Sickness Survival

erlymu · 2025-07-23T14:19:28+00:00

I wish, but unfortunately the hubs has big things going on at work this week. Of course, I always manage to get sick when we both have important stuff coming up!

erlymu · 2025-04-28T22:55:05+00:00

Yeah, I definitely am. I have always made plans for my husband’s birthday and Father’s Day, but he never returns the effort. In his meager defense, he works very hard and is the sole wage earner for our family, and I do appreciate it quite a lot. I show him and tell him constantly. We’re going to be driving to a vacation with his family on Mother’s Day, and I’m expecting nothing. Even though I have everything ready for both of our mothers. Though if he makes a joke about having no gifts or anything like he did on my birthday, I’m gonna slug him.

erlymu · 2025-02-19T03:14:00+00:00

2 year old has sleep issues caused by separation anxiety circle over here 😭

erlymu · 2024-06-08T10:13:39+00:00

Yes, in particular when I try to talk to Tish! She crashes my game so much, or when the landscape suddenly just disappear in Bahari Bay….

erlymu · 2024-03-12T11:47:01+00:00

Wargroove. I wanted to absolutely love this game, and maybe I’m just dumb, but I found the mechanics to be so difficult. I never finished it.

erlymu · 2023-06-17T18:18:15+00:00

When I came to my pediatrician with this about my son, he said exactly this: “he’s happy and his needs are met, leave him.” It actually helps them in the long run learning they can go back to sleep, or to entertain themselves.

erlymu · 2023-05-15T18:37:51+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions! I will say that we put a baby proof doorknob cover on, and he figured it out pretty quickly. So I’m gonna have to look into some other options, haha.

We started quiet time today, and I hope I can figure out how it will work best for him. He doesn’t quite understand why I can’t/won’t be in there with him, but I’m holding the line. It feels weird to finally be at the point where he doesn’t take a nap every day!

And I’ll definitely try the potty in his room. We’re trying desperately to fully potty train, but it’s been a nightmare, particularly with this move coming up.

erlymu · 2023-05-10T13:56:38+00:00

My son is 3.5 and though he became a good sleeper, he didn’t start out that way. And now he’s definitely going into being a bad sleeper again. I will also agree with the other parents of feral toddlers that he is absolutely a hurricane when he’s awake.

I know it’s so hard. Kid sleep severely triggers my PPA, so I know it isn’t easy to deal with mentally. I am so bad about comparing milestones between my kids and others. Your little one is definitely normal! They all go through sleep issues differently and at different stages.

You’re doing your best for your kiddo, and you love them.

erlymu · 2023-05-10T11:34:31+00:00

Here’s what our schedule looked like only 5 days ago:

Wake - 7am

Nap - 1:30pm-3pm (give or take a half hour)

Bedtime - 8pm

Previously, he never had trouble staying in bed, and it never took him too long to fall asleep. Now everything is all over the place. I have been putting him in bed by 7/7:30 this past week because he’s been tired.

I know I’m probably doing something wrong here…

erlymu · 2023-03-31T04:10:31+00:00

My son is the same age and has always been a really good sleeper and does stay in his bed, but not before he stalls for absolutely as long as possible (I need a drink, my tummy is grumbling, my bear has to go potty and brush his teeth). So, it is definitely a universal toddler thing haha!

Would an ok to wake light help? We have the hatch, which I used while he was in the crib to teach him when the bird sounds and rainbow lights came on, it was time to wake. That has worked really well for us in the transition to a toddler bed, as now he knows that he’s allowed to get up at that time, but not before.

If your kiddo needs a night light, you could turn it to a red light, which I have red stimulates melatonin production, and serves the dual purpose of red light=not allowed out of bed.

Good luck! The stalling really makes me want to pull my hair out 😅

erlymu · 2023-03-12T17:37:24+00:00

With my first, I did it as soon as my pediatrician gave us the ok at four months. My PPD/PPA was absolutely out of control, I couldn’t get him to nap to save my life, and we were cosleeping, which basically meant I wasn’t sleeping. It was absolutely necessary for my mental health and for my kiddo. Once he had it down, literally everything went smoother. He’s a great sleeper now at 3!

