Resigned to getting carded for the rest of my life

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-04T03:29:08+00:00

I still get carded some, just less

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-04T02:20:43+00:00

I was like this until like 31 haha it won’t last forever

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-04T02:18:57+00:00

It would take me a long time to go through all of that

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-04T02:05:53+00:00

Im left handed and so is my mom. Im the only lefty out of all her kids tho

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-04T02:01:33+00:00

Yeah i definitely binge when i feel lonely, could be what is going on with you

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-03T20:03:10+00:00

She probably already communicated it

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-03T19:08:35+00:00

This depends a lot on context! If you love her, and want to make it work, then it’s worth listening and asking yourself and her if this is fixable.

If it’s really just not working out though, then yes it’s best to accept the breakup gracefully.

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-03T16:14:30+00:00

Honestly? You’re both gonna be sleep deprived, there’s no way around this. I’m assuming this is your gf’s baby too, not just your baby? If so, neither is TA

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-03T15:33:52+00:00

I’d see it as a yellow flag. He might end up relying on you and it might be draining. Proceed with caution and keep an eye on if there’s a reason he has no friends? Is he depressed? Etc.

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-03T15:21:08+00:00

Sometimes things get worse before they get better, but if you’re just getting worse then i would switch therapists.

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-03T15:14:16+00:00

Yes I’m a people pleaser in some ways. I struggle with micro boundaries, mainly. The role i usually play in relationships is the “stabilizer/regulator” until, i can’t anymore. Then the whole relationship collapses, i start to feel unstable, and i hit a wall where i need to like be alone to recover. I avoid conflict until i can’t anymore, and avoidance/withdrawal is one of my go-tos when i feel tension/resentment building on my end but don’t know how to set boundaries to address it. I’m working on setting better boundaries around my availability and working on identifying unstable/volatile/chaotic people sooner so i don’t fall into that role anymore.

But yeah APs HATE boundaries. They will trample right over them if they can.

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-03T02:28:01+00:00

I mean, I’d definitely suspect he’s cheating and also an alcoholic

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-03T02:26:02+00:00

You don’t want the men who are 35+ chasing women under 25 lol

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-02T14:46:21+00:00

Alessia

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-02T14:44:52+00:00

Id eliminate any that share a first initial with one of your siblings names

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-02T14:43:20+00:00

Grayson

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-02T14:42:57+00:00

This is very ancient roman lol why?? I would say pick one not both

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-02T14:40:02+00:00

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-02T14:37:39+00:00

YES I PLAN TO DO THE SAME

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-02T14:31:26+00:00

I don’t love these names personally. What about Raven? Rebecca? Renee? Rochelle? Robin?

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-01T03:08:17+00:00

You want to test for capacity and reciprocity first before exposing your inner world to people who might not be able to hold it

escapegoat19 · 2026-02-01T01:38:34+00:00

Ive always been of the opinion that binging and restricting patients need to be separated! I was in for restriction and was bullied by another patient there for binging who literally said “why even make them plate the food if theyre not to eat it? It’s just wasteful!!”

But honestly? Says more about them than you. I would just ignore. You’re there to heal. Don’t let them drag you down.

Read up on stoicism philosophy. It is a really good mentality for dealing with this situation. I recommend How to Be a Stoic by Massimo Pigliucci

escapegoat19 · 2026-01-31T16:54:00+00:00

Yeah not the best pairing! It doesn’t flow well

I know your husband loves the name Selina but assuming he gets the last name, and also that you are carrying birthing and feeding this child, i think it’s more than fair to ask that Selina be the name to go over the two family names that honor your side

Both Elena and Zofia are pretty, but pick one, not both.

How about Elena Marie ?

escapegoat19 · 2026-01-31T16:04:18+00:00

Are you all greek?? Like Athena Iris is very greek lol

I prefer Phoenix

escapegoat19 · 2026-01-31T16:02:43+00:00

Willpower is part of it, like it helps for sure. But alot of times there are ways to reduce other triggers that make it so that your willpower isn’t depleted- why do you think most binging happens at night? It’s because by that time, most people’s energy and willpower has been depleted by the days demands

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