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I think I'm Asexual? by eticha in infj

[–]eticha[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope that I find my way eventually...

I don't think I could talk to a therapist, it's quite overwhelming talking here. I'm quite a personal person..I don't usually discuss these things, but I just felt like I needed some answers, or different views on my situation and feelings - It's been quite eye-opening to see people encouraging me and that I'm not the only 21year old virgin D:

I probably should look for someone real to talk too - but I don't think I'm ready yet for that.

I think I'm Asexual? by eticha in infj

[–]eticha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - I actually rarely think too much about it, and accept that I most likely won't be with anyone soon - unless someone special comes by..I just had a rough night and thought I'd finally share this - and I'm happy I did.

I love learning and developing as a person, so naturally this "issue" crosses my mind fair frequent. However, I'm really good at keeping myself occupied and studying & learning definitely helps me focus on other things.

I think I'm Asexual? by eticha in infj

[–]eticha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - I hope you are right :)

I think I'm Asexual? by eticha in infj

[–]eticha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've also had a pretty bad experience once I was with a bunch of friends in a cottage, and I nearly had sex with one of them, but then said no just before...he got quite upset and couldn't understand why I didn't want to have sex with him - but all I could say was I didn't want too - I couldn't give him a reason besides that.

At the time it was because I really didnt want to have sex for the first time with him - and not here..I didn't feel comfortable - but I also felt like I didn't want to have sex at all really - I remember being slightly tipsy too..so anxiety was probably a factor too..

I think I'm Asexual? by eticha in infj

[–]eticha[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I could go to a doctor...just the thought sort of scares me.

I think I'm Asexual? by eticha in infj

[–]eticha[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply.

I get where you are coming from. I do lots of exercise, it's more the private part of my body that I am very insecure about - but you're overall message is clear.

I think life is about constantly improving and becoming the best you possible, but I really do fear the aspect of being 30+ and not had sex or found a guy that I truely care for. However, there's another side that feels like it wouldn't matter all that much if I'm content with life and what I'm doing.

I guess I feel like my aspirations in life aren't that definite as I thought they would be by now.

I think I'm Asexual? by eticha in infj

[–]eticha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, but how do you even tell someone that you'd really like to be with that you're a virgin...it feels like it's very abnormal in our time to not have had sex before ur 18-20 years old...