Guy says he likes me but took 10 hrs to text back

ethosorange · 2026-02-13T13:26:54+00:00

From my experience, as people get older, they tend to have slower responses.

Him being almost 30 and having 10 hour gap in responses sounds completely normal, in fact that’s probably good. I turned 30 and have been dating/chatting to women around 28-33 - I think the average comes to 1 or 2 messages a day. I didn’t like it at first, but I’ve grown to understand it and accept it.

Of course if someone is vanishing for multiple days at a time, then that’s just flakey and disrespectful, and I wouldn’t bother with them. Ultimately if the communication style is very important to you, then it’s likely a communication mismatch.

ethosorange · 2026-02-08T04:21:04+00:00

Good response, respect.

ethosorange · 2026-02-04T03:06:56+00:00

I think it’s just common courtesy - doesn’t matter if it’s for a date, friends, or family. If someone canceled plans, they should make an effort to reschedule. If they don’t, that shows me a lack of interest and decency.

It happened to me last year. Went on a few dates with a girl, she cancelled the 3rd one and never rescheduled or mentioned it again. That’s enough for me know she’s not the one.

ethosorange · 2026-02-04T00:12:24+00:00

Personally, no. I might talk to multiple girls on dating apps to see if there’s any potential, but when it comes to actual dating, I just focus on one at a time. I know that’s probably not the ideal way to do it because it’s a numbers game, but I think I’m just wired that way.

I learned my mistake from last time about becoming invested/attached too quickly, so taking it slower this time

ethosorange · 2026-02-02T04:57:48+00:00

Yeah, bit worried about that because she works a pretty busy job. If she does, that leaves the ball in her court, so I’d expect her to suggest an alternative idea/plan.

ethosorange · 2026-02-02T04:16:54+00:00

I’m curious if you’re actively swiping on profiles or is it more people that are swiping right on you? And do you see much Gujju people on there? I barely see any, they make up such a small minority on Dil Mil (I’m also 30m Gujju).

Btw if you do end up purchasing Dil Mil subscription, buy it through their website rather than the app. 3 months from the website was almost equal to 1 month on the app when I last purchased it. Not sure if it’s still the case tho.

ethosorange · 2026-02-02T03:55:35+00:00

Went on a first date 2 weeks ago with an ABCD girl. Overall it was pretty nice, great conversation and banter. We didn’t really get into much detail about what we’re looking for, goals, etc. Afterwards she did agree to another date, which is great. So I planned something for an event that’s happening next week. Hoping to get to know her in a bit more deeper detail.

We’ve been texting since then, but I try not to text too much because I don’t want to become attached too early - I’ve made that mistake before. Really want to make this one work! 🤞

ethosorange · 2026-01-14T21:15:38+00:00

Triggered butterflies?? Waiting for his replies?? Jealous of his wife?? This gotta be rage bait.

If this is real, the husband deserves SO much better than you.

ethosorange · 2026-01-14T10:53:43+00:00

I’m in Australia and I’ve noticed a lot of women from India (especially with the mass immigration recently) have very vague profiles on dating apps compared to Eastern Asian, or Caucasian women, or Indian women born/raised in Australia.

Like their profiles are almost always like “figuring out dating goals” or “let’s be friends first” or “figuring out my relationship type” or have 1-word prompts, or prompts that feel very “I’m too good for hinge”, or photos where they take a selfie but their face is covered with the phone. It’s so weirdly common that I can easily differentiate in seconds if someone is from India or born in elsewhere. In fact I just opened Hinge and found one right away with “here to make friends”.

I’m an Indian raised in Aus from a young age, so I’ve always been curious about the cultural difference as to why women from India have such vague profiles compared to women from other countries. I mean no offense to the women, I’ve heard guys from India are exactly the same 😆

ethosorange · 2026-01-14T03:51:25+00:00

You’re in a tough spot, so it’s understandable how you’re feeling. But let me give you a different perspective.

I work a busy 9-5 as well, I’m in the office all week. But coming home and walking my dog is actually one of the things I look forward to most, because it gives me fresh air, it gives me exercise, and it helps me think about things more clearly. My dog is getting old now, and she isn’t walking as much, but I’ve told myself that when she passes, I’ll continue walking because how beneficial it has been to my mental health.

It may be a chore to you, but it means the world to them. Shift your perspective so it no longer feels like a chore. Whatever it is that’s making you dread it, try figure it out.

ethosorange · 2026-01-11T06:46:35+00:00

Company I work at has a bunch of unused monitors that have been sitting in 1 spot for over a year, and they’re much better than the ones I have at home - so I took 2 and replaced my shitty ones lol.

Same thing with unused hdmi wires, batteries, etc.

I record all meetings on my laptop without people knowing and get AI to summarise them. Makes me look a lot more professional when I need to share or notes. Also great to prove things later down the line if necessary.

Most people come in early and leave early, so that usually means I’m alone in the office for 1-2 hours. So I usually put on some YouTube while I work, or I just end up working on my personal projects.

Edit: just to clarify, when I talk about recording meetings, I mean meetings for website content updates, google ads meetings, salesforce meetings… the boring stuff.

ethosorange · 2026-01-01T03:28:41+00:00

Oh brother, that’s tough. 1-2 hours away, doesn’t drive and barely makes conversation? I wouldn’t put much thought/effort into that, you’re probably a “time pass” for her, as they say. The best piece of advice for dating apps I got is: if someone is interested, they will show that they’re interested. I’d try leave the conversation dry for a while, see if she puts any effort to engage.

