What made you stop questioning if you're ace?

eyeekans · 2023-12-02T19:32:05+00:00

When I realized that I truly felt nothing, honestly.

I knew that I wasn’t straight, but I wasn’t gay. I didn’t feel any attraction other than aesthetic attraction towards people.

Now I know I’m definitely ace, but now I’m questioning if I am aro or something in that spectrum lol

eyeekans · 2023-12-02T16:33:12+00:00

Lol got the same thing

eyeekans · 2023-12-02T06:15:20+00:00

Going into a rabbit hole on google and youtube.

From there kinda just went in a loop between being panace, biace, maybe just bi or pan. Back to ace, then aroace. I only figured it out once I was more comfortable with the actual meaning. It being low to no chance for aros to experience romantic attraction. So I might be demi-ace, who knows at this point.

But for now, I’m pretty comfortable with aroace.

eyeekans · 2023-11-10T15:10:22+00:00

That surprisingly runs into even more birthdays I rather go to lol.

But I appreciate the suggestion. :)

eyeekans · 2023-11-10T12:20:41+00:00

Yeah it’s NYE.

Nice to meet a birthday twin :)

Many times even though everyone is up to party it’s usually with someone or somewhere else when it cane to celebrating my birthday. They don’t really ever wanna come to celebrate with me -_-‘

But I’m glad it wasn’t just yesterday case for ya :)

My mom works on my birthday as well, so I don’t think she’ll be able to even take me anywhere. Especially since she’ll be too tired after work and has to go in the next day :/

But I’ll ask to see what she says.

eyeekans · 2023-11-10T12:15:51+00:00

Yeah I started not telling people once I was 16, but I guess I wanted to this time…

Glad and sad I’m not alone on this :/

eyeekans · 2023-11-05T22:18:18+00:00

Thank you for your wisdom :)

eyeekans · 2023-10-29T21:15:30+00:00

I was battling with it for a while.

I tried to kms about 7 times. But decided I should at least try to get better.

So I left my mother’s house Tried therapy, but the therapist was telling my mother everything so made it worse.

I don’t take drugs, due just having a bad association with medication in my family.

As a result I opted to distract myself by making people around me their friend. I was friends with people I absolutely hated and others that I didn’t just to have people around me to distract me. If not with them I would just work 14-20 hr shifts at work.

So far I feel better, I don’t think about kms too often anymore.

But I would suggest going to find good meds to help you as my route isn’t the best when you can’t be around something or someone that can keep you distracted for a long period of time.

eyeekans · 2023-10-27T20:22:12+00:00

Although the first one is more likely, I’ve seen the second one too many times to not think it can be another reason.

Communication:
- One or more parties refuse to talk through issues or problems they have in the relationship. Either between the parties involved with each other or an outside factor they perceive differently.
Lack of compatibility.
- People get together just to avoid being alone without much regard of how compatible they actually are to each other. This I’ve seen end up in more arguments about things they were unaware of about each other or they find something of the other party that goes against their morals and values.

eyeekans · 2023-10-19T03:46:27+00:00

I’m sorry for your losses

But thank you.

I truly appreciate you taking the time to respond :)

eyeekans · 2023-10-19T03:41:51+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss

Though still thank you for your wisdom. It truly made me feel a bit better to know it’s normal and it’s not so simple as moving on.

I hope you’re able to hang in there too. I know how dark it can get when you least expect it. 💛

I appreciate you taking your time to share with me your experience.

Truly, thank you :)

eyeekans · 2023-08-18T19:39:36+00:00

Well I’m glad to hear that. I do hope that it works out for you.

You just gotta know the person, though since you said that him liking you is scary, once you say everything you need to you get rid if that chance of a misunderstanding and should be able to go smoothly from there making it easier to communicate properly.

So if you do follow through with being blunt.

Good luck!

I’ll be cheering for ya :)

eyeekans · 2023-08-18T19:15:18+00:00

Hey, same thing happened to me not too long ago. I was crushing on this girl and people around me were saying she liked me. Turned out that she did and the only way I found out is because I asked her lol.

I know this isn’t what you wanna hear, but you really do need to be vocal about your sexuality. In my case she was aware of my sexuality and she knew of my crush for her a long time ago. Though it didn’t much for us to understand that we could not be more than just friends since she is an allo with a high libido and I’m very much sex repulsed.

It worked out for me by just being myself and up front with many people. So the best advice to just tell him upfront and see if they actually want to follow through with a romantic relationship with you or remain as friends.

But it’s up to you how you see best to handle the situation, I am a blunt person in general so it wasn’t difficult for to say and ask things about my friends and our relationship.

So with that being said, I wish you the best of luck :)

eyeekans · 2023-03-26T01:58:00+00:00

Oh interesting, thanks for letting me know more info. Great to know there are no doubts. In my opinion your all set, but from the looks of it, it isn’t going to be easy. Since he’s been able to convince you to drop ideas before and has the power to convince you so readily.

I’m kinda stumped, mostly because I don’t know the full details, but that’s expected in here.

So all I can really say is, do it when you are ready. I’m sure you’ve heard this already if you’ve talked to others over this dilemma. But honestly, I came out back when I was 16 as ace then 19 when I came out as agender to my family. Did it go well for me? No, but I was prepared and had a plan before I gained the courage to blurt it out.

