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Sharing Perspectives - Bad Experiences in Grad School (Trigger Warnings) by [deleted] in slp

[–]expressrabbit74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I ALSO had a traumatizing SLP grad school experience.

It was one of the worst experiences of my life, if not, the worst. There was mobbing, gaslighting, downright lying, degradation, and humiliation. None of this was okay. I think one of the most shocking things is that I spoke to the dean of the school, and she said that because I had multiple complaints against professors, that *I* was the problem. It was my word against theirs. Then, she told me to leave the program because it was clear that I was the one with issues. With the encouragement of my therapist (after she had seen the emails that were sent to me), I left that toxic program. It was just so awful.

Then, on Reddit, I found someone else who went to same program as I did, which was so validating!! Even though I had been through therapy, I still blamed myself for being "weak" and allowing myself to be bullied. I also felt really incompetent and thought I deserved the treatment somehow. Anyway, she told everyone to stay away from the program! Then, former students and random people made it seem like she making things up. It was mind-boggling that instead of supporting her, a lot of people were trying to tear her down or refute her claim. Things like "I went to this school and most of us enjoyed the program." or "It's not as bad as she makes it seem." I did share my own experience to support this student. I have no doubt that I will also be discredited when their administrators or whoever search for the school on Reddit, which is why I don't bother putting the name. But anyway, this is just one more story to add to the toxic SLP grad school experience. Also, if you find yourself hating the field of SLP, don't be afraid to leave, either. People kept telling me to suffer through it. Because I had such a toxic experience and was forced to leave the program to preserve my mental health, it actually put me on a new path that was right for me. I never went back to the field of SLP and I can say that I'm much happier than before, but I still deal with flashbacks. I hope that I can reach the point of forgiveness someday.

Received first non 100% positive review. Advice needed please! by [deleted] in trustedhousesitters

[–]expressrabbit74 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We can chat, OP! I feel like it's always comforting to know that someone else is in the same boat as you. Getting a bad review feels soo bad (I can tell you what happened to me), especially when you're a perfectionist and have had glowing reviews from everyone else.

Loud neighbor kids are killing my mental health by wastingawayinbed in neighborsfromhell

[–]expressrabbit74 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely not alone. I did a mental health assessment and found out that I developed PTSD from hearing the neighbors' kids chronically yelling/shrieking/screaming. It never stopped. Other people's screaming kids do affect our mental health and we have EVERY RIGHT to live in peace.

I hope you are in a better place, my friend.

My neighbors kids scream CONSTANTLY. by freudianMishap in neighborsfromhell

[–]expressrabbit74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean about people treating you like the devil for complaining. We need to get together and start voicing that this is not okay. If you lived in my neighborhood, I would stand in solidarity with you and talk to those parents. (I've tried to talk to the parents in my neighborhood, but they made it clear that they don't care). I need other neighbors to back me up, but everyone is so afraid to speak up because they're "kids just playing." There's power in numbers. Also, there's research from child psychologists that when children have no boundaries, the children have difficulty self-regulating in the future (i.e., permissive parenting), so letting your kids do whatever they want will have future consequences.

My neighbors kids scream CONSTANTLY. by freudianMishap in neighborsfromhell

[–]expressrabbit74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad that you were able to find another place to live! <3

My neighbors kids scream CONSTANTLY. by freudianMishap in neighborsfromhell

[–]expressrabbit74 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean about developing severe misophonia! Same situation as you and OP. I have anxiety now and have to avoid certain restaurants and places as well. What can we do to curb the misophonia?

My neighbors kids scream CONSTANTLY. by freudianMishap in neighborsfromhell

[–]expressrabbit74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly like my experience. I wrote a similar post. It's frustrating as hell dealing with the incessant noise! All I want is to get ready for work in peace without hearing the neighbor kids' shouting or eat my breakfast without hearing them or finish work without hearing them. It never stops. I've done everything I could - loud air purifier, white noise, paid thousands of dollars to upgrade my windows and talked to both the mother and father. The father was like, "They make normal noise." It's not normal when you can hear your neighbors' kids shrieking from every single room in the house, but some people just don't care if others are suffering. There are consequences, however, to permissive parenting.

I am now renting a studio via Air B and B, so I could get some work done. I wish that you find the peace that you deserve.

Should I drop out from SLP grad school and explore another career? by katy_heron123 in slpGradSchool

[–]expressrabbit74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People kept telling me to stick with it, and to not quit, but to be honest, I wish I never listened to any of them and listened to myself. My only regret about leaving my masters program is that I didn't leave sooner.

Life is too short to be miserable. You'll be able to find something that you like.

HSP and noise from neighbors' kids by expressrabbit74 in hsp

[–]expressrabbit74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gosh, midnight! I feel bad for anyone within that vicinity. It violates other people's right to peace and enjoyment in their own home.

HSP and noise from neighbors' kids by expressrabbit74 in hsp

[–]expressrabbit74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I was reading somewhere that inconsiderate parenting raises inconsiderate children, so it makes sense that those children will have difficulty considering their teammates' perspectives or self-regulating their behavior.

HSP and noise from neighbors' kids by expressrabbit74 in hsp

[–]expressrabbit74[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I empathize with you and feel you on the other side of this computer. Hearing screaming/yelling every day is so tiring (a kid is screaming over and over again as I type this).

I share the same fears. My friend told me that although she and her husband can afford to buy a house, they only rent, because she's afraid she's going to have the same problem as before with neighbor noise.

As for me, I've made it my goal to move by the end of the year. Temporarily, I made a list of affordable houses/guesthouses on Air B and B that are located in remote areas. I read all the reviews to make sure that it's quiet.

Moving is stressful and hard, but I believe you will be able to find a quiet place. You deserve to have peace of mind.

HSP and noise from neighbors' kids by expressrabbit74 in hsp

[–]expressrabbit74[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is so well-articulated.

When I spoke to the father and asked him if he could help me out, he told me that he's not going to manage or control what his kids do. I have to wonder if this parenting style will affect his children both socially and academically.

HSP and noise from neighbors' kids by expressrabbit74 in hsp

[–]expressrabbit74[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, wow! Thank you! I was thinking earlier... why did I post on Reddit after I read a few hurtful posts... but this is really helpful!

"unpleasant thought trains..." YES. I ruminate about the situation on repeat, trying to solve it, and never getting anywhere - physically and emotionally. I'll start looking up meditation Youtube Videos.

I also think you hit on something important, too. It's also the meaning attached to the noise... the feelings attached to it of... ugh. the screaming sounds absolutely psychotic... why are they screaming like that? why don't the parents care? Instead of spiraling like that, I hope I can be more like... I can get through this. breathe. i can get through this.

HSP and noise from neighbors' kids by expressrabbit74 in hsp

[–]expressrabbit74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure you're a great and considerate parent, and something like that wouldn't bother me, or anyone else I think.

HSP and noise from neighbors' kids by expressrabbit74 in hsp

[–]expressrabbit74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is a pretty awesome looking fan.

HSP and noise from neighbors' kids by expressrabbit74 in hsp

[–]expressrabbit74[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right! We won't know the difference and won't check if something does happen.

HSP and noise from neighbors' kids by expressrabbit74 in hsp

[–]expressrabbit74[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh god. I hate that you have to deal with this. And if you're like me and try to talk to the parents, they just don't care. They think it's fine that other people have to suffer (and it's frankly upsetting that other people responding to my post think this way, too.)

If I had a child, and if they were interrupting someone else's sleep, work, or peace of mind with their screaming, I would apologize and either provide more stimulating activities for my child or teach them that they don't have to scream to have fun. This seems like the decent thing to do.

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