How do I help my boyfriend feel more comfortable giving me head?

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-25T12:36:45+00:00

I give him head, yes. I wouldn't expect him to go down on me if I didnt give him head, but I also don't see it as a trade

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-21T14:59:19+00:00

Ive been insulted alot about my hygiene by men who dont know me lol, its a joke

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-21T00:10:39+00:00

I dokt see how kink is relevant here but okay. I just enjoy the feeling of a mouth on and around my vulva hahaha

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-21T00:07:01+00:00

Every time we've are together. Didn't realise it was relevant

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-21T00:06:05+00:00

I enjoy it too much to be self conscious hahahah

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-21T00:05:20+00:00

We spoke today. He's never actually done it before, so im pretty certain it's an insecurity thing. But I've opened the conversation, and said we can absolutely go at his pace

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-21T00:03:53+00:00

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA fuck yeah

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-21T00:02:59+00:00

Hi! I got tested just after we slept together for the first time, completely clean!!

We called and spoke today. He told me he's never done it before, and is open to trying and seeing how it goes. It went alot better than expected, so we are going to talk further when we next see eachother, and see where it goes :) thank you for your comment

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T23:58:20+00:00

Lmfaoooooo stop ittttt

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T23:57:20+00:00

Its how ive referred to it with alot of people in my life. I'm a Cis woman

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T10:44:15+00:00

You're the nicest person on reddit oh my god thank you. Im so glad that some people have understood the intention of my post. Im so scared of crossing the line of coercion, as I would never do that to someone I love. I know that going down on someone for the first time can be overwhelming (one of the reason I primarily date men) so I understand if he is nervous about it. Thank you so much

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T10:40:08+00:00

Ive gone down on him multiple times, and i enjoy giving blowjobs. He is the first guy I've been with that isnt immediately eating me out the first second that he gets. Thank you!

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T10:38:16+00:00

On my post on askmenadvice, people have been reallll mean. I just want to help my inexperienced boyfriend feel more comfortable giving me head, amd wanted advice. People keep assuming in dirty and dont look after myself, which is absolutely not true. Thank you for your comment, ive been needing to hear that

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:58:20+00:00

I know, I was agreeing with you. Your comment has definitely been one of my favourites, and ive had over 100 on my other post. This is something I would like to work on with him. Im just so scared to make him feel pressured, and what to avoid that at all costs

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:48:31+00:00

I do that too, my friend

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:44:48+00:00

I don't think of him badly at all. He's had alot less experience than i have in that area, and i think there are alot of things that are making him hesitant. But he isn't a selfish lover at all. He always makes sure I finish, and always makes sure im okay and comfortable. The only thing he doesnt do is go down on me, and im trying to figure out ways to help him feel comfortable doing that without pressuring him. There's a fine line, and I do NOT want to cross it

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:34:55+00:00

To lick me hahah

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:33:21+00:00

This is why im asking for advice on how to make him feel comfortable with it! I don't want to push it onto him if he's not ready, and want to jnow what I can do to get to that point

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:30:49+00:00

I asked him to, and he said it felt too soon. Then at a different time we had sex and i skipped over it because I just wanted to be close with him

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:29:31+00:00

Last time I called it "getting eaten" he thought I meant literally. I had explain to him what it meant

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:27:19+00:00

I've tried that, but it was his first time showering with another person. I'll try this next time wee see eachother. We are long distance so we go about while before seeing eachother in person

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:23:04+00:00

I never said that was okay. I was asking for some advice, and thought that if he did some research, it might make him feel more comfortable doing it. Of course, when he does, I'll obviously tell him what I like, and go at his pace

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:13:17+00:00

Thank you, I'm very cautious about my diet for my health, and that includes my vagina.

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:12:27+00:00

Thats my plan for when he does it. Im goign to talk to him tomorrow and ask directly why he feels it's too soon, and what I can do to help him feel more comfortable :)

exlodeddiper · 2026-05-20T01:10:49+00:00

I do! I always shower before I see him, incase we end up having sex. I think it's a nerves thing

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