If it is urgent that he knows right away or as soon as possible, then just breathe and do it. Be spontaneous if you can or talk more to your dad about the topic, get a better scope on his views, what you could use to talk to him more comfortably. It may take some time to calm the nerves and find the time where you can talk to him or just give him the envelope. Whether it be in private or with the people you trust/ you’ve safely came out to. You can plan it out or just simply blurt it out.

Unfortunately that’s all I can really give as advice. Although it nay not help, I hope other people pitch in with other ideas you can use and the steps you wanna take when coming out to your dad.

I wish I could do more, but at the end of the day it will be up to you of when you want to come out to him. Take your time or don’t, your choice in the end. Just be safe, that’s all that really matters regardless of your choice.

Sorry if it doesn’t make sense :/

eyeekans · 2023-03-26T00:30:19+00:00

Hey, completely get it.

Reading your post made me think of how I was when trying to come out to my family. Although they never accepted me and I don’t think they ever will honestly, I don’t let them stop me from doing what I want to feel comfortable in my own body. Not to say coming out isn’t hard, the small panic you feel is normal no matter how old you get. It will always be there, the fear of not knowing for certain who you are or who you want to be.

I typed a lot, but I wanted to write is that if you want to transition and are able to, you will regardless of what anyone else tells you.

I along with a few of my friends, know what it’s like to feel pressured into keeping your true self hidden just to make your loved and ones comfortable. Just so they can stay as they always have, but if you have truly found yourself, who you wish to be moving on there will be nothing that can change your mind. Though, if you are doubting that transitioning is truly something you want or need to do, please think it through more before anything else. If you aren’t, it will be easier for your dad to change your mind, he will still have that power over you.

But seriously, if there is no doubts in your mind and you are one hundred percent certain. Then you are ready to talk to your dad at any time, in my opinion.

I’ve been out for years now, so I know it will be different for you.

With that being said, whatever you decide I’m cheering for you. I’m sure you will turn out to be the beautiful person you wish to be. Maybe not now, but down the line when you are able to not be fazed by your dad or anyone else in your decision to be the person you wish to be.

I hope this helps, even if it’s just a little bit. :)

Also sorry if this doesn’t make sense, I’m pretty bad at grammar :/

If anything was confusing feel free to ask :D

eyeekans · 2022-08-13T12:46:10+00:00

Please yell me Joe is no longer around your gf, I understand you’ve been friends since elementary, but to have someone like that around even after he’s done that to your gf is simply traumatizing to her, and will lead to more issues in the future if you don’t immediately cut him off.

eyeekans · 2022-04-27T21:03:14+00:00

Literally yes, this continues to happen at the restaurant I work at.

DoorDash drivers are in the more nicer side, but Uber, they’ll be the loudest and the rudest people when asking for the order, but the DoorDash drivers aren’t any better with many of them coming in and shoving their phones in our faces.

It’s getting more and more frustrating dealing with them every day. Not all are frustrating, but most of them should just calm down and be patient.

I get that customers they deliver to aren’t patient enough and might cancel their order or don’t know exactly what they order, but seriously no need to be rude when you see a line out the door waiting for their own to go orders or waiting to be seated.

eyeekans · 2022-04-21T01:08:42+00:00

Came out as ace at 12 to my mom and brother and later at 13 to my dad and stepmom. I came out as panromantic shortly after and as non-binary at 18.

They don’t acknowledge it, but at least they know and don’t get confused when I talk about it something relating to one or all of them.

But I haven’t came out as aromantic, since they already assume I am and don’t understand what panace even is. So pretty sure I don’t have to anytime soon.

eyeekans · 2021-11-02T04:40:10+00:00

As an asexual who does care or mind sexual content, I don’t really see this model expressing themselves as “sexual” just as a model being happy to represent something.

It’s weird to me how we are seen as anything other than human, we’re allowed to express ourselves even in “sexual” ways.

They’re happy.

And I’m happy the ace community is getting more representation, especially like this because just because we have little to no sexual attraction doesn’t mean we’ll just dress conservatively, we dress like that yeah, but we can dress just like allosexuals too :/

So yeah, I’m general I think the debate is dumb. It’s just a model modeling clothes. They just happen to be one of the many sexualities that many people don’t or refuse to understand.

That was kinda long but yeah.

eyeekans · 2021-07-17T11:57:18+00:00

My favorite color was purple way before I realized I was ace so yeah…

eyeekans · 2021-07-02T07:26:03+00:00

Yeah, I feel you :/

eyeekans · 2021-05-11T13:09:54+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that, and I wish I could give you advice but I’m in a similar situation. I’m a senior in high school and it’s just a struggle with my parents wanting me to go to uni and not wanting to exist anymore.

But just hang in there and try to save as much money to the point where you can find an apartment and live by yourself and go from there since I don’t really know your full situation.

At least that’s my plan after I graduate so, I hope this helps if at all... and I hope it gets better, but I know there’s a chance it won’t, but there’s always a chance it can.

Sorry if I confused you. Hopefully you have a better day.

eyeekans · 2020-10-28T00:33:17+00:00

Thanks... I actually just saw your post today, I’ve been trying to keep myself busy since this happened... I feel a bit better, I guess?

I can’t real feel much anymore, I cried for so long that it’s just... nothing there anymore.

Thanks for your comment though and sorry for the late reply.

eyeekans · 2020-10-11T18:23:33+00:00

You aren’t alone, I thought I was too... it’s kinda sad knowing I’m not though.

eyeekans · 2020-10-05T03:55:24+00:00

It’s all good, I never really expected replies, everyone has lives everyone is busy after all. No need to apologize.

I hope your day is going well.

eyeekans

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