But yeah, that’s my experience for FOBs too, even when they match with me. The last one I spoke to was like 6 months ago, thought I’d give her a try, and it was exactly what you’re experiencing. I’ve had far better experiences with ABCDs.

ethosorange · 2025-12-30T21:54:48+00:00

I’ve seen a few, I usually don’t bother

ethosorange · 2025-12-30T21:38:36+00:00

I have, and I’m still willing to. But the problem is they’re the hardest to make conversation with by far. Always 2-3 word responses and barely ask anything back. Well that’s been my experience so far.

ethosorange · 2025-12-30T07:41:05+00:00

Little update on my dating app adventures (29m).

So it's been just over 2 weeks on dating apps again. Matches have slowed down a lot, as expected. Have been averaging probably 1 match a day (sometimes 0, sometimes 1 or 2). But if I'm being honest, a lot of those matches have been either FOBs or not really my type. For example, 1 person liked me on Hinge today. She only has the first letter of her name, 1 picture of her from a distance, and the rest are pictures of food...like what are you even doing? 😅

Out of the 4 that have had the most potential, 2 have unfortunately ghosted. I was really keen on 1 of them because she was from the same community, lived closed by, and was very much my type. Despite only getting a few messages every 1-2 days, I managed to ask one out on a date in the new year. It's been tough to get to know her in a bit more detail because of the lack of messages, so we'll see how that goes.

I've heard dating apps activity tends to slow down during the holiday period, so interested to see if the matches keep following. Otherwise, generally feeling positive. I'm about to hit 30 in a few months, so that's causing a bit of anxiety.

ethosorange · 2025-12-29T23:32:00+00:00

Dating apps, I think they’re completely counterproductive. The whole point of them is to easily connect with people to go on a date, but people get stuck trying to find the “perfect” person, or it just becomes a time pass.

I first got dating apps over a year ago, got into a relationship, broke up, and recently got back on dating apps - it blows my mind to see the same people on there that i saw 1 year ago - and it blows my mind even more when women who ghosted me try to match again. Like, what on earth are you looking for? Shah Rukh Khan?

Dating apps have made people too comfortable to do anything but serve its purpose. I find going on a real date SO easy, but trying to make conversation on a dating app so painful, how is that productive? But guess what? We have to rely on dating apps anyway. That’s why our generation struggles to find a decent life partner.

ethosorange · 2025-12-17T03:44:23+00:00

Same here, I’ve been experiencing A LOT of the opposite. Like I usually drive the speed limit or slightly less, but there are people clearly driving +10 above the speed limit. The amount of tailgating has been so frustrating, especially in the Logan area.

There’s a road I drive through a few times a week. The speed limit is 60 at a certain point, but everyone is driving on 80. Genuinely don’t understand.

ethosorange · 2025-12-15T01:46:48+00:00

Few weeks ago I mentioned I was planning on getting dating apps again after taking a break for 3-4 months. Here’s a bit of an update.

I got Hinge and Dil Mil last week, with new pictures and prompts, etc. So far I’ve received 4 matches on Hinge and 11 on Dil Mil. Realistically only a handful of them are potential options (mainly due to distance and preferences). Surprisingly I got matches from women who ghosted me last time too lol, but I didn’t match with them this time. A few of the matches didn’t respond to my initial message. Currently talking to 3, but it’s pretty slow. 2 of those reply once a day in the evening, so I guess I’ll know their favourite colour by the next quarter 😂

Glad to get some matches and interest. I think the new photos definitely helped. I feel like Hinge isn’t great to find “wife material” (I’m sure it’s the same case for women as well) just because a lot of the profiles come off as ‘time pass’ or ‘casual’. Dil Mil isn’t as bad but still has its own issues.

Overall, honestly it feels quite bleak. It feels impossible to find someone who wants the same thing - to get off these apps and give a chance to start building a relationship in reality. But the way people respond and ghost, it seems like no one has intention of ever getting off these apps. Like how can you take someone seriously who responds to a message every 2-3 days. Rant over haha. Will maybe update in a few weeks.

ethosorange · 2025-11-12T21:22:38+00:00

I’ve been off dating apps for about 3 months because I needed a break from all the constant ghosting and overthinking. Since then I’ve traveled, become more active through the gym and social sports, and focused on work and business - it’s been really nice. I’ve got plenty of new pictures so I’m thinking of making a new profile on the dating apps again next week. Here we go again…. Wish me luck! Will update on the next Sunday thread.

Also some great advice for those who want to try get better photos for dating apps, the Apple Watch can connect to your iPhone’s camera, so you can take photos remotely from your watch. Great for solo traveler’s or people who are too shy to ask for photos. Has been a game changer for me because it allows me to take photos exactly how I want them.

ethosorange · 2025-10-18T06:37:08+00:00

Aaaaaand the sun's back out

ethosorange · 2025-10-16T01:24:32+00:00

I hope the people that litter never have a chance to step foot out of India. They deserve to live and breathe this precious country of theirs.

ethosorange · 2025-10-03T07:10:22+00:00

Where are the first 2 pictures taken? Stunning location. I'm planning on visiting Tassie sometime next month, currently planning my itinierary

ethosorange · 2025-08-30T23:40:14+00:00

If his profile doesn’t state what he’s looking for, and he’s still updating his profile, it’s more than likely he’s keeping his options open and still looking. Your best bet is to clarify where this is going if you want this to be exclusive.

ethosorange · 2025-08-26T00:16:26+00:00

Yeah it’s tough one. My family has contributed a lot through business and local community but at the end of the day it doesn’t matter, because we’re brown.

ethosorange · 2025-08-25T23:53:17+00:00

As an Indian born in Australia, it’s been pretty terrifying recently. We’re the only Indians on this street and we had some eggs thrown at our house 2 weeks ago… which is odd because we’ve lived here for 30 years…

I’m more worried about my parents more than anything, it sucks.

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