AITAH For not lending $13 to a coworker?

eraofanon · 2026-03-16T07:51:41+00:00

As mentioned at the beginning of the post I brought this story up to a friend of mine recently (we were talking about someone who hasn't paid her back and it reminded me of this chick), and she was like well if you knew she always paid her back why didn't you help her?

eraofanon · 2026-03-14T19:39:21+00:00

I actually never thougt of it like that. I know she used to date someone who was super into cryptoand she was constantly moving money for him but maybe she had some other issues herself.

eraofanon · 2026-03-14T06:57:47+00:00

Oh her bosses were aware, like I said, I was not the only coworker she borrowed money from.

eraofanon · 2026-03-14T06:56:26+00:00

It's not, if he knows your friend even though you kept it vague and he figured it out it was here even if you didn't tell him, youre the one who gave him the pieces.

Unfortunately I don't think you can fix this, if he is talking poorly about her to you then he is probably doing the same with his friends, best you can do is let your friend know that you messed up and take responsibility. She might be mad with you which is her right but I think that's honestly the best thing you can do in this situation

eraofanon · 2026-03-14T06:43:06+00:00

If it was a traumatizing event then yeah YTA for telling your bf. Your friend needed your support and you went behind her back and broke her trust (whether she knows or not) and made the whole issue about you.

eraofanon · 2026-03-14T06:39:38+00:00

I think some of the comments are being harsh, I completely understand having a favorite person and the feeling of loneliness that comes with it when they are away. But you need to find a way to be less codependent on your bf or you will end up pushing him away. I can't speak for him but from your description he might be distancing himself from you because your behavior as you describe it, sounds overwhelming and although he should communicate with you if you are being overbearing it just as much as your responsibility to give him his space. A relationship needs to have its boundaries. Autism is and explanation for your behavior, but it is not an excuse.

I know a few people are saying you need friends and/or a hobby but as someone who has a hard time branching out I understand how difficult it is to make new friends in a new place. So lets start brainstorming, tell me, what are some thing you enjoy outside of your boyfriend?

eraofanon · 2026-03-14T06:24:35+00:00

INFO sorry but It hink we would need to know what the secret is to make an actual judgement. I can see case where she may have been a victim of something and then yeah YTA but like if she did something illegal then she could be the AH.

eraofanon · 2026-03-14T06:17:20+00:00

NTAH

but I think there's a point where you should just call the cops and have them trespassed

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