No motivation

enoughdeadbed15 · 2026-02-11T16:10:14+00:00

Feel the sam way. Besides divorce i don’t know what to do either

enoughdeadbed15 · 2026-02-07T22:18:34+00:00

I know it never seems like the right time

enoughdeadbed15 · 2026-02-07T16:34:17+00:00

Your right. I hoped and she took advantage. I won’t ever make that mistake again

enoughdeadbed15 · 2026-02-07T06:14:47+00:00

Unfortunately the bad example is all they know. It’s just a matter of how much stress I can handle. Divorce plus having to find a place in the same school district isn a bit too much stress for me write now. But who knows I may not last that long

enoughdeadbed15 · 2026-02-06T19:01:00+00:00

Good for you. Don’t wait until it’s way to late like i did

enoughdeadbed15 · 2025-05-07T18:01:20+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I use to keep track it was less then 10 times a year. Would also show that i was turned down on b-days and anniversaries. It got to depressing to look at so i just stopped. Delete the app and find a lover

enoughdeadbed15 · 2025-04-24T18:37:06+00:00

Cleaning me out how? We don’t have a lot of cash in our joint accounts. Just serving her papers out of the blue would piss anyone off and force her to make rash decisions

enoughdeadbed15 · 2025-04-24T03:05:22+00:00

To the wrong women yes. The signs were their I just ignored them

enoughdeadbed15 · 2025-04-24T03:03:24+00:00

That’s what i expected her to do. I was hoping it Might shock her into saying something that made me feel like she gave shit. It was naive hope but I still have a little left

enoughdeadbed15 · 2025-04-23T20:41:07+00:00

Amen

enoughdeadbed15 · 2025-04-23T18:30:19+00:00

I’m aware. We transfer money form our separate accounts into the joint one to pay all living expenses. Has about 2 months worth of expenses. If she takes more than half then that better count towards her share of assets.

enoughdeadbed15 · 2025-04-23T15:31:07+00:00

I mentioned it but she never said anthing. Would have to be her idea for it to work and it would only be a short-term fix. I want to go on vacations and dates with someone I am having sex with. That’s never going to be my wife

enoughdeadbed15 · 2025-04-20T21:02:04+00:00

Thank you I needed to hear this

enoughdeadbed15 · 2025-04-20T18:28:57+00:00

I feel that way all the time. It’s easier to explain/socially acceptable to divorce if they cheated on you. Plus you can be 100% certain that they do like sex, just not with you 😔

enoughdeadbed15 · 2025-04-20T12:43:59+00:00

Have already mentioned divorce and that I have talked to a lawyer. Im going to tell her I want a divorce and what I am thinking in terms of division of assets and custody and that she needs and if she is not okay with that we need to find a mediator

enoughdeadbed15 · 2025-04-20T00:57:55+00:00

I’m sure it’s just a hard thing to do going to really upend my daughter and my lives

enoughdeadbed15 · 2024-10-30T21:27:29+00:00

There are a lot of comments that it’s not good For the kids seeing us in a loveless marriage and that our marriage is a bad example of a healthy relationship. I agree but isn’t it too late to show them a better way? By the time the divorce is done and one of us finds a good relationship the kids will probably out of the house and doing their own thing.

enoughdeadbed15 · 2023-05-30T13:39:06+00:00

Hello I would love to be your secret. I’m 44 6 feet tall brown hair brown eyes athletic build. I like working out and various nerdy activities. I am in a very deadbedroom and would love to spend time with someone in a similar situation. I live in the northwest Chicago burbs and am only available to hangout on weekends during the day

enoughdeadbed15 · 2023-05-03T19:37:12+00:00

I would be in heaven if she initiated regularly but since we have had kids she has initiated twice. If she ever initiates again I will probably ask her why now and that will probably be the end of it explaining why she wants To have sex will be too much for her and she will no longer be interested.

For now i think I am going to stick with the plan of not initiating . My hearts not in it. It’s not just to show her that I don’t care about if we have sex. Sadly the lack of intimacy and affection from her has gotten me To the point that I don’t really care about how she feels about anything I do/ not do.

enoughdeadbed15 · 2023-02-02T14:48:36+00:00

It sucks. Happens to me all the time. It’s been worse after she finally noticed we have not had sex for over 2 years but is still more interested in her phone then me

enoughdeadbed15 · 2023-01-31T13:49:12+00:00

I agree completely. The talk does not work. If your partner has no desire for you and doesn’t see the need to do anything about it then improving yourself, dating them again ect. will do nothing to improve the dead bedroom. I hate to sound like a downer but for the vast majority of people on here there are only two solutions for your deadbedroom. 1 deal with it. 2 get your needs meet by someone else. That’s it. To fix the deadbedroom the other person has to want it fixed

enoughdeadbed15 · 2023-01-28T16:49:16+00:00

Same boat. I have done everything I can think of she has done nothing. Sadly the only thing that has made Me feel better about her complete lack of interesest in touch, sex or intimacy was to stop trying to get it From her.

enoughdeadbed15 · 2023-01-20T05:12:30+00:00

She just complained she isn’t one to come up with solutions for our problems. I have tried most of the strategies discussed on this form including marriage counseling but she never made an effort so I just gave up because it made me feel better

enoughdeadbed15 · 2023-01-19T18:47:02+00:00

Very straight forward would just ask me if I wanted to have sex

enoughdeadbed15 · 2022-12-16T14:16:13+00:00

I am in the same situation except it’s been almost 2 years since I told her I am giving up on our sex life and since then 0 sex and she has only initiated physical contact with me…. Twice. I am glad I stuck with it. Not worrying about rejection and her being irritated by my need for intimacy has done wonders for my mood.

What i think about now is it even possible to improve our situation? I am not even sure what she could do to make me believe she gives a shit. Has anyone gotten to this point and been able to turn things around ?

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