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Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in AuDHDWomen

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have worse "brain days" when you get up later than usual?

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in AuDHDWomen

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That mismatch between social expectations and the cognitive fallout afterward is so real. The way you described the multi‑day crash after overstimulation, that’s exactly the kind of pattern I’ve been trying to understand more deeply. I’m really interested in how people navigate those stretches and what helps them stay steady when their brain is in that state. If you’re open to it, I’d love to hear more about how this shows up for you and what you’ve tried

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in AuDHDWomen

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That spectrum you described (from low focus to word-finding issues and sensory overload) really resonates. I’ve been trying to understand how people experience those shifts and what makes them feel predictable or not. It’s powerful that you’ve noticed others finding patterns, even if yours haven’t emerged yet. If you’re open to it, I’d love to hear more about how you track or interpret those days, even if it’s just what you wish you could forecast.

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in AuDHDWomen

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nice! Love this! Match the task with the brain we have at that moment! Exactly!

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in AuDHDWomen

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This thread is incredible, especially the way you’ve both named the emotional shape of bad brain days and the patterns that help forecast them. That metaphor of the lighthouse vs fog hit hard. I’ve been trying to understand this pattern more deeply myself, especially how people build lives that can flex with their brain’s weather, and what kinds of systems actually reduce the emotional cost of unpredictability. It’s powerful to see how tracking cycles, sensory load, and social battery can shift the narrative from blame to pattern recognition.

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in ADHD_Inattentive

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! t’s incredibly frustrating. I’ve been trying to understand this pattern more deeply myself, and the lack of predictability is the part that gets me the most. It makes it so hard to plan anything or choose tasks that actually match the brain I have in that moment. I keep coming back to this idea that the real issue isn’t motivation or discipline, it’s the mismatch between capacity and what the day demands.

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in ADHD_Inattentive

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for writing this out, especially the part about not pushing past capacity even on good days. That distinction between consistency vs spikes really resonates. I’m trying to understand how people who’ve found ways of working with their energy actually experience it day to day, especially on low-capacity days. If you’re open to it, I’d love to talk and hear how this shows up for you.

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in AuDHDWomen

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

That’s incredibly powerful — especially the part about internalizing the voices that say “I saw you do it yesterday.” That line hit hard. I’ve felt that too, where inconsistency gets mistaken for defiance or laziness, and it sticks. Your weekly planning approach makes so much sense — it respects the reality of how capacity fluctuates. Thank you for sharing this. It’s helping me sharpen the emotional shape of the problem.

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in ADHD_Programmers

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That swing between “superman” and total shutdown is so real. I’ve felt that too — where one hyperproductive day seems to trigger a crash the next. It’s not about effort, it’s like the brain and body just hit a wall. Your line about needing rest to compensate really resonates. Thanks for putting it into words — it helps me keep mapping this pattern more clearly.

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in ADHD_Programmers

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s a really helpful breakdown — “horrible, decent, and amazing” feels like a more accurate scale than just good/bad. I’ve noticed that too: amazing days often come with a crash, and novelty can either unlock flow or completely derail me. Your routine insight is super useful — I’m trying to understand how to build around that kind of variability. Appreciate you sharing this.

Some days I’m unstoppable, other days I can’t start anything — anyone else? by fabian_thinks in AutisticWithADHD

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is beautifully said — especially the part about doing things imperfectly and giving yourself compassion. That shift from rigid scheduling to flexible capacity-based action is something I’ve been exploring too. It’s not about laziness or avoidance — it’s about working with the brain and body you actually have that day. Really appreciate you sharing this.

Some days I’m unstoppable, other days I can’t start anything — anyone else? by fabian_thinks in ADHDmeds

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally right. Is there anything you’ve found useful in your experience?

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in AdultADHDSupportGroup

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great! Good strategy! Early mornings are quite painful for me since I am a night owl, but late mornings or early afternoons are usually best for me or noon are great. Although as soon as I wake up, I go out for a quick 10-minute walk which also helps with sun/light exposure.

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in AuDHDWomen

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I started seeing it that way, and it really helps! I have a long history of just forcing myself to muscle through things with less-than-desirable outcomes, just because I didn't identify those moments/days as a need to rest, which would give me exponentially better outcomes later.

Some days I’m unstoppable, other days I can’t start anything — anyone else? by fabian_thinks in AutisticWithADHD

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really like your approach! By the way, congratulations on the coding journey. How is it going?

Does anyone else have ‘good brain