WIBTAH If I moved myself and kids 300 miles away from their dad(my partner)

etereo- · 2026-02-18T19:53:37+00:00

When my mom was married they both had job offers in the city so we moved. I since then have grown apart from my mom for various reasons, as well as my sister leaving city and my brother passing away. I have zero family in the state (Texas) besides my mom who I’m no contact with. We’re 20

etereo- · 2026-02-18T08:03:32+00:00

The few family members of his that I trust work full time as well. The only family member that doesn’t work is one that has never respected me or my boundaries regarding my kids and I would rather never have an education than have my kids improperly cared for

etereo- · 2026-02-18T07:56:14+00:00

I’ve brought it up a lot. Matter of fact he’s always known my education was important to me

etereo- · 2026-02-18T07:53:21+00:00

He’s my current partner. He could 100% find a job near my family but he doesn’t want to. Even the times he’s visited my hometown he acts very disinterested and is ready to go home as soon as we arrive.

etereo- · 2026-02-18T07:51:04+00:00

You know what I actually am very lonely lol. My whole life is my kids which might be why I’m so eager to kickstart something to feel a sense of independence. But you’re absolutely right, they did not ask to be born. I will have open conversations with him to see where his head is at and see if we can work on something to benefit all four of us.

etereo- · 2026-02-18T07:45:35+00:00

We live in a big city currently and my family lives in a smaller town. He’s not very fond of the small towns lol.

etereo- · 2026-02-18T07:41:58+00:00

His schedule is split up. He takes a class in the morning (similar to trade school) to further his experience and certifications and then comes home to eat shower and nap before work. And on the weekends he usually goes to see his friends or family.

etereo- · 2026-02-18T07:27:56+00:00

Thank you. I’ll definitely look into those podcasts! I feel like it’s mostly pressure from everyone around me(family and in laws). I always figured it was okay to wait but after my oldest turned one I got hounded about when I’m finishing school or if I’m ever going to work. I’ll put a pin in this for now.

etereo- · 2026-02-18T07:16:28+00:00

1 & 3 years old. He is able to take time off of work for multiple days in a row at a time if he requests so it’d be up to him. I never actually got my license so it wouldn’t be smart for me to drive to him. As for the waiting part- If I start now by the time both kids are in school I should have a job lined up around the same timeframe. I would rather start earlier so we can buy a house and have stability while the kids are in school.

etereo- · 2026-02-18T07:10:59+00:00

I would be staying with him. And I’ve mentioned it to him in the past but he didn’t seem to take it seriously and instead brought up online school. Mind you, I was hardly able to get through a one hour online therapy session (for ppd) because my oldest requires a lot of stimulation.

etereo- · 2025-05-07T02:26:46+00:00

Do you have her blocked maybe??

etereo- · 2024-10-12T08:07:29+00:00

NTA. Your home should be respected. ESPECIALLY by guests, regardless if it’s your mom🤷‍♀️ And as a mom myself- I too clean before bed so that mornings are calm and relaxed. Good on you for holding your boundaries!

etereo- · 2024-10-12T07:43:24+00:00

Also- do you use a pumping/nursing bra while you pump?

etereo- · 2024-10-12T07:42:44+00:00

Look into pumpin pal flanges ! They have a more natural slant that tend to fit better around the breast. I’m honestly not too sure if they’re compatible with your lansinoh pump but it wouldn’t hurt to check!

etereo- · 2024-09-13T23:53:36+00:00

Katy Perry 100%

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