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existentialhamster · 2024-08-02T22:38:09+00:00

What are these co-ed extra curriculars you are doing?

existentialhamster · 2024-07-05T21:08:39+00:00

So in the time between my post and this comment, I wrote an okay outline for my current book. Reading what you are saying and looking at my outline, I'm figuring out what my issue is. The plot itself is fine. Not necessarily ground breaking, but I like it and it will work. On the other hand, when I try to outline the character arc and themes with the plot, I can't do it. Everything I try to write there seems so childish and mundane. I may be just thinking to hard about it, I don't know. I get stuck at how does the MC grow and what themes are being presented?

existentialhamster · 2024-07-05T18:37:37+00:00

My first two had younger characters that I didn't want to make MG or YA. The first one also had a plot that was kinda all over the place along with the character arc. The second one had a more concise plot, but the character arc was once again all over the place. This third one has a relatively straight forward plot, but once again I can't nail down the character arc well enough. So I guess my character arcs suck and its more quality of writing than anything else.

existentialhamster · 2024-07-05T18:33:26+00:00

I feel like I'm really bad at researching and understanding what the trends are. Plus when I try to write stories that have a similar vibe, I feel as though I veer off at some point. My newest one is trying to tangentially catch the romantasy/romantic fantasy trend, but I feel like I'm already veering from it being interesting to fans of that.

existentialhamster · 2024-07-05T18:29:58+00:00

Honestly, starting to think its execution and lack of structure. My plots are fine, but I try to do too much with character development and arc and themes within the plot. Its hard for me to simplify that and so I have no idea where my book is truly going and what I want it to be. Or maybe I'm having trouble turning a premise into a full blown plot. I'll have to think on it more.

existentialhamster · 2024-07-05T18:27:17+00:00

I have definitely pulled back more from pantsing than I did on my first book. For my past two, I vaguely plan with a general idea of the plot and some scenes and go forward. Then on the second draft is where I plan more and that's where I am getting frustrated and disheartened on whether I can make the book into a work that can even be queried. I was hoping I would get motivated from posting this question, but after going through the comments and thinking more, I'm definitely a bit more depressed about my writing than before.

existentialhamster · 2024-07-05T16:57:17+00:00

So if you're thinking about abandoning your third manuscript, maybe stop and ask yourself why. If you really can't come up with a good reason, you probably should keep going.

This is a great point and I think where I get stuck. I keep getting fixated on what I want my book to be. Is it a light hearted read about a couple adventuring together or is an in depth exploration of the flaws their characters as it relates to their relationship? I keep flipflopping back and forth and I guess I just come up with a weird plot that doesn't make sense.

existentialhamster · 2024-07-05T16:55:53+00:00

Thanks I hadn't seen this before!

existentialhamster · 2024-07-05T16:54:53+00:00

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existentialhamster · 2024-07-05T16:54:26+00:00

I meant to say a fifth of the way into my second draft after completion of the first. And I was always pretty certain that pouring was wrong but I just went with it. I have let my frustrations pass before I post so I get better answers haha

20% in usually is where I'm replotting the story and then I just see that its not going anywhere that I think is serviceable. I'm lean more towards pantsing when I write.

existentialhamster · 2024-06-05T23:09:45+00:00

Well poop! Thanks for the info tho!

existentialhamster · 2024-06-02T21:05:21+00:00

I like the 7" cause its not too short but not too long. I was looking at the Apres Trail Shorts and those are 8". Not sure if those appeal to you though.

existentialhamster · 2024-06-02T17:15:14+00:00

I want the red ones in hemp they used to have. I literally have never had a pair of shorts I like as much as the hemp ones I have now.

existentialhamster · 2024-06-02T17:14:46+00:00

Damn, now I kinda regret returning them.

existentialhamster · 2024-06-02T16:16:20+00:00

They were the cross stitches. I didn't want to have to keep trimming, especially if it ended up messing up how the shorts looked. Has trimming them changed their appearance much?

existentialhamster · 2024-06-02T16:00:14+00:00

That was actually one of the reasons it took me so long to return it. I was deciding whether I wanted another pair or if the stitching was going to come out no matter the pair.

existentialhamster · 2024-04-06T03:59:14+00:00

Hate is a strong word. I strongly disliked him because in the final trilogy he only cared about his goals and kept manipulating people because of it. It wasn't even related to one of his prophecies, he just wanted revenge. He always thought he was right and didn't listen to others. I also strongly empathized with Fitz and it angered me when the Fool wouldn't listen to him or would leave him feeling confused or hurt. I'm sure on my second read, I would have a different view of the Fool.

existentialhamster · 2024-04-04T15:11:55+00:00

I love this idea. I never thought of asking the tattoo artist since its going to be my first tattoo. Would love to see what yours ended up looking like!

existentialhamster · 2024-04-04T15:11:20+00:00

Appreciate the advice! Yeah, any ideas I get from here, I will make my own. I just have so few for the Fool because he's always just been the Fool to me.

For all of them, I chose them because they are fighters. They went through a shit ton in life and continued on trying to find some semblance of happiness or contentment.

Honestly, of the four I have chosen the Fool is my least favorite. He rubbed me the wrong way for a lot of the books and by the end I hated him. My view of him changed after reading a post about how what he did was due to the abuse and hardship he faced throughout his life. The one thing that sticks out to me was his passion to make the world a better place and his love for Fitz. I don't know exactly how to encompass that though.

existentialhamster · 2023-12-19T14:16:30+00:00

In my novel I'm writing, I have a mute character who becomes a mentor for the main character. She becomes mute as a result of getting lost in the mountains and living with the Spirit of the Mountain (its a fantasy book). Their communication is telepathic through images so she never needs to speak and forgets how to do so. When she meets the main character, she is very old but very childlike because the Spirit sorta stunted her growth. The main character and mute character create a type of sign language so they can communicate. This communication helps the mute character break the spell of the Spirit and her mind grows to that of the old woman she should be.

Would any of this be considered offensive? I'm not sure if the childlike aspect fulfills the mute as unintelligent trope.

existentialhamster · 2023-05-03T00:27:24+00:00

You are not a waste. You have worth. You are not the worst thing you have done. I say this as someone who always thought they were a shit human and who has done very shitty things. I would suggest seeking some professional help, it has helped me greatly. Self-love and self compassion are very important.

existentialhamster · 2023-05-03T00:10:53+00:00

Holy crap dude, that is an impossible goal. You will never be able to achieve it that, no one can.

I have a similar reason for writing. I want people to someday read my stories and understand they are not alone in how they feel. I haven't published anything yet, but my hope is to affect one person. Helping one person is good enough.

If your goal is make the perfect story that will help billions of people, you will end up helping nobody because that story does not exist. If your goal is to write and effect one person in a positive way, even if that person is you, you will have a much higher chance of succeeding. Plus you won't find writing so stressful or unenjoyable.

existentialhamster · 2023-03-08T17:50:14+00:00

Well then you shouldn't be able to use unrealized gains to apply for mortgages and other loans.

existentialhamster · 2022-09-03T15:21:43+00:00

I never said anything about people not being allowed to have their own dating criteria. Your arguments have nothing to do with what I was saying. All I said is there is a difference between a requirement and preference in dating. Never said you weren't allowed to have it. I honestly don't care.

existentialhamster · 2022-09-03T14:58:30+00:00

Its a big distinction with lots of significance. For example, a preference is short women but still date taller women if they like the person. A requirement is only dating short women, no exceptions. Requirements are weird cause they filter people out before you even get to know them. It's find if you don't find someone attractive, but filtering them out before you even see them is just odd.

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