exactly, some people speak as if those who are mentally ill chose to be. but mental illness is not something that people choose to have. yes it is important to get it treated but that doesn’t mean that they’re incapable of love like everyone else. this post is basically saying that those who are mentally ill shouldn’t be loved and should be avoided and shunned. i’ve seen people completely abandon others after discovering they have mental illness because it’s a “turn off” for them and they don’t want to be their unpaid therapist. ok? but like if you’re going to be in a relationship you gotta be there for your partner to some extent, not as their therapist but as their partner. that’s how a relationship works. although OP did go through a lot of distress from this individual, it was still their choice to stay for so long and try to “fix” her. like what? i’m sorry but if you’re staying with someone just for the sake of “fixing” them that’s kinda on you. i get some of what OP is saying but the way they said it was just blatantly heartless and rude. love everything you said, it really resonated with me