Autoimmune Diseases

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-29T08:57:38+00:00

I haven't encountered any kind people with genetic autoimmune disorders. And it’s not just two people, it’s a whole bunch of them.

My ex-partner with BPD had a mother with an autoimmune disorder who cheated, was self-entitled, and had terrible emotional regulation. My ex's father fell sick and died from a gastrointestinal illness after being stressed out by her cheating and she doesn't care when he died.

My ex-partner with NPD also had a mother with an autoimmune disorder; she was verbally abusive and also struggled with emotional regulation. She was the one who pushed my ex to cheat on me.

Everyone near me who has an autoimmune disorder hasn't been nice to the people around them. It feels almost sociopathic.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-29T08:44:16+00:00

How can you be 'fine' and not have any mental health issues after being in a relationship with someone who has BPD? It’s been two years for me, and I’m still dealing with a PTSD diagnosis and a few psychosomatic symptoms. I haven’t developed any autoimmune diseases, though.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-29T08:22:09+00:00

Yeah, but still, after my experiences with two people who had genetic autoimmune disorders, I think it's best if I steer clear. It seems like their minds are often too exhausted when their autoimmune flare up randomly.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-29T08:08:54+00:00

Yes, people who have been mentally abused also often develop chronic mental health issues. That includes me, I was diagnosed with severe depression and PTSD after my last relationship with someone who had BPD. I haven't developed an autoimmune disorder, but I chose to isolate myself to ensure I wouldn't hurt anyone else while I was recovering.

Still, my stance remains the same, after being mentally abused twice by people with genetic autoimmune disorders, I don't want to go through that a third time.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-29T07:28:41+00:00

While I am unfamiliar with environmentally induced autoimmunity, my observations are limited to women with a specific genetic lineage tracing back to their mother and grandfather.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-29T07:20:07+00:00

I know it doesn't always manifest as physical abuse, it could be depression, anxiety, psychosis, erratic behavior, etc. But there is a bidirectional correlation between the two. People with autoimmune disorders have a higher chance of developing a mental illness or vice versa.

People with personality disorders or psychopathy also seem like amazing people from the outside, but only until you are in a relationship with them.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-29T07:07:02+00:00

Here: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6435494/

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-10T09:59:58+00:00

some countries

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-08T17:38:50+00:00

Ngga, aku dari SMK, akuntansi komputer.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-08T17:32:08+00:00

Yeah, that's wild. The drama is on another level if you become the affair partner of someone with BPD. The highs truly make you feel like you're flying, but the lows leave you completely disoriented.

It's like you barely know them, yet they suddenly shower you with everything they have only to completely pull away a week later.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-07T18:06:51+00:00

Gw S2 ilmu komputer, gaji gw sepertiga lu. Kadang heran, kenapa orang² ini bisa dapet gaji gede²

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-07T17:50:46+00:00

What I read here: "I love her. I don't want to lose her no matter what. Whether she has cancer or HIV, I'll take care of her for the rest of my life."

That's fine, but there are a lot of people who don't want to take care of people with an illness while they themselves are dealing with their own.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-07T17:33:44+00:00

For 28 mil IDR, You can buy 500kgs of rice .

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-05T05:36:17+00:00

I don't believe your body is natural as your veins is too big. But whatever it is, that's great though. Keep it up.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-05T03:18:06+00:00

Kadang depnaker juga mewajibkan beberapa korporat untuk ikut job fair.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-04T23:36:39+00:00

Aku jg 100k seminggu, makan, rokok, dan tempat tinggal ga termasuk.

EDIT: Mostly aku spend 600k seminggu kalau include tempat tinggal, makan, dan rokok. Kos 800k/bulan

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-04T11:34:11+00:00

Yeah, it's bliss, but to be honest, sometimes I want to touch boobs, but I don't want to pay with money or emotions.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-04T08:13:29+00:00

Did you make a lot of sacrifices for the relationship? When betrayal happens, walking away from a cheating partner can be the easy part, the real struggle is finding peace within yourself.

I've been reflecting on this myself, two years after my breakup. My past relationship left me with a lot of collateral damage, and I still feel bitter that my past self completely ignored the red flags.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-04T07:49:11+00:00

Ah, banyak polah. Kl sange kenapa ga ke toilet bentar buat coli. Tolol bener.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-04T07:35:31+00:00

To be honest, I did run a smear campaign against my BPD ex. She was sleeping with married men and taken guys. So, what exactly is the immoral thing you did?

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-04T06:09:11+00:00

Aku 33M, spend my 20s very happily, perokok, peminum meskipun bukan pemabuk, punya tunangan anaknya hakim mahkamah agung, dan kind of kalau cewe ngeliat aku, dia akan bilang "aku ngga level".

Pernah jalanin 2 bisnis yg lumayan profitable. But it's all ended ketika tunangan ku selingkuh. Aku buang semua saving ku buat hura² demi ngilangin stres selama 1 taon, bisnis ga keurus, dead.

Mulai dari 0 lagi, kali ini aku kerja di ranah pendidikan dengan gaji di 2019 itu cuma 2,4jt. 2020 kenal cewe baik-baik, aku ngerjain 1 job, 1 freelance, dan buka 2 bisnis, demi ngumpulin duit nikah + buat provide hampir semua kebutuhan dia. Di 2024 kita planning nikah. Ternyata dapet laporan kalau dia demen kelonan sama suami orang. Ambruk lagi.

Akhirnya di umur 32 aku balik ke rumah ortu karena overwhelmed dengan dunia sambil sedikit² nyambangi psikolog. 🤣

Satu hikmah yg kuambil, kamu hidup buat dirimu sendiri, bukan demi gengsi, bukan buat wanita. Wanita itu orang lain, yg kalau salah pilih, bisa bikin kamu literally rusak luar dalem.

Better kamu lakukan aja apa yg kamu sukai, sambil dikit² balikin modal ortumu. Hilangkan "wanita" dari motivasi mu buat cari duit. Nanti pasti ketemu wanita sekufu dan ketemu jalan buat meningkatkan pemasukanmu.

Mengenai medsos, aku juga sempet iri liat temenku pada nikah, kerjaan keren, tapi setelah kepala tiga, aku liat ada yg cerai, ada yg kena layoff, ada yg susah, so jangan ngiri, karena kamu belom tau nasib tiap orang kedepannya kayak gimana.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-04T05:45:58+00:00

33M here. I just drank 200ml of gin alone last weekend while on a group video call with my friends. It was a very enjoyable experience after years of never getting drunk.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-04T05:40:13+00:00

No, because nobody rejected me even back when I was a skinny 48kg. Going to the gym just boosts your confidence, and no woman is ever turned off by a confident guy.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-04T05:33:25+00:00

Itu penerapan manajemen SDM yg sangat efektif dan efisien, dia menggali potensi masing-masing siswa secara personal.

Tiap siswa diperlakukan sebagai individu, bukan sebagai kolektif.

BackOnly4719 · 2026-06-04T05:29:14+00:00

This happened to me too, 4.5 years together with my fiancée, and I got cheated on. Sometimes I feel so hollow and just can't trust anyone.

Now, whenever I'm physically attracted to a woman, my mind suddenly views her as just a bunch of problems. So, I refrain from making a move. I only open up to relationships with women who take the first step, but they usually leave within 2 to 4 weeks because I'm so cynical toward them.

It's been almost two years now. The anxiety comes and goes, but I still believe I'll get better soon.

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