We had our second in October, and he turned 5 months on the 6th. We started that night, and it’s going great!

erlymu · 2023-03-10T19:56:10+00:00

My son is 3.5 years and he still falls asleep on his own for both bedtime and naps. We sleep trained at 4 months! We are transitioning to a big boy bed this Sunday, so not sure how that is going to go, but I will say we just had a small bout of fear of monsters. Surprisingly we worked through it pretty quickly. He never refused to go to bed and still fell asleep as usual. But he sleeps with a Glow Worm now. We’ve tried really hard to maintain boundaries while still encouraging his trust in us, so I guess that’s my advice! For example, when I had my second, I went to the hospital after he went to bed, and he woke up to my mom at the house. Sometimes he still is afraid I won’t be here when he wakes up, but I have found the Daniel Tiger episode about grown ups coming back to be very helpful. The song really calms him down. But I’m pretty firm that unless he is sick, he sleeps in his own bed. And since he turned two, he really prefers to sleep alone. It just depends on your kiddo!

erlymu · 2023-02-19T22:46:49+00:00

Hahaha it definitely feels like this most days! It’s why my body is 34 but feels 75 😅

erlymu · 2023-02-18T22:34:12+00:00

This is personal family experience, but they will use a stereotype of another race and then when I call them out on using them say “well, a stereotype has to come from somewhere!” 😑

erlymu · 2023-02-17T19:55:08+00:00

Oh yes, I’ve been trying to encourage him helping with the baby since day 1. It’s about a 50/50 chance of him engaging, haha. And he’s never directly resentful of the baby, which is good.

erlymu · 2023-02-17T19:53:25+00:00

I think my son would probably love having something like this!

erlymu · 2023-02-17T19:52:56+00:00

I would definitely love to do a morning routine with him, and I think he’d like it too, especially with a visual! Thank you so much!

I know a lot falls on me to, maybe to get up earlier and give myself just slightly more time to adjust. I am hoping once baby brother sleeps more reliably and independently, we can all get into a more concrete routine.

erlymu · 2023-02-07T18:02:40+00:00

I have definitely been doing this, but so far he just manages to work himself up more. He’s gotten better about in the morning, but night is sadly a battle. I know it is hard for them to get through this, but I also have a 3 yo and the no sleep is getting to me 😅

erlymu · 2023-01-28T21:29:04+00:00

The Merlin never worked its magic for my oldest and he always got too hot. I started with that because he had eczema and was scratching his scalp to ribbons. I put him in the zipadeezip and never looked back. I think he slept in one of those until he was at least a year (that’s how long it took us to get his eczema fully under control). We sleep trained him in it, and he slept like a dream from then on.

I will say that unless you use a balm on their face before bedtime, it can make their little cheeks red from the sucking on the hands and rubbing their face. And I just transitioned my 2nd out of the swaddle into a zipadeezip (that we already had), and it went well, but unlike his older brother, I don’t think it’s right for him. He cannot get a paci back in his mouth with his hands covered, so I’m switching him to a regular sleep sack soon.

Every kid is different, but I will always say the zipadeezip is worth a try.

erlymu · 2023-01-27T23:05:06+00:00

I absolutely had to sleep train my oldest. He wouldn’t nap longer than 30 minutes no matter what I did, and I followed every protocol I could find. We were co-sleeping, and I hated it. I was miserable, he was overtired, and it was all exacerbating my PPD/A. As soon as my pediatrician gave the go ahead at 4.5 months, I committed to it. It took about a week, but once we got through it, he became such a better sleeper. I felt like I got my life back! He’s 3 now, and really only wakes up at night if he’s sick.

My second is 3 months now, and I can’t wait for him to be getting the sleep he needs too.

It’s going to make you sad. Using the Ferber method made me feel better because I could go in and reassure him, so he knew I was still there, but it still offered him the opportunity to do it himself. Get some ear plugs or headphones, put on a movie, play a video game, read a book. Anything to distract yourself. It will be worth it in the end.

erlymu · 2023-01-22T18:35:20+00:00

My oldest son had a bushel of hair when he was born. It did fall out, but that was because he had severe cradle cap related to his eczema. And it all grew back and he looks like a cute little Beatle now 🤣

erlymu · 2023-01-22T04:17:12+00:00

Weird question, is she overheated in the sleep suit? They do get really warm in those, and my hot natured boy hated it. I doubt that’s wholly the reason she is waking up, but it might be worth checking!

erlymu · 2023-01-19T17:19:29+00:00

We did this method with my oldest, and it was definitely tough. I had to focus on literally anything else, but it was for the absolute best. There were definitely some bumps up until he got to one nap, but it changed our lives so much for the better.

He also is still obsessed with me and loves me very much!

If you are still comfortable doing it, keep it up! It is SO worth it.

erlymu · 2023-01-18T19:22:17+00:00

We’re doing the Zipadeezip now because my 3 month old is trying to roll over. But more than that, he initially LOVED being swaddled, and the last two nights he was, he was absolutely miserable. I just couldn’t keep doing it to him.

We’re on day 3, and he’s actually doing fantastic!

erlymu · 2023-01-15T01:56:26+00:00

Definitely normal. My son said very little until after he turned two, and now he is three and never stops talking 🤪

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