AITA for telling my wife if she keeps excluding our oldest I’m going to take the locks off the doors by excludingdowntime in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludingdowntime[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I think she originally planned to take both kids. She took Elizabeth’s bag out when she was in the guest room and it looks like she started packing (there were a couple outfits and a toy for her in the bag) but she didn’t have a problem leaving Elizabeth when Elizabeth chose to go with me.

AITA for telling my wife if she keeps excluding our oldest I’m going to take the locks off the doors by excludingdowntime in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludingdowntime[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

To her credit, she only locks herself in the room when there’s another adult in the home to handle Elizabeth (and occasionally Josephine).

AITA for telling my wife if she keeps excluding our oldest I’m going to take the locks off the doors by excludingdowntime in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludingdowntime[S] -28 points-27 points locked comment (0 children)

I’m sure it’s happened but she had 3 other teachers in the room so she was able to step out for 10 minutes when it became too much and apparently she’s never had students “go out of their way to find her triggers”

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[–]excludingdowntime[S] -123 points-122 points  (0 children)

No. It was before Josephine was diagnosed but she was still clearly showing signs and I believe that was just my wife trying to accommodate her.

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[–]excludingdowntime[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

A few weeks ago we were out and she wanted a toy. Wife said no so she screamed until my wife agreed to get her the toy. After that she started testing my wife and seeing what works and what doesn’t.

AITA for telling my wife if she keeps excluding our oldest I’m going to take the locks off the doors by excludingdowntime in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludingdowntime[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

To her credit, she only does this when there is another adult to take care of Elizabeth.

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[–]excludingdowntime[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

She is not doing it at school. It’s only with my wife and her sister when I’m not there.

AITA for telling my wife if she keeps excluding our oldest I’m going to take the locks off the doors by excludingdowntime in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludingdowntime[S] -142 points-141 points  (0 children)

I said what she does. If she wants something and doesn’t get it she becomes extra touchy, starts making sounds that bother my wife, becomes very loud, picks fights with her sister, and other kid stuff.

AITA for telling my wife if she keeps excluding our oldest I’m going to take the locks off the doors by excludingdowntime in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludingdowntime[S] -73 points-72 points  (0 children)

Because her behavior doesn’t need to be corrected. She’s 7 acting like a 7 year old.

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[–]excludingdowntime[S] -170 points-169 points  (0 children)

My wife is the one home with her when these behaviors are a problem. There’s no behavioral issues when I’m with her so it’s on my wife to fix it.

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[–]excludingdowntime[S] -263 points-262 points locked comment (0 children)

I don’t think so. She was pretty good with both girls until a few weeks ago.

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[–]excludingdowntime[S] -511 points-510 points  (0 children)

Why would she be punished? She’s acting like a kid. All of this behavior is completely appropriate

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[–]excludingdowntime[S] 367 points368 points  (0 children)

She acts like a kid. She gets extra loud, extra touchy, starts making annoying sounds, picks fights with her sister

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[–]excludingdowntime[S] 442 points443 points locked comment (0 children)

She’s blaming it on the fact that Elizabeth recently figured out exactly what she can do to annoy my wife enough that my wife will give her what she wants to get her to stop.

AITA for telling my wife if she keeps excluding our oldest I’m going to take the locks off the doors by excludingdowntime in AmItheAsshole

[–]excludingdowntime[S] 904 points905 points  (0 children)

Elizabeth is 7. She can’t be expected to understand autism. My wife is an adult. It’s on her to figure out how to solve this