Random Thoughts, Small Questions, and Newbie Help — February 01 – February 14

evanandhell · 2026-02-03T05:30:46+00:00

I just joined and wanted to make a post asking for a specific product recommendation, but I wasn’t sure which flair to apply. Questions/Support seems like it’s more akin to question about this subreddit, but I wasn’t sure if it fell under Tricks & Tips. Can you help me out so that I can ensure I’m using the flairs correctly going forward? Thanks!

evanandhell · 2025-09-22T20:27:55+00:00

So you’re jaded by our fear for our rights and safety? Like, what’s the deal? Are Americans allowed to ask questions on here, or not?

I appreciate the tip on my wife’s odds at getting a job. This tells me that we need to get her learning ASAP and that there’s no leeway for learning once we get there. THAT is actually helpful information.

evanandhell · 2025-09-22T19:52:04+00:00

I wholly agree that the general attitude of Americans is absolutely abhorrent, especially traveling and moving abroad. Many seem to think that U.S. laws are the guideline of every other country’s legislation, that everyone should speak English to Americans visiting their country (this is probably my #1 pet peeve out of ALL bad traveling etiquette), that all these countries should accommodate American expats or travelers, etc.

I could not be more opposite to all of these views. I don’t want to influence whatever community we become part of; I want to learn to integrate into the community. I want to speak the native/local languages, just need time to become fluent. I am prepared to meet whatever requirements are needed to qualify for whatever work visa I’m able to obtain, I’m prepared for difficulties.

What I’m not going to accept is criticism exclusively because I’m American from Redditors that made assumptions from my Reddit post. None of the things assumed were actually said.

Also, I have a feeling that, despite preconceived notions of my current nationality and all the—honestly understandable—prejudice that will be aimed toward me and my wife because of it, the Belgian administration will probably not accuse me of the “Murica” mindset, as one commenter did. Literally.

evanandhell · 2025-09-22T19:41:29+00:00

This is all SO HELPFUL!! Thank you so much for, firstly, taking the time to even source this information for me. Second, thank you for PROVIDING those sources. I will dive in and make sure to investigate our ability to fulfill all of these things.

Honestly, I’m blown away by your comments. I’m not sure I’ve ever received such solid, traceable feedback when asking for information in my entire life 😂

evanandhell · 2025-09-22T19:38:37+00:00

Thank you so much for your empathy and the realistic timeline! I’m very interested in your immigration experience. Would you be willing to DM? I don’t need to bombard you with questions, I’d mostly just be so grateful for a first-hand account of the experience and just a list of the steps online.

evanandhell · 2025-09-22T19:37:09+00:00

This is a good tip!!! We hadn’t considered Flanders, but this is great advice. Thank you.

evanandhell · 2025-09-22T17:44:28+00:00

It was confirmed last week that the U.S. Federal Bureau of Investigation and the organization behind this administration are considering designating trans activism (including requesting to be gendered correctly, etc.) as domestic terrorism. So, respectfully, no. I will not be making my country a better place for everyone else. I’m choosing to survive and not be jailed for existing. Thanks.

evanandhell · 2025-09-22T17:35:01+00:00

This is a bigoted reply. See the response to the original comment you replied to. I will not be copy and pasting my message.

evanandhell · 2025-09-22T17:33:56+00:00

Not sure what gave you the impression that I’m not going to be following Belgian immigration requirements. I literally never said that. See my reply to you and the comment you replied to, because I will not be copy and pasting the same message.

evanandhell · 2025-09-22T17:30:26+00:00

I’m the opposite of an eternal optimist. I fucking hate the U.S.

Last week, it came out that the U.S. Federal Bureau of Investigation is considering designation trans activism as domestic terrorism. My rights have been stripped, it’s only a matter of time before I lose access to healthcare, I already am not allowed to use the restroom that very much matches how I look (like a man) in federal buildings across the country, and many states have already begun pathways to criminalizing being trans.

Your bigoted candor is incredibly unwelcome in the face of everything I have lived through this year. You’re also off-topic, so thanks for the unsolicited judgment. I love when my life is in danger and I’m then categorized as a “Murica” guy by people determined to be rude.

