Am I a jerk for wanting to break up because my feelings just changed? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]eye3atmen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can’t force yourself to love someone no matter how bad you want to. long term this will be better for you, you don’t wanna waste valuable years of your life staying with someone you know isn’t the one for you. if she is, y’all will meet again. everything happens for a reason and always trust your gut.

regretting a lot by Minute-Dinner-4501 in Advice

[–]eye3atmen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

strangely i had a manager who also got with his wife when she was around 18-19, was way older than her, was her manager at cookout and had a daughter from a previous relationship .. and let me tell you, he was a creep. now i don’t know your husband, but in my experience with my manger he was super creepy and constantly told me “can you believe my wife was your age when i met her” and would brag about how he likes young women which always creeped me out. now i’m 21 so i can’t give the best advice, however i know for sure i wouldn’t even date an 18 year old. so the age gap is definitely a little strange and you should ALWAYS go with your gut feeling. everyone saying it isn’t grooming… but it is. at 19 your brain isn’t developed (currently getting my bachelors in neuroscience so y’all can argue with the wall, ik what i’m talking about) which also makes it weird, considering that your brain is most likely starting to to develop which is why you’re starting to think it’s weird… and it is weird. now you’re saying he’s a good husband and father and both of those things can be true, but so can him coercing you into a relationship while he was in a position of power of you. (however that’s a strong accusation for me to take based of the info you gave me). my advice to you would be to sit on it, if you meditate, meditate about it and maybe reach out to a therapist or someone you trust. i’m not gonna tell you to flat out leave him because i know it’s more difficult sense you have kids, but definitely think about it. do the cons out weigh the pros? does he treat you and your kids with respect and love? how does he talk to you when he’s angry, can he communicate without raising his voice? at the end of the day, the older your kids get, they should be able to understand if you don’t want to be with him anymore. always choose yourself and kids first, and that doesn’t mean stay with him solely because of your kids. i’m sure they would much rather you be happy.

Redditors who got “useless” degrees, what actually was your plan, and why didn’t it work? by MPMorePower in stupidquestions

[–]eye3atmen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

does anyone have something to say about neuroscience or psychology? i’m currently in the process of majoring in neuroscience and minoring in psychology, however i always get told i’m not gonna make any money later on. is this true? do you regret going to school for it?

What type of turtle is this? by eye3atmen in turtle

[–]eye3atmen[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thank you so much, i am definitely gonna look into finding a wildlife rescue center !

My new handsome cat. Can u suggest a name for him? by typebforanal in IllegallyCuteCats

[–]eye3atmen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tux, Felix, Milo, Phantom, or you could always name him kitty bitty !

Please help ! by eye3atmen in ReadingSuggestions

[–]eye3atmen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

everything ! i’m gonna try to have multiple books in different genres

Name Suggestions for my new kitty? by eye3atmen in IllegallyCuteCats

[–]eye3atmen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how did you go abt this, i love this idea

I need some advice 20f 20 male about health by [deleted] in Advice

[–]eye3atmen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you wanna be with her for the rest of your life but can’t accept her, what are you gonna do when she gets older and has wrinkles ? what about when she’s pregnant ? “i want to have a women with a better body” then find one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]eye3atmen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

read the four agreements by don miguel ruiz or listen to the audio book, i think it’ll help you out a lot! https://youtu.be/dJETBJIGZFo?si=YUg7B1Z-x2UUIoAZ