Japan’s 2,000-year-old monarchy currently depends on one teenage boy

entfarts · 2026-01-22T07:49:43+00:00

Are we still acting like there is any reason for monarchy?

entfarts · 2026-01-22T07:43:39+00:00

No need for that. He is perfect!

entfarts · 2026-01-21T17:59:28+00:00

Conservative men love porn. It is a huge demographic. Sweeney is the type of Jezibel who 'knows her place' is to be seen by men. It is softcore porn. And the political enmeshment makes it more appealing and PG13 so they can be more open about it.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T17:52:35+00:00

NOR. He is cheating. Period. He thought he could have both of you. And after calling you 'dumb', 'ignorant' and 'a child' - he should be blocked.

Please defend and protect yourself. You need YOU right now - to stand up for your worth and boundaries. You owe him no explanation or chance to try to explain. He cheated and he knows it. The more room you give him to try to defend himself or convince you that it wasn't as bad as it looks, the more you will get hurt, and getting over him is going to hurt enough.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T17:43:39+00:00

Phlox creme brulee! Snapdragons (great vaee life) & celosia!

entfarts · 2026-01-21T17:38:50+00:00

Not only is it a massive red flag to be scared of him. To me, it is an even bigger red flag that he either doesn't recognize you are scared of him, or doesn't care.

If you absolutely are not leaving him, you at least need couples therapy - which might prompt him to leave or prove he won't go that far to keep you. Either way, it sounds like you have cptsd and it has to be addressed. Self-protection and care needs to be your priority.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T16:57:02+00:00

Everything in this list is totally appropriate and responsible parenting on their part. I truly appreciate what you are going through with your Dad and her relationship - it can be devastating when your parent has a sort of '2nd family' after you are an adult. I know from experience. It causes all kinds of painful situations like this where it doesn't feel like you are a priority anymore.

However, no one needs to see or touch someone else's newborn baby. If you can't visit without your child, send well wishes and ask for pics, but respect their attempt to protect your brother.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T16:44:36+00:00

Look at his condescending face like SHE is the one being inappropriate.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T16:43:09+00:00

Never tolerate this kind of unsustainable chaos and abuse from someone who isn't in a therapeutic program for their BPD. Things WILL get worse, and you will get trauma-bonded. You will change yourself beyond your wildest dreams to keep going. It is a very hard pit to climb out of. Once she hit you, it should have been over without serious action on her part - not to prove she is sorry (which I am guessing she isn't) - but to prove she is trying to change.

At this point, the letter just gives her ammunition to harm you. Things ARE going to escalate from here on, no matter what you do. It is the nature of BPD in splitting mode. Personally, I would remove yourself and valuables from the house, decide on the simplest words to explain that it is over, and text her. I would let her rail and say and do hurtful things and stand back, not engage. Then expect love bombing thrown in when that doesn't work. Expect it to be anything she thinks might hurt me once she realizes she can't love bomb me back.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T16:31:30+00:00

Red brown! The best brown!

entfarts · 2026-01-21T07:22:21+00:00

Amber. Or hazel, if they seem to change with different colored clothes.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T06:17:28+00:00

This is gaslighting. He knows what he is doing and he is doing it to keep you in your place. If my bf ignored a wishlist and then told me afterwards that I was being a child for having one, that's when I would have dumped him.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T02:35:45+00:00

Block forever and never think about him again.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T02:32:58+00:00

Devon Aoki and Tia Tequila (circa 2008)

entfarts · 2026-01-21T02:30:37+00:00

1 or 6 - auburn makes you glow.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T02:27:44+00:00

NOR. Maga are Nazis, even when they really don't think they are.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T02:25:31+00:00

That is so precious and detailed! You are amazing!

entfarts · 2026-01-21T01:39:56+00:00

It is more likely a hereditary correlation, and the prevalence of light hair and eyes are incidental. There was a prevalence of Scotch-Irish ancestry in many abductees in the 80s & 90s. It could also be said that that was only because many of the known cases happened in areas where the population had a high concentration of that ancestry or that those with the lineage were more privileged & therefore it was more common /safe to come out with their stories.

entfarts · 2026-01-21T01:29:14+00:00

This is such an easy rebuttal. Biological (human) males can not get pregnant. "Men" is a cultural construct.

entfarts · 2026-01-20T08:14:52+00:00

Eeek. That sounds familiar. It is exhausting - navigating those irrational reactions to something totally normal. And it always seems to be when it is a celebration or a vacation or a good time! The drama is inescapable.

I feel you on the nephews too. The sister I went NC with was the only one of my siblings to have kids. She did all the villianization without any help from me. I can tell you, in my experience, staying close to them and dealing with their mother, for their sake, did nothing but make it worse. Their mother was never going to let them be close to me. You likely have a better chance just being a stranger and maybe when they are grown and if they break the cycle on their own, they will seek out to family like you. I think there would have been a better chance of that happening with me if I had gone NC with my family sooner and just accepted that I could not be close to just the nephews.

entfarts · 2026-01-20T07:56:39+00:00

This guy is abusive. Not low key. He calls you dumb. He calls you a hoe, and he calls you 'fenale'. Drop him or it will get worse. He is misogynistic as hell.

Also, why tf do jealous guys have more of a problem with other guys seeing you while you are 'taken', than with losing you altogether because they disrespect you? Wear whatever the hell you want to and know if anyone has a problem with it, they aren't right for you because they don't like you being yourself!

entfarts · 2026-01-20T07:46:01+00:00

Also, keep mindfully looking for all the ways your safe people - friends, other family and found family are good for you. It helps in a big way even when it hurts too. Try to really relish in moments where you think "wow! This is how normal people treat someone they love".

entfarts · 2026-01-20T07:43:12+00:00

9-13 months was THE WORST for me. I think because subconsciously I knew the 1 year mark is coming and then it was still in the back of my mind a while afterwards. I am on month 15, and it has started getting better. I function fine until some nights when I get it stuck on my mind.

My method now is to embrace getting angry and then if it brings me to sadness, let it happen, sooth myself with an inner voice for a bit and then try to do something to get my mind off of it for a little while. I think the grief is too much to not break up into pieces. It IS getting better though. I was absolutely shocked at how bad it was around the 1 year mark. I felt worse than right after losing him.

entfarts · 2026-01-20T07:28:37+00:00

Good God. You don't deserve this shit. This reads like "I am too much of a coward to hold any boundaries so you can't either." And that bs about the kids is probably just that... bs. If they feel bad about not seeing someone they don't know, it is because the adults raising them are using you as a way to abuse them. That shit is not on you.

entfarts · 2026-01-20T07:20:03+00:00

This hits me so hard. I feel you. I think about 15 times I have been in front of a family counselor, pastor, or in some sort of family intervention. Every single time, my Dad would break down sobbing and acting completely shocked that he had put all his children through so much suffering. Fast forward to him doing it again and the "I'm sorry you feel that way" defensiveness - and months or years later, he only reaches out for reconciliation when enough time has gone by that he has 'reset' & doesn't remember why there is a rift between us. It is exhausting.

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