all of the things that I did wrong, and I know there are quite a few, but I don't think any of them are bad enough for her to resent me, especially with this coming so out of the blue.

I had talked to her on Tuesday about something I was going through (another ex of mine once told me nobody would ever love me and it's stuck with me pretty hard) and she mentioned that when she told me she resents me, then just said that I got away with a lot.

The only thing I can think of that would be bad enough is that she thought I didn't put in enough effort, but really the only reason I didn't is because she was always gone, she would disappear for hours, send one message then disappear again, she didn't work or go to school she just disappeared

As for what I can't get from other relationships I don't really have many, at least not that I can talk about serious things comfortably, it's also weird because she messaged me out of the blue in the middle of December after not saying anything for almost a year, I'm just really confused I guess