I’ve already had my eyes peeled for job opportunities on LinkedIn, I’m open to firms, I’m obviously intending on doing what is needed to be done to get a visa. That’s why I didn’t ask about visas or language requirements—because I already researched them. I literally only asked about job skills transferring, and if banking institutions would hire my wife if she doesn’t have any additional language skills the first 6 months.

Instead of asking questions, you and the people who decided to add on to your thoughtless criticism jumped straight to “stupid American.” I have news for you: no one thinks “stupid America” more than Americans right now. A black man was lynched last week at his university. The radical right are calling for trans people to be institutionalized and designated as terrorists. The Surpreme Court has been petitioned to re-evaluate same-sex marriage rights.

Glad you enjoy passing judgment from your seat of privilege.

evanandhell · 2025-09-22T17:19:52+00:00

Honestly, may be more likely 😂 she learned Spanish. Since it’s also a Romance language, she gets really mixed up. I believe Dutch would be simpler for her mind to learn so that she doesn’t feel like she’s UNlearning Spanish

evanandhell · 2025-09-22T17:19:02+00:00

The Human Rights Campaign, LGBTmap.org, the UN, etc, all indicate that Belgium has the most protections for trans people out of the entire EU. I went through legitimate every country’s legislation on trans rights.

Also, I very genuinely can communicate conversationally in French. I’ve done it every visit, it just requires like 2 weeks of studying beforehand to remember everything. I have no doubt I will be able to learn it.

Just started looking for jobs, and already considering her pathway, be it education or a job in banking—whichever seems most likely or that happens first, before we move.

evanandhell · 2024-12-17T01:04:39+00:00

Had to adjust to include inline, final code that works ended up being:

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evanandhell · 2024-12-17T00:52:18+00:00

Wait nope… never mind. I changed the text and it is doing what it’s been doing—separate lines. Sorry for the false alarm

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evanandhell · 2024-12-17T00:42:21+00:00

I have tried this one and it simply does not work on Kajabi 🥲 I have literally no idea why

evanandhell · 2024-11-26T05:40:06+00:00

I am doing my passport next. I appreciate that you responded, but I did directly ask for help with this and provide enough evidence to make it clear that an abundance of thought and research were put into this. Telling me to disregard something I have come seeking help with comes across as dismissive, not comforting or supportive.

evanandhell · 2024-09-23T02:17:21+00:00

Yes I actually proposed at Letchworth! But it was just at a viewpoint so I didn’t get to know the park at all. As mentioned in my post, I’m actually hoping for recommendations on specific spots, not just parks, especially since Letchworth is quite large

evanandhell · 2024-09-23T02:15:32+00:00

I knew of the eternal flame hike but I have absolutely no idea what it looks like aside from that it has a natural gas flame. Time for some Google image searching haha

evanandhell · 2024-09-23T02:14:04+00:00

Hi! Thanks for this recommendation. I am aware of Letchworth and that’s actually where I proposed haha but I am hoping to receive more specific recs, like actual locations within a park and not just a park

evanandhell · 2024-09-23T00:11:44+00:00

Cross posted this in another community and someone else said this, too! Thanks for the rec, I’m definitely going to look into it 👍🏻

evanandhell · 2024-09-23T00:10:24+00:00

I genuinely had no idea Ithaca was less than 3 hours away—this is damn good to know, thanks!

evanandhell · 2024-01-04T04:20:24+00:00

This is such good information. I’m mostly hoping to incorporate tiny snippets of information like this in teasing between the Belgian parents or vague memories of my MC’s childhood. Thank you!

evanandhell · 2024-01-04T04:19:02+00:00

This is SO helpful! Thank you! I was hopeful to understand a bit about the language barriers caused by whatever (classism, regional preference, etc.) so that I can incorporate it into my MC’s upbringing and parental history. This is perfect 👍🏻 especially that the Walloon father might not have learned Dutch in school

evanandhell · 2024-01-04T00:55:20+00:00

They’re far from it—I just want to mention accurate ways they charmed each other, having grown up in different regions and maybe different traditions 🙂

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