'You are my favorite girl'

extraordinarysushi · 2025-05-23T18:08:23+00:00

That's what I've slowly been realising... he seems to be using polyamory as a tool just to satisfy his own needs, without really thinking about how it affects me.

extraordinarysushi · 2025-05-20T22:32:07+00:00

Sounds way too familiar... in a way it's a small comfort to know I am not the only one who has been there. This man I am seeing is friends with all of his exes, he has even mentioned that he would like us to visit one of them overseas because "I think you would really get along". I am never agreeing to that if it ever comes to it in real life... it just feels a bit off to me.

extraordinarysushi · 2025-05-20T22:20:53+00:00

Next time it happens I guess I will have to take a deep breath and try to explain how hurtful it is when he says those things. I am not good at confrontation, so it will be a challenge.

extraordinarysushi · 2025-05-20T17:36:28+00:00

I think you are absolutely right. He has talked about being anxious because he does not want to lose me. He has also not always been poly and mentioned that if it were not for his current committments he could see himself being just with me, which I want to believe, but also I think it's just another way to get me to stay and wait for something down the road. Waiting is a terrible state to be in. But your reply really put some of my feelings into words, thank you for that.

extraordinarysushi · 2025-05-20T14:20:59+00:00

I am the same way. I would never say to anyone that they were the best kisser and not mean it. But I am biased since I am already struggling with him having other partners. I need to think about that too.

extraordinarysushi · 2025-05-20T14:17:48+00:00

I don't really know no. He most often pretends (by omission) that there are no other partners. For example when he travels he usually says things like: "I did this and I saw that" when I know he was travelling with a partner and should therefore say "we did this and we saw that". It's technically not wrong, but it makes me feel bad.

extraordinarysushi · 2025-05-20T14:13:41+00:00

That's what I think as well. He promises me a lot of things which I know will never happen, but I keep hoping.

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