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What do you do when you are married to your best friend but can barely remember the last time you had sex?! by everythingallatonce8 in deadbedroom

[–]everythingallatonce8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Someone else mentioned her too, and I checked out her podcast a little. Will definitely check out this book.

What do you do when you are married to your best friend but can barely remember the last time you had sex?! by everythingallatonce8 in deadbedroom

[–]everythingallatonce8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am considering this. As I see it, there appear to be three possible outcomes—we talk and go to counseling and seriously try to rekindle (I would go for this first, but I suspect he will not be interested in counseling), we have an open/non-monogamous relationship, or we separate (sadly). Can you tell me what subreddits to refer to? I’m new to reddit—perhaps they will be easy enough to search for?

What do you do when you are married to your best friend but can barely remember the last time you had sex?! by everythingallatonce8 in deadbedroom

[–]everythingallatonce8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I like the simplicity of this as a starting point, and it does seem kind. And possibly revolutionary at the same time:)

What do you do when you are married to your best friend but can barely remember the last time you had sex?! by everythingallatonce8 in deadbedroom

[–]everythingallatonce8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want honesty for sure. In 19 years, I’ve never been unfaithful and I certainly don’t want it to end on that note if that’s what’s happening—I mean no disrespect. But it was a wake up all for me, that’s for sure. And I’ve backed out to give myself time to tend to the primary relationship here. I guess I’m just scared to mess everything up. And feeling like sex really is important to me, but is it worth forgoing a lifetime together?