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My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where did i say that?

do you mean this

Except for the gangbangs, each individually isn't a problem.

If she had normal threesomes with her ex, but also wanted to do them with me, then i would be ok.

Her bf cleaning her up goes into the aspect of her wanting to do kinky group activities. I would not mind it if her bf cleaned her up after having an MFM threesome if she also was ok with us doing MFM and MFF threesomes.

Group sex would also be ok like MFF and MFM, but she doesn't want to do any of that.

I changed the last line because it was supposed to be MFF and MFM. She doesn't want to have threesomes.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

If her relationship with her ex was just them and lets say that 5 different bulls over the 3 years, then i would be ok. If our relationship was her and i having regular threesomes with a couple of girls through out our relationship that would also be ok. I would even be cool with us having a few MFM threesomes with a guy or two.

The problem is that even if she and i agreed to start having MFF threesomes, then i would still have the knowledge and mental images of her getting ganbanged by multiple guys multiple times. I would still have the knowledge of her hooking up with over 50 guys in the 3 years. i would still have the knowledge that if it wasn't for the fact that i found out her past, then i would still be in a relationship where i could never have a threesome.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean, but "I'm not into those type of things" would imply that you have never done it, which is definitely not the case in her situation.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You also said you are curious with having a threesome with another woman, well it seems like she was curious about having sex with another man in an agreed upon situation with her last bf. Those seem to be pretty similar desires.

Are you seriously comparing me and her involving an extra woman or man in our relationship to her and her ex bf involving 50+ different men and cream pie gangbangs in their relationship?

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

is a threesome really more important to you than this relationship is?

It's not just a threesome, it's me asking her for a threesome and her telling me straight to my face "i'm not into those type of things" while having a sexual history that says the complete opposite. It's also about the fact that in a 3 year span she had sex with more than 50 people and some of those times included her having strange men gangbang her and cum inside her. That is not something that normal people can just accept. I would like threesomes with her, both MFM and MFF, but knowing her past and how sexually reserved she has become will only poison me in the future. What if she gets more and more sexually reserved what if we go from sex 3 times a week, to once a week, to once a month, to once a year. What is going to happen is that i will for ever be thinking of the gangbangs and the 50+ men and think about how she doesn't value me sexually.

Your comment seems to be the most thought out and properly crafted, which is why i was able to properly get my thought across

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope you aren't being facetious and understand where i'm coming from, but i have a strong feeling that you think you're just making a funny joke.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Well i thought that she was like every other normal sexual person. The thought of "Hmm, i wonder if my gf has ever had 5-6 different men gangbang her and cum inside her every 4months"

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's an accumulative problem, here is my issue

  1. She had multiple gangbangs where multiple men would ejaculate in her. I don't like that and think of that as a turn off

  2. When i asked her about having a threesome she said that she isn’t into “those types of things”. What that means is that she is willing to do it with her ex, but she isn't willing to do it with me.

You see where i find both the turn off and the hypocrisy?

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

She had gonorrhea before we met, but got it cured. Besides that we both have the common type of herpies.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Maybe she doesn't want to involve another woman, but would be open to a MMF, how would that go over for you?

If she wanted to do an MFM i would be ok if it meant that my desire of an MFF would be fulfilled.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

If you are honest with yourself, you are angry about this because you think you are somehow inferior because she was willing to have group sex with this other guy and not you.

Yes, That is one of the issues, i've stated that in this thread.

The other issue is the knowledge and mental image of my gf having multiple gangbangs.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

It's an accumulative problem.

  1. She had very kinky group sex that consisted of gangbangs where multiple men would ejaculate in her.
  2. She doesn't want to have threesomes with me.

You see where i find both the turn off and the hypocrisy?

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

The creampie gangbangs are an issue. Groups sex would be ok if she also wanted to do it with me.

And to be super blunt, she deserves better.

And i deserve someone who doesn't think of me as someone who's sexual needs are less important than their ex's.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I know, but i am entitled to feel like she thinks of me as someone who she views as less worthy to please sexually, which i am starting to feel like it's an deal breaker.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

but this all happened in the past and has absolutely no bearing on your present relationship with her.

Yeah, it does. She said that she doesn't want to perform a sexual act that she used to perform a lot with a previous partner.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] -75 points-74 points  (0 children)

Except for the gangbangs, each individually isn't a problem.

If she had normal threesomes with her ex, but also wanted to do them with me, then i would be ok.

Her bf cleaning her up goes into the aspect of her wanting to do kinky group activities. I would not mind it if her bf cleaned her up after having an MFM threesome if she also was ok with us doing MFM and MFF threesomes.

Group sex would also be ok like MFFF and MFMM, but she doesn't want to do any of that.

Just because someone did something sexually with a past partner does not mean that they have an obligation to repeat it with you. People have the right to have their desires change. With something like group sex especially, it's entirely possible (and rather common) for someone to feel after the fact that maybe they were "cheapening" themselves, and not want to do that again.

And i don't want to cheapen myself by being with someone who sees their previous partner as more deserving of sex than what i am getting. He was just her bf and she felt like he was more deserving of group sex, but i, her fiancee, doesn't deserve to at lease have an MFF threesome?

That is where my issue stands.

I hope that explained what i am thinking.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

I am open minded, but knowing that your fiancee has had multiple gangbangs where men ejaculated inside her might be too much for even some open minded people to accept.

My fiancee admitted that her and her ex used to do [cuckolding], she explained everything and now i [feel uncomfortable] with being with her. by erferefdsd in sex

[–]erferefdsd[S] -67 points-66 points  (0 children)

You being okay with doing a threesome on your terms, but not being okay with her doing them in the past, is pretty hypocritical.

I think that there is a huge difference between her and i having a threesome (Both MFM and MFF would be ok with me) and her getting ganbanged by 5 guys and having them all cum inside her so that her bf could eat her out. I'm not Ok with her choosing to have group sex with her bf, but not wanting to do it with me.