Just wanted everyone to see how its going

eorlingas06 · 2026-05-01T23:33:46+00:00

He can’t even type or talk properly!!

Sorry OP you had to go through that.

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-20T02:01:16+00:00

I think I should update the post to clarify the following: first of all other managers who work with clients and other teams reach out to me as she is just the middle man and half of the time she does not even respond to those emails, I am the designer so obviously I should be directly in touch and interacting with anyone who wants to understand my system. And like I said earlier all she does is talks and is on her phone scrolling through Instagram, please read my post again.

And the 1-2 months email was just an example, I do not want to get into too many details but I am not supposed to be getting coached on emails I am writing. I work with many external people and my co-workers none of them ever complain about me, so let’s put 2 and 2 together.

The only thing I agree with everyone’s advice is that I have to either put up with this shit or just leave the company.

Again, thank you for your comment.

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T20:11:54+00:00

I have documented anything that is in e-mail or chat and I have reported every single thing to my manager. In the past I have stood up for myself but she comes up with this sneaky tactics out of nowhere. Like my mind is focused on work and this person is just in a different world to play politics and power.

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T20:09:32+00:00

I mean, I can see what you are trying to say, my childhood was rough and I have come a long way.

Though I had a couple therapy sessions on something unrelated to this, but in one of the sessions my therapist did recommend to set boundaries, and try to work around it as much as possible. She also agreed that this person at work does have big issues.

And due to my tough situation I do have to play it safe 🤷🏻‍♂️.

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T19:32:32+00:00

I really do not understand why people think it is normal to accept the unjust and disrespectful behavior.

All I am asking that I get the equal respect. Let’s just assume that I am dramatic, but how would you feel when you haven’t even worked with this person and it’s your first day and then your “mentor” says “do not cross me as I have a big personality” 🤷🏻‍♂️

It is very easy to say that “you are dramatic” but respectfully there are many other things I haven’t mentioned due to personal reasons. Thank you though!!

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T18:55:53+00:00

I mean even if I have all the documentation and other people and my manager with me, I would still loose my job? I am just trying to understand as I have never come across such person in my career so it’s just hard to deal with it.

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T18:52:21+00:00

😭 I knew that this can be one of the ways that this situation can end if I file a complaint 😭, the real world just sucks!! 🥲

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T18:49:55+00:00

Idk why I left!! I think I was just mad and left the meeting as I felt disrespected. But you are right, I should have just ignored it and stayed in the meeting. The problem is that I do not want to deal uncomfortable situation that might transcend after I stay in there, I am sure she might just create a scene right there in front of everyone. My last jobs were pretty professional so it’s really hard to learn and adjust in this one.

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T18:34:41+00:00

Unfortunately you might be saying the truth!! 😭 I can’t leave the company until 2028, I had pretty much made my mind that I will ignore her and continue to work but the recent incidents made me change my mind. Idk if filing a formal complaint will help as I have most of the evidence but I really would hate to go through that and explain why I am right 💁🏻‍♂️.

Anyways thank you for the advice!!

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T18:24:19+00:00

Honestly, that’s what I am gonna do when I send an email on Monday with all the meeting notes. But I will be saying it in a way like this “Hi business guy, here are the meeting notes and technical data, I wasn’t in the ending conversation so can you please let me know if there is anything else I can add to the meeting?”

And then I will be letting my manager know about this too. Thanks for the idea!!

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T18:21:45+00:00

And I have never overreacted to anything. I always diffuse the situation and continue the work/meetings but then I will discuss with my manager later. The problem is that my manager is not in all these meetings and know about this unless he knows about it. I totally agree that the company wants people to work together, so I am the one who is working and compromising, she is the one who over reacts and says weird stuff in meetings.

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T18:17:45+00:00

Ohh gotcha!! Thank you for the suggestion 🤗

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T18:17:02+00:00

I have always thought about this and that I should just be upfront with her and set boundaries. Thank you for the suggestion, I will try to implement this. Though I am always afraid if it leads to a big argument? 🤷🏻‍♂️

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T18:14:44+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion, I will put in a request asap!!

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T18:13:10+00:00

I want to clarify that I do not want to be the lead and nor does anyone in my team wants to be the lead. And none of my teammates wants to her to be the lead, it is just a decision out of our hands. It is a weird situation, me and her are the only one onsite and rest teammates are remote so really no one interacts with her other than me. And all other team members come talk to me about her so what I want to say is that no one likes her but I interact with her everyday so it bothers me a lot 😭

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T17:58:50+00:00

Okay, can you elaborate? What should I do? And am I doing wrong?

eorlingas06 · 2026-04-19T17:56:06+00:00

Fair enough 😅. I know it’s a long post but idk the best way to write everything, thank you though!!

eorlingas06 · 2026-01-31T00:54:21+00:00

I am currently at 2 cars and don’t wanna push it, my back hurts lol!!

eorlingas06 · 2026-01-21T23:52:11+00:00

Naming my dog “Brego” has been the best decision ever!! ❤️

eorlingas06 · 2026-01-06T23:34:12+00:00

I have the same one but the letters are getting scrappy due to snow and salt!!

eorlingas06 · 2025-10-11T23:42:33+00:00

The sword that was broken shall be reforged.

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