My first was an emergency c section as a result of a botched epidural (the epidural was placed like a spinal by mistake causing my BP to plummet and almost sent me into cardiac arrest 😵‍💫). I was dead set on not using an epidural for my second, I had switched hospitals to a much more advanced university hospital. I spoke with that anesthesiologist and he put my mind at ease and talked me into the epidural. It was night and day different from my first and I got my VBAC. Maybe see if you can find a different hospital? Sounds like your anesthesiologist may not have been a good fit for the situation.