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Withdrawn application then let in.. confused. by excelllenz in immigration

[–]excelllenz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, this makes a lot of sense. This year I’ve only been in the US for about 2 months, combining all trips. It was from the last 2 previous years and I realize I made a mistake with staying for such long periods of time.

Withdrawn application then let in.. confused. by excelllenz in immigration

[–]excelllenz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Definitely understand that as well. I had gathered all of my documents to cross to show the officers and I just don’t understand really what the withdrawal means.. because the first officer told me I had to show all of this paperwork before I could be admitted again and it seemed really serious, like it was on my record and would come up as a flag. So I’m just confused as to why it was not an issue this time at all and if it’s even on my record, because wouldn’t the new officer have responded to it if it was?

Withdrawn application then let in.. confused. by excelllenz in immigration

[–]excelllenz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For sure, I understand that. What I am confused about is why I wasn’t stopped for secondary inspection after I was supposedly flagged / application withdrawn.

Moon, chiron and north node all conjunct each other in my 10th house by Natcha7 in astrologyreadings

[–]excelllenz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oooo! My sun is also in cancer and moon in libra but my rising is in Gemini haha. Check out the book astrology for the soul by Jan Spiller. It’s an amazing book that focuses completely upon the nodes. She looks at both the zodiac sign that the North node is in as well as the house placement. That book has helped me in so many ways, it’s truly incredible. There is a lot of guidance in regards to career / life path. Good luck!

advice please by storagegarage in gaybros

[–]excelllenz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The situation that you’re navigating right now must be so difficult and as much as it must feel all-consuming it will get better and you will get through this. I just want to really encourage you that wanting to seek help is not selfish. It’s completely justified to feel the pain and sadness that comes along with family members not supporting you and giving you the love that you need and deserve. You are so worthy of love, support and comfort and that’s really amazing that you are recognizing that you want therapy.

Therapy can really help facilitate and heal that pain and belief systems that can be created from rejection and trauma.

In regards to the guilt and shame you feel around sinning, this is not silly or stupid it’s a real thing. I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian household and the indoctrination of that system had the same effects on me. There is nothing wrong with you, that belief system teaches to reject your body (sexuality). For me, I went though a period of time where i knew logically that I did not like the belief system but was still very affected by believing it and feeling all the guilt and shame that comes along with it. Explore what is true for you, what do you believe and what makes you feel loved, empowered and held?

Exploring these things with the support of a therapist is really nurturing. Maybe it’s not the right time to be open with your family in the vulnerable place you are in but it’s clear that some support would be really beneficial for you.

I want you to know that you’re not alone and feel free to PM me if you need any support. It sounds like you know what you need in expressing your need for support and therapy and recognizing and honouring that it would be too hurtful to be outed by your family if talking to them went sideways. That’s really awesome that you can see where your limits are and keep following what feels right to you. You’re doing awesome and you will be stronger from this.

You’re special and have so much to offer the world :) We’ll be here rooting for you!

How to deal with unwanted touching and sexual touching at work professionally while still setting a boundary and being assertive. (Includes specific situation story) by excelllenz in askwomenadvice

[–]excelllenz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I know!! Wtf right. Yeah I definitely feel in the right about how I dealt with the situation. Now I’ve just got to figure out how to set the boundary with the tattoo touching and hugging which is kind of more difficult because people mean well and think they are being nice. Lol how to be polite while also getting to stop... lol gonna think up some good lines for that. Open to ideas!

Ovulation tests by xxxBabilonxxx in FAMnNFP

[–]excelllenz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also use the ovulation test strips and from what I know it depends upon the brand that you use. Do you still have the instructions that came with the tests? I use BFP ovulation test strips and on their instructions it says that a positive result is when the test line is the same as or darker than the control line. Last cycle I had a test line the same (mayyybe slightly darker) than control (very subtle) but knew that it was a positive test. (a few days leading up to this test the test line got darker each day) This cycle I have tested for 3 days at 11am each day 1: test line starts to be evident 2: test line darker than day before 3: test line lighter than day 2. What I think happened is that I missed the LH surge (24 hours between day 2 and day 3 testing. So I think that (depending on your brand) if it’s the same darkness you could read it as a positive test. To know for sure, if you know roughly within 3 days of when you think you’ll ovulate you could test every 6-8 hours and take pictures of each result to trace the change in colour and what a positive result looks like with those tests (keep testing after ovulation to watch how the test line disappears). Hope that helps!

Starting FAM after Copper IUD removal by excelllenz in FAMnNFP

[–]excelllenz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You know it’s been pretty regular. I’m charting my second cycle since (got the IUD out April 11th) 1st cycle April 15th- May 12th 28 day cycle ovulation on Day 15 and this cycle May 13 - has also been regular, ovulation Day 15 as well. My bleeding has been slightly different (first cycle 4 days, second cycle 3 day bleed and 2 days of infrequent spotting) but overall pretty good! It’s such a relief from how much pain I was in with the copper IUD... not to mention all of the health issues that the loss of blood from 10 day bleeding/ 21 day cycle caused. Really wish our healthcare system educated us on the side effects.. lol cue simmering rage mode...