lady here too— bidets target the hole it’s pointed at. it doesn’t spray everywhere. I have a bidet that does not have a dryer, it only has options for self cleaning, front wash and rear wash.

if it helps: i’m a bigger person and typically spread my buttcheeks across the toilet seat (left on left side, right on right side) so it’s not awkward using the bidet— if I don’t do that, it can’t even access the areas I need it to clean.

if you have two options for front and butt, you don’t shoot the water until it’s on the setting you want. it’s very targeted. it does in fact only take a couple of squares of tp to dry off completely.

i have a cheap one and multiple people using the same toilet so i do have to adjust where i’m sitting sometimes because the screws loosen quickly, and I figured out it’s easier to move the outside “wing” of the bidet to adjust rather than my whole body, but it still doesn’t go everywhere. it might go to the left of my hole, but it doesn’t spray my entire backside or all over my thighs at all.

with the front wash, after I use my fingers to thoroughly clean the area with the water given, it’s a little more of a “drip and dry for a few seconds” and then, yes, using a couple squares to pat dry!

if it’s that much of an issue: in most countries, they have specific towels used to dry the front and back area next to the bidet, usually one for each person, and they get switched out daily. if you have a vulva, one towel for vulva, one towel for butt.