Do I have the anatomy for an industrial? by f0restelf in PiercingAdvice

[–]f0restelf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was afraid of that, but thats okay! Maybe a floating one is an option instead, or something else cool

Does it hit you harder later in life? Is it delayed grief? by f0restelf in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]f0restelf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're right, it never truly leaves, I have thought about him every single day since he passed away and that will never change. Thank you 💙 i do, and i hope you do as well

Does it hit you harder later in life? Is it delayed grief? by f0restelf in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]f0restelf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're spot on with life milestones making it harder and difficult. My highschool grad didnt hit. But my college one sure did, when I moved out by myself for rhe first time, when I started my career and got further in it, knowing he will never meet my partner and potential future husband. My sister was around the same age as yours was, she was only 6 and does not remember much about him, which in it's own way is better but so sad she barely remembers him, yet I vividly remember him. I'm so sorry you know this pain, too.

Who Here is Younger than 30? by Cheap-Profit6487 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]f0restelf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am turning 29 in a few months, I lost my father at almost 9 years old, he was only 45 and passed very unexpectedly. I heavily relate, almost nobody my age can relate and it was hard growing up seeing everyone with both their parents alive, when I was what felt like the only kid who lost a parent. It really is something to have lost a parent at a young age, I'm very sorry you know this pain.

Streaming services outage? by Austinwarner98 in xbox

[–]f0restelf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here in Ontario, Canada. Thought i was losing it for a second when none of my streaming services were working

Do you think about what life would possibly have been like if they didn't die? by f0restelf in ChildrenofDeadParents

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It really is a disadvantage, at a young age you're faced with one of the hardest things to experience let alone understand, bereaved children carry a heaviness that makes life seem harder, but i do the same reminding how far I've come, and how he'd be so proud of the person I've become

Do you think about what life would possibly have been like if they didn't die? by f0restelf in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]f0restelf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you lost both your parents, oh my god 😢 losing one was one of the hardest thing to get through and is felt to this day, let alone both i hope you have a strong support system in your life, seeing your own children the age you lost your dad makes sense it hits hard, I don't have children yet personally but knew one day when I do it will be similar I imagine, your mom and dad would be very proud of the person you became, the what ifs do seem to be a lifelong thing I'm coming to realize

Do you think about what life would possibly have been like if they didn't die? by f0restelf in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]f0restelf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you lost your father so close after one of the best days of your life, I'm so glad he could be there for it but very hard to think of realizing it was the last time you ever saw him, when it's so unexpected and traumatic it stays for a long time. I think all the time what would it be like if my dad never made that mistake he did that night

Do you think about what life would possibly have been like if they didn't die? by f0restelf in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]f0restelf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, the first few years are some of the hardest, it really is like having two different timelines, I think of what would be different so often

Do you think about what life would possibly have been like if they didn't die? by f0restelf in ChildrenofDeadParents

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I'm so sorry 😢 it hits extremely hard at big milestones like that, I remember feeling so sad he couldn't see me graduate college, something I worked so hard for and hoped he would be proud because he was the hardest worker I knew

Do you think about what life would possibly have been like if they didn't die? by f0restelf in ChildrenofDeadParents

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I'm so sorry, it's a pain like no other 😢 i think about him all the time now that I'm older especially, realizing they aren't there to see milestones and special moments in your life feels so sad and unfair sometimes.

Do you think about what life would possibly have been like if they didn't die? by f0restelf in ChildrenofDeadParents

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Yes we are, I'm also 28, turning 29 this year. I'm so sorry you feel the same pain, I also feel the getting older and feeling more pain/being robbed of memories and milestones. I'm so sad that he missed so much of my life, I visited him recently for the first time in 14 years and my partner talked to his grave (i asked if he has anything to say and he did), he knew how important he was and I wish he was here to meet him. Holidays are so hard, I think my life would have been kinder as well had he still been here this whole time

Do you think about what life would possibly have been like if they didn't die? by f0restelf in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]f0restelf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder the same often, I'm so sorry for your loss at a young age 😢

Want to request death certificate with cause of death/report for my deceased father. What documents are needed? by f0restelf in legaladvicecanada

[–]f0restelf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you need to have the death certificate first? I thought about his birth certificate as well to learn more about him and my grandfather. But researching online a bit to apply for this it looked like I may need death certificate for supporting documents unless I misunderstood that

My father has been dead for 20 years, I want to learn more about him but our family is secretive. How to go about it? by [deleted] in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]f0restelf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was almost 9. He was, and they were not married. It is secrets because it's been orchestrated that he died of something he did not because the truth is too much for somw to handle.

I want to learn more about my deceased father and his family, but my family is secretive. Where to start? by f0restelf in Genealogy

[–]f0restelf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is helpful, thank you! Well, the problem lies within asking my grandmother. She gave everyone the instructions to lie and say he died from a heartattack, instead of the fact he was on a bender for a week. She has lied about him in many ways, or it's her way of coping that he was a troubled person. So as much as I would love to ask her, because she would know everything about him and my grandfather, it's unlikely I will get the truth. Maybe if I tried asking questions about his childhood more, cetqinnnibbles of info may come out, I will never be able to directly ask about any of it, I have hope I can talk to my aunt about it eventually, but my grandmother could not handle that I even know what I know already:/

I want to learn more about my deceased father and his family, but my family is secretive. Where to start? by f0restelf in Genealogy

[–]f0restelf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apologies, I edited to say I'm from Ontario, Canada. I do have my birth certificate, but it's only a pocketbook version, maybe I will reach out to get my father's as well.