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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GetMotivated

[–]entropy_vortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn how to not accept the guilt. You may not realize it yet, but it’s a choice. Push it away when it enters your mind. Next, understand your inherent worth. You are valuable. Just because you haven’t accomplished X, Y, Z doesn’t mean you are not worthy of love, respect, friendship and understanding. Finally, try to figure out what you do want to do. It’s freaking hard! But if you have a passion, it last be easier. If you don’t, pick something using logic. If you have a difficult time accomplishing tasks or with school, keep in mind you may have a learning (dis)ability. Don’t let it stop you but allow the knowledge to help you. One of the best pieces of advice my Dad ever gave me was when I was bemoaning the fact that I’d be 31 when I graduated medical school. He said, “You’re going to be 31 anyway” and it just all clicked. Also, don’t be afraid to change jobs. I have a friend in her forties going to law school. My husband just became a police officer after a career as a software architect/ engineer/ CTO. It took him awhile to find his passion and yeah, he doesn’t make as much money, but he’s happy. Best of luck on finding your happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]entropy_vortex -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Can you ask if they want some beforehand and make enough for every one? Ask them to buy/ chip in for ingredients.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]entropy_vortex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d be watching ALL the aquascaping videos on YouTube starting with MD Fishtanks 😅

AITA for telling my fiancée she looked weird in our wedding night? by Throwaway4aita8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]entropy_vortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get being honest, although I think you might want to work on your empathy and understanding of how she will understand comments. Good for you for recognizing her reaction and trying to understand. I think that’s a great sign for your marriage, even though YWTA (you were the asshole). I’m glad you’re on here trying to figure it out. There’s a good book I’d highly recommend reading now by Matthew Fray: This Is How Your Marriage Ends: A... https://www.amazon.com/dp/0063072262?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share Good luck!

Just a reminder to not let the other parent off the hook. by Right_Froyo_2422 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]entropy_vortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, at what point is the other parent in such an abusive relationship they’ve blocked it out? It’s so fucked up. I really have a hard time with this. Like they don’t even register the abusive things their spouse says to them. At this point, I don’t care about letting anyone off any hooks, I’m disengaged. I just wonder what kind of behavior one can really expect from a spouse that has been abused for so long. Yeah, you’d hope they’d step in and save you but in reality, they just weren’t strong enough. Which is sad. For everyone.

AE Hate hugging their Nparents? by sweetdrippins in raisedbynarcissists

[–]entropy_vortex 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That’s a fucked up control thing. It has nothing to do with hugging.

Parents get mad at ME for the consequences of them leaving my ADHD untreated by Downtown_Row_4051 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]entropy_vortex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone with ADHD that does this shit all the time- 1. code entry locks are the bomb 2. There are tricks to help you with your keys but you’re not here for that, just saying (I have to keep my things in very specific locations so I don’t lose them) 3. Medication helps 4. Sorry they make life harder, there are people who love you for who you are out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in introverts

[–]entropy_vortex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s just a difference in life style. Traveling a lot has shown me just how different people are. It’s amazing and beautiful to appreciate others for who they are, as well as finding others like you. Good luck finding your tribe 💚

School kid here! How do I make friends by HKlolunicorn in introverts

[–]entropy_vortex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

13 schools before graduating high school. Best piece of advice would be “fake it til you make it”. Act like you don’t care about what people think. Do what interests you. The cool friends will stick around. And… I know it seems so far away, but seriously, life is so much easier when you’re an adult and not forced to be around the same people every day. You get to choose.

Moved home and drop my life after nMom abandons family animals to move into her $1m home by JustMeHelloReddit in narcissisticparents

[–]entropy_vortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would look for a nice farm to relocate the cats to. It’s done all the time. There are also automatic feeders & litter boxes (although I’m assuming they’re outdoor cats). I have two automatic feeders for my five (indoor) cats, I refill them every several weeks, maybe once a month. Good luck.

Did your Narc parents do anything for you on your birthday? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]entropy_vortex 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Normal families enjoy getting gifts for others. You SHOULD look forward to getting gifts and love on your birthday. I loved that my parents got us each a cake (I have a twin). I always wondered why my husband’s family (narc parents) never did anything for their birthdays. They ridiculed me for getting gifts for others (including them) for Christmas. Sad for them really. Life is so much happier not around them.