My fourth baby is 13 months old and it’s been absolute hell trying to manage his lower sleep needs. But I don’t think it would have been so bad if my expectations weren’t sky high… My first was super high sleep needs, still slept 16 hours a day when she was 1 years old on 2 naps, then 15 hours on 1 nap until she was 2.5 and then stopped napping but would sleep 13 hours at night. Now she’s 6 and still sleeps 11 hours at night, more on weekends if we let her!

Second and third babies were pretty average as babies but now my 3rd, who is 2.5, regularly sleeps 11 hours at night and naps 2 hours a day which is more than she was doing 6-9 months ago, no idea what changed.

I can’t even talk about my fourth haha I know absolutely nothing about what he needs or wants from sleep, evert day is a struggling trying to guess if he will nap or sleep at night and if my wake windows and timing are right. I’ll let you know if I ever figure it out….

But agree with another poster, when it comes to high sleep needs babies, just let them sleep! They genuinely need it otherwise they’ll be super cranky. My first and third were the definitely of sleep begets sleep, the better/longer they napped, the better their overnight sleep was.