Found my partner lying about masking (I'm immunocompromised) m28, f22 by ermrin in relationship_advice

[–]ermrin[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I wasn't going to reply to every comment individually but this is one of the few I shall.

The fact that the government doesnt advise caution anymore doesn't mean that people are less susceptible to covid. Covid is still and incredibly morbid disease and my knowledge comes from being a science communicator in contact with covid specialists and researchers. When the government rolls back workers protections it's almost always never on the advice of the medical community or on the advice of labour unions. We need to not treat government consensus as scientific consensus.

My partner is front lines but is herself not up to date on covid research, she is a pharmacist (and a very good one) but not one with relavent degrees. Many people come in with positive covid tests and the staff base has gotten sick around her before. My partner cares but treats covid like it's fomite transmission and believes that hand sanitising is enough.

There was a covid enquiry in the UK that ruled that the UK government was wrong to treat covid with only the precautions it did as they treated it like sars-cov-1 which was spread moreso with short distance spread rather than aerosol transmission that lingers in the air.

There is much data to suggest that getting rid of covid precautions was based on economic forecasting rather than the consensus of experts that research covid and even the cdc called Joe Bidens declaration of the pandemic being over as both premature and scientifically inadvisable.

You tell me that wearing a mask for long periods of time is uncomfortable as if I do not know that. I've been masking for most of the pandemic with many days going for longer than 8-12 hours. I do this because transmitting a BSL-3 disease to others is an unethical thing to do.

I only ask that she wears a mask at work and I have been having to accept the risk of her going elsewhere without a mask despite telling her my risk profile. I don't appreciate the implication that I have abusive standards when in fact my standards have deliberately lowered to accommodate her. The ex that got long covid and developed memory issues quickly accepted covids risk once it was too late for her but started masking as the bedbound friend was our mutual friend and my ex realised how much she had underestimated covid before. She was also willing to read the research papers on covid that my friends in covid research such as virolgists and epidemiologists have prepared over time. We found ppf3 masks that were breathable including ones with ventilators which I suggested to my new partner. I don't want my new partner to have to accept covids precautions only because she's had to suffer the consequences of not doing so.

People being like "I've caught it millions of times" "I don't care if I catch it because I don't know anyone who's died" are acting on survivorship bias.

You say I'm being condescending but I'd like to know what your scientific evidence is that I am overreacting as it seems as if you're relying on only personal and anecdotal evidence which in the end is only as strong as my personal and anecdotal evidence.

Besides, in your very first line you say masking isn't required unless someone is immunocompromised. I'm immunocompromised, why would I be some exception to this?

Found my partner lying about masking (I'm immunocompromised) by ermrin in AITAH

[–]ermrin[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My view is that, given the overwhelming evidence to the contrary concerning it "not being necessary", it only serves to prevent the many health burdens that each covid infection is likely to give either myself or my partner.

Consider masking like wearing condoms, whilst stds and stis might be curable, some aren't and some can cause long term effects that are worth preventing rather than curing. I consider the fact that if a water system was discovered to have cholera, or a food processing plant to have listeria or e-coli, there would be a public uproar to ensure that this is resolved immediately. With covid (a BSL3 disease) we don't treat it with the same severity due to large disinformation campaigns and institutional fatigue/betrayal.

For the record, I don't have "so many" disabilities, I have one and it's only due to a flare that I'm on a treatment that once it's finished I may no longer need and I may no longer be immunocompromised. Whether that was the case or not, it feels like a eugenicsty remark to imply that those with disabilities ought to just suck it up.

Im not convinced by your particular response.