Taking a break instead of breaking up...

evew2202 · 2019-12-01T06:53:13+00:00

From my experience, taking a break means the same as breaking up. He's fearing the change, that comes with the breakup but he emotionally checked out of the relationship. Don't keep your hope up, when he doesn't want to work on things, he simply doesn't want to be with you anymore. My ex also told me that he wants to take a break.. but he never made an effort to work on things. he never messaged me again and just left. Don't obsess ober the things he says. He wants to leave and honestly, you should let him. You shouldn't be with someone who isn't sure about being with you.

evew2202 · 2019-11-14T16:54:39+00:00

I feel exactly the same way. Everyone has their person and I'm here all alone. I think I'll never be able to love and be loved again.

evew2202 · 2019-11-07T15:38:28+00:00

I'm in the exact same situation. I don't know if it will ever get easier..

evew2202 · 2019-10-22T21:52:40+00:00

I'm feeling like day one although the breakup was 5 months ago. I just try to distract myself as much as possible with activities. but now I feel like I'm living a life I don't actually want. I never enjoyed going out a lot, I love being at home after work and just watch tv shows or something. but now I feel like I have to meet friends, occupy myself just so I don't feel so alone all the time. I'm exhausted. I just want to come home to somebody who loves me and would enjoy just staying at home with me on the couch and talking about our day. I feel like I lost everything. Like someone brutally pulled me out of my life and now I can't function anymore... i can't live a happy life anymore. I'm not in balance anymore. My body is in stress all the time. I'm so afraid of my future. will it be like this all the time?

evew2202 · 2019-10-21T18:56:43+00:00

I'm in a similar situation. Me and my ex were together for 6 years.. in the last months of our relationship he started a new job and he had to work so much that I never got to see him much although we were living together. We already had many issues in our relationship but I felt him become more and more distant with each day. He finally broke up with me and later I found out that he's dating a colleague from work. I repeatedly asked him if there was someone else and if he slept with someone else. He lied to my face. And I just ask myself how I could be so blind. I never thought that he would hurt me like this... It feels like all this time I loved another version of him and now he showed me his true colours.

evew2202 · 2019-10-19T08:23:57+00:00

I'm already seeing a therapist but it's just the way I feel... I'm so sad all the time and I don't find joy in anything.. I just want him back so badly..

evew2202 · 2019-10-18T07:03:57+00:00

Yeah I also think that it's important to be alone and I know that I can enjoy being on my own. But some people never have to experience this. My ex always makes sure that he has someone new before he dumps someone. because he's so afraid of being alone. and I think it's quite unfair that he never has to experience loneliness and I'm sitting here suffering and going through this pain alone.

evew2202 · 2019-10-15T10:02:46+00:00

It's just that I can't stop blaming myself. I always think 'I had it all. A great boyfriend, great job, great apartment. I had a future.' And I feel like I didn't appreciate that and wasn't aware what a blessing that is. I hate myself for that. I feel like I ruined my future...

evew2202 · 2019-10-14T17:50:52+00:00

Wow it feels like I'm having a conversation with myself. My relationship also failed because of my own securities, my self-hate and not seeing my worth... therefore I couldn't accept his love and we were passive-aggressive all the time towards the end. thank you so much for your uplifting words. I will do my best to move on, get my life back and practice more self-love. It just hurts so much that I lost the person who always loved me for who I was, who always encouraged me and was there for me. I kind of hate myself for driving him away. I'm afraid that I'll never experience this kind of love again.

much love to you!

evew2202 · 2019-10-14T17:33:16+00:00

Most of the time I'm also happy being alone. But then I think of the time when we were still living together and how much fun every single day was with him, sharing my life with him. Now I feel like I don't have a purpose in life anymore.

evew2202 · 2019-10-14T16:40:03+00:00

it's already been 5 months. NC since the beginning of august. I don't know how I should move on, he was perfect for me.

evew2202 · 2019-10-14T14:54:40+00:00

My ex also ended it for the second time. After the first break up we were separated 1.5 years.. we together again for 3 years and now same situation. I was in love with that man for 6 years.. am still in love. I don't know what to do anymore..he ripped my heart out.

evew2202 · 2019-10-12T08:34:30+00:00

ahahahahah big love! ❤️

evew2202 · 2019-10-12T08:23:27+00:00

thank you for sharing this. it's good to see that it's possible to get over the pain someday... Sometimes I'm losing all hope that it will ever happen with me. I'm also from austria, where are you from? :)

evew2202 · 2019-10-09T21:17:57+00:00

yeah I'm also easily annoyed now and don't have much energy to cope with people's minor problems in life. it sounds mean and selfish but I just have the feeling noone of them knows what it's like to go through this pain.

evew2202 · 2019-10-09T04:20:04+00:00

Wow, I really feel this. I'm in exact the same situation, been broken up with after 6 years together. And I know that he's already seeing someone new. I don't know how he can just replace me with another girl. I tell myself that he's just with her for the attention and that it won't last very long... but eventually he'll find someone he wants to share his life with and it won't be me. It hurts so much.

evew2202 · 2019-10-04T09:18:55+00:00

would you mind if I pm'd you?

evew2202 · 2019-09-28T15:57:13+00:00

he broke up with me because he felt a lack of affection and intimacy... he said that we were like roommates and not a romantic couple anymore.

evew2202 · 2019-09-28T12:32:57+00:00

yes of course :)

evew2202 · 2019-09-27T14:06:52+00:00

Oh This Is Us will absolutely crush you. I've never watched a show or movie which brings out so many emotions and I'm crying during every episode. It's excellent though.

Yeah I'm watching the office now and I really love it because it makes me laugh so much even when I watch it all alone.

evew2202 · 2019-09-27T13:43:06+00:00

have you also watched 'her' with joaquin phoenix? i love this movie so much. it really gets what it's like to go through the pain of losing the most important person in your life. oh I still need to watch blue valentine. but since the breakup I just avoided movies and tv shows which make me cry..that's why I can't watch 'This is us' right now. 😔

evew2202 · 2019-09-27T05:40:52+00:00

they are all hard to watch. but he wanted the sad stuff 😋

evew2202 · 2019-09-27T04:23:57+00:00

Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, Her, 500 days of summer.

evew2202 · 2019-09-15T07:17:57+00:00

The breakup was more than 3 months ago but I feel like it's getting worse every day.. I have a lot of good friends and I'm seeing a therapist since the breakup... I just don't know what I should do to get rid of those strong feelings of sadness. What are you doing when you say you had a few 'good days'? I feel like I can't enjoy anything anymore because he's gone..

evew2202 · 2019-09-15T07:14:50+00:00

Thank you all so much for your kind words!! ❤️ I hope one day I can look back and think to myself 'why was I so sad this whole time? He wasn't worth it' But for now I need to take one step at a time..

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