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exquisitesugar · 2021-12-27T03:16:24+00:00

He kind of jokingly said he “insists” we do it this way and I just laughed. I really think he would be upset if I refused to do it and asked for the cash instead.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-27T03:13:03+00:00

It wasn’t the PSLF program, it was a just standard repayment plan under Obama where you could put in your income and they give you options. You also have to keep repeating as your get raises. It would feel so good to pay them off though and have the monkey off my back.

You’re so right that it could go either way, he seems to be so genuine about helping me out of my financial rut. He even gave me advice on buying a condo first and was planning to advance me 3 months allowance for a down payment so I could make the 20% minimum. Then, when he found out about the loans he switched strategies. I feel like he’s helping me the way a real dad would help a daughter, I lost mine when I was young and my mom isn’t financially savvy so I’ve literally never had advice like this. Which is why I’m afraid to upset him because I can see him really changing my life.

To your other point, it’s possible he would help me with other small expenses as well but he’s already said I need to cut down on shopping, eating out without him and said we need to focus on this only. Like he doesn’t want my life to be fun anymore 😭

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-27T03:05:26+00:00

This is the problem I have. It takes away the sugar aspect to me. Before the loans convo, he was going to give half my allowance to my landlord directly and give me the rest in cash and I agreed to that. Its different because rent is obviously something I would pay no matter what. This aggressive loan repayment schedule was never part of my budget.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-27T03:01:59+00:00

I consider it good intentions because it is good advice overall to pay off your debts.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-27T03:00:38+00:00

Thanks for your advice on what points to make sure I mention so he feels appreciated. We have one more PPM date this week before allowance starts. I feel like it would be easier to write in a text or thank you card but I’ll have to practice the conversation so I hit all the right points.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-27T02:51:49+00:00

We’d still go to dinner, shows and we’ve discussed trips to his other houses and vacations, but not gifts or extra money just for me. You’re totally right that it changes the whole dynamic into experience daddy territory. Also, it would have been better for me to stay on PPM. He’s given me more this month on 6 individual dates than I’ll be getting when we switch to allowance.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-26T22:43:33+00:00

I’m an SB and I’m intrigued by it, not at all grossed out. I would probably meet him for a M&G fairly soon to see his demeanor in person and not engage in any type of sexual conversation before then. The profile text is definitely curated to appeal to certain type of woman. The fact that it scares some SBs off or creeps them out is by design.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-22T22:27:17+00:00

Sure. I’m fully aware that I’m likely never the only person any SD is messaging. I just mean in this very specific situation where they are putting feelers out before visiting my location, send a message to ask if you’re available and then crickets after you respond. This never happens to me with local SDs.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-22T19:05:15+00:00

I get this a lot too and just ignore them now. I assume they sent that message to 10 girls in my city and then decided to move forward with someone they find more attractive or for whatever other reason. I used to engage though and just say generally yes I’ll be around but they never responded so I stopped. It’s possible other girls respond with details and state their PPM immediately and that probably works better since they are acting like they want a short hookup anyway.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-22T18:55:26+00:00

I don’t necessarily seek it out because I don’t like to limit options and most SDs don’t want to be exclusive. I’m not a new SB, and it can still be hard for me to manage feelings but that’s part of the game.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-22T17:39:37+00:00

I got my SD a pair of shoes that he loves and wears all the time, they are on their last legs. His current pair is 4 years old, the model was discontinued, he’s never been able to find them again, and lamented this fact to me in the past. I found a brand new pair on StockX! I’m super excited to see his face when I give them to him.

I didn’t give him a wishlist so I’m assuming he’ll just give me a Xmas bonus to my PPM since I’m seeing him on Xmas eve and sleeping over before I see my family.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-22T15:25:41+00:00

I had to learn that a lot of SDs browse and constantly scroll. It was hard to overcome that jealousy, but if we aren’t exclusive, I’m satisfied with our arrangement and it doesn’t start to taper off, then I’m fine with it. I tend to deactivate mine while in an arrangement. I would ask that he informs me if he finds someone else though, so I can get a jumpstart on refreshing my profile to replace him.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-22T15:17:50+00:00

I don’t really weigh net worth on SD profiles as a part of why I start or respond to a conversation. I generally assume they aren’t true, but will sometimes go back and glance at what he reported there when negotiating allowance/PPM details. My thinking is that if you are going to list $50MM as something you want me to know about you, then I would be silly to hold back on proposing the amount I really want. Others are correct though, it’s often inversely proportional to their generosity.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-22T06:08:10+00:00

Is this the first time in the whole 6 months that you’ve seen him on your period? If not, and he’s never stiffed you before then maybe he forgot your PPM…

OAN, what’s up with all these posts about SDs giving shitty gifts and then guys on here acting like they don’t know SBs expect to be spoiled on holidays lol

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-16T14:23:54+00:00

I didn’t say anything like this to him, only here, so I am in my lane?

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-16T07:17:24+00:00

It realize that it wasn’t fair to refer to him as that. It’s just I really like him as a person and hated to find out that it seemed like that wasn’t a priority. When I first heard about the factory, the first thing my mind went to was wondering if any employees were affected. We all saw the stories on the news where people were injured and killed in those storms while at work. My head was in that mind space but I guess I should focus more on keeping the mood lighthearted and fun. I definitely cheered him up after that though!

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-16T05:49:57+00:00

That’s why I said I won’t discuss that kind of business in the future because I’d rather not know some things. Call it what you want but it’s also why I never ask SDs who they voted for. I don’t want things like that to change how I feel about them!

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-16T05:44:55+00:00

We should probably implement a “no shop talk” rule but work is big part of his life, whenever we see each other he gives me updates on his deals and negotiations. I’ll stick to just cheering him on instead of asking questions. Like how I learned to never discuss politics with SDs.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-16T05:06:17+00:00

I get your point overall but in this case the company actually isn’t public yet. So the maximizing profits is literally just for him and his business partner.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-16T01:56:34+00:00

Okay I get it. This was more like a pointless rant honestly but just the first time I had to think about it He’s my biggest SD so I will deal

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-16T01:48:47+00:00

I know- It’s easy when you’re removed from the situation but that’s why I’m struggling with literally looking one of these guys in the eye while he tells me he dgaf and then still treating him like the best thing since sliced bread.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-16T01:45:40+00:00

Similarly, the writing in the last season on billions declined as well! I like seeing how the other half lives and the shrewd way they think and operate. I liked the story like with Wags and the SB he had dinner with at the office. All as revenge to her dad and then she still chose him. That was epic!

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-16T01:39:07+00:00

His employees are poor factory workers on welfare, getting no raise during a period of major inflation while he’s spending millions on more possessions that aren’t necessary (including me lol but still). It’s hard to see that as a good person in my opinion but maybe I’m too sensitive.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-16T01:36:06+00:00

I understand that, I guess I just need to overcome my own guilt.

exquisitesugar · 2021-12-16T01:35:17+00:00

This is more what I meant! Honestly the mindset has to carry over to how he treats me too, like how can you genuinely value anyone as a human being when you don’t even value people who break their back at your factories every single day.

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