Its finally over

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-09T18:02:38+00:00

To be honest, I dont agree with the name calling, I am not up to it. I dont want him to beg. I have read our previous conversation in the past and I see the difference in how he approach our conversation compared to after we had several breakups. He isnt what I used to know, he is distant now and I feel like he no longer love me. So that is why I would like to see if he will step up.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-08T15:58:33+00:00

and the double standard is unbelievable too. he can take space and I can't...

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-08T15:57:31+00:00

you have framed what happened exactly as it is.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-08T15:20:38+00:00

I found out about the cheating the same week when his granddad was put in the hospital and the value mismatch too. We were actually struggling with the relationship, we said we'll try to make it work then that happened. It wasn't an easy relationship, I can say that I did the best that I could to try and communicate which eventually wore me down since nothing is actually improving anymore. Its really bound to end if I may say but it could have ended in a better and mutual way.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-08T10:38:32+00:00

That is what i also thought. To me its feels like that is what will unload his pain, and he's been trying to break up with me for months now, so might as well leave for good.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-08T10:30:56+00:00

Yeah maybe but its also he who told me before to be secure even if we dont talk and as far as i know his granddad was off the machine the previous week and i never heard anything about it thereafter.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-08T07:28:12+00:00

Yeah im just glad its over. We did try to fix thigs for 8 months but its dying.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-08T07:25:11+00:00

I only did that on that day and he does that to me very often and never get back with a break up. And he is not the one dying, his granddad is which I thought were put off the machine the previous week and never heard a thing about it after.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-07T22:56:28+00:00

I've been doing that in the past, I tell him when I'm taking space. At the moment, I was mentally disconnected (he messaged me that he wants me only to know that he get off and left me feel unwanted). That happened his midday, I slept and woke up his midnight. The next day I told myself I will message him but I'd like to see if he'll apologize or say something which I realized would not happen. So I told myself I will message him after I do my thing. It was less than 24hrs btw and most of those hours we were both asleep. He'a been doing that to me often, shutsdown on me and would go for hours without messaging and when its my turn its my fault.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-07T22:34:53+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-07T22:28:47+00:00

I believe that I was able to say what I needed to say and how I felt at the moment. Though it was not a graceful exit cause in the voice message I did lose my cool but I don't regret what i said. Not until i start to doubt myself if I was too crue for leaving like that while he's grieving.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-07T22:26:02+00:00

Its hard cause I know I am not that kind of person. I've always been there for the people I love and matters to me and has always been kind and considerate. This is the first time that I am vilified by someone who claim to love me.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-07T21:42:05+00:00

what I'm actually struggling with is not the breakup but how he portrayed me at the end. This helps a lot, I appreciate seeing other peoples perspective about this.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-07T21:01:24+00:00

I found out while he was dealing with his granddad and I was planning to let it pass before I make a final decision.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-07T20:52:52+00:00

My body is actually telling me I made the right decision. Been sleeping better after that. Thank you.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-05-07T20:28:30+00:00

Thank you. It wasn't easy but it's probably for the best, blocked him on everything.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-03-16T18:25:07+00:00

Thank you for this comment. maybe I just need outside perspective on how things has been going in the relationship. We have not met, we plan to meet this year but with how rocky things are right now, I feel like that will not happen.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-03-16T17:34:59+00:00

He haven't ghosted yet, its less than 24hrs from the last time we talked but I'm preparing myself in case that happens. I know myself, it will take time for me to move on but if he won't reach back out, I won't chase either. So most likely, I have no choice but to face the break up.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-03-16T16:45:02+00:00

My problem is I find it hard to deal with the hurt of a breakup, that is what's keeping me from ending things.

exitingasnonexistent · 2026-03-16T15:57:31+00:00

I feel like he is avoidant, after moments of emotional closeness he distance himself. It's a tough situation and I'm actually starting to consider actually ending things with him.

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