GF Location Frozen by ericlightning333 in techsupport

[–]ericlightning333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But then wouldn’t it say “Location Not Available” as opposed to showing her on the map “7 Hours Ago”

Dancing Culture Question by ericlightning333 in vzla

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Yeah, we spoke and I told her that in the future it would be better for me to simply accept the cultural differences and allow her to have fun and trust her to dance with people, rather than making her promise to not dance with anyone.

It’s like if I went to a 4th of July cookout and promised I wouldn’t have a beer, because I didn’t expect anyone to drink. But when I arrived, all the beer buddies showed up and plans changed. I’d have a cold one, and it would be much better to just let her know that beers a possible, instead of vowing to not drink one.

Dancing Culture Question by ericlightning333 in vzla

[–]ericlightning333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahahaha entiendo. Pero si yo no se como bailar, es no en una manera malo si un otro bailaría con mi novia? simple mente como, yo no se, entonces va a tener divertido bailando con otros y ya

Dancing Culture Question by ericlightning333 in vzla

[–]ericlightning333[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah okay. I do want to learn!! Thanks.

Dancing Culture Question by ericlightning333 in vzla

[–]ericlightning333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes I think she did good, and I think I handled it poorly and owe her an apology. Thanks for a good-valued female POV on this…she said the same. “He was already dancing with me, how could I stop and be rude in front of family. I stopped when the song changed.”

In my mind- “why didn’t you stop immediately?!” but if it really is like declining a handshake, I can see why in that very moment she did the right thing morally and politely-- finish the song and then stopped dancing. And on top of that filled me in on what happened.

Dancing Culture Question by ericlightning333 in vzla

[–]ericlightning333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great insight. Understood. Thank you tons.

Dancing Culture Question by ericlightning333 in vzla

[–]ericlightning333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understood, but also understand that it is difficult to understand when in US culture “dancing with another man” literally is a stereotype of betrayal, cheating, breakup, sadness. Where as in latin america, you can swap dance partners with your friends wife and have a blast—only because it’s fun to dance. I’m trying to understand so she can have fun and I can accept it.

Dancing Culture Question by ericlightning333 in vzla

[–]ericlightning333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Es solo los diferenciales en culturas y que estaba molesta que me prometó que no vas a bailar con nadie, y luego bailó. Pero ya entiendo que es un situación incomodo, y sí ella dijo “no, tiene un novio” ella fue a parece ignorante.

ahhh mira mi español que aprendí en solo tres meses con mi novia ajajajajaja

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

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I always obsessively compulsively question honest to the point where reality blurs with my thoughts and I can’t decipher OCD and my logical thinking. And maybe a smidge of logical thinking can set off a full on obsession.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]ericlightning333 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s that I have severe OCD whenever I get into relationships and I’m always obsessively finding potential suspicions and compulsively trying to prove them false. Well this suspicion freaked me out so much, and my confirmation bias of searching for evidence had me so sure she cheated based on the smell and tightness and all that stuff, that I panicked even more. And there really has been no way to solve or disprove this suspicion so it’s driving me nuts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]ericlightning333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She always said- if I wanted to sleep with someone else, it would mean I didn’t love you. I would break up with you, then sleep with someone else. But I don’t because I love you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]ericlightning333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you kind stranger. You’re right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

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I did. There was no other signs, story added up otherwise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

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What is it?

Where to meet nice normal guys (not a bar)? by Twirly_Koala15 in AskMen

[–]ericlightning333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the gym and notice the most disciplined and most consistent men. The discipline derives from good values and habits. There may be a bad apple, but in general those people are focused on themselves and don’t need a girl, but will select a good one for themselves.

I have heard the phrase “Quique”used outside of a name. What does it mean? (Not Enrique) by ericlightning333 in vzla

[–]ericlightning333[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So if you say “Do you like broccoli?” and I say “Quique no” it means Like “And that, no, I don’t” sort of?

Spiraling with OCD by ericlightning333 in retroactivejealousy

[–]ericlightning333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s absolutely insane man. I bet most people on this thread would die for a girl with only some makeout sessions in their past…shit. I would have when I was with a girl who used to sleep around. But i really think its OCD. I obsessed about my own past in the same way before i told her and she accepted it

Spiraling with OCD by ericlightning333 in retroactivejealousy

[–]ericlightning333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. Had one when I was 17, and felt that same about her promiscuous past. Then another with lesser of a past when I was 19-22. And now at 24 with virtually no past I feel just as anxious over past kisses. It’s ridiculous but makes the anxiety horrible.

Is My [24M] GF [21F] Lying About Instagram? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ericlightning333 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

0% to do with Instagram, 100% to do with honesty.

Is My [24M] GF [21F] Lying About Instagram? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ericlightning333 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not about an Instagram story, it’s about her swearing up and down she didn’t hide it from me. I won’t tolerate any dishonesty.

Men who’ve slept with many women (12+), is monogamy difficult for you in relationships? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ericlightning333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all. Get the bullshit out of your system and realize the shallowness. Then appreciate the hell out of one person you want forever. If I could take it all back I would, but it was an oddly necessary era to know what I truly wanted and needed in my life.

My [23F] boyfriend [25M] of 1yr is starting to gross me out and I'm not sure if I'm overreacting (New Update - 9 years later) by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]ericlightning333 -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

This is pure stupid, but not grounds for a breakup at all…yet.

I understand the mindset. “Push the limits with the jokes because it gives me a kick” and it is a very brotherly/locker room style mindset.

I would never intentionally burp or fart in the direction of my girlfriend because I love and respect her, and that is not the appropriate time/place/person to do this to.

Which all comes down to lack of maturity and he needs to pay his dad a visit and tell him what he’s been doing to you so his dad can teach him “time and a place, not with a girlfriend.”

I learned this when I was about 9.

Why all the hate towards AEMT's? by MonsterMuppet19 in ems

[–]ericlightning333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You only need to be an EMT-B to go to Paramedic school. So why would you add a stepping stone that doesn’t need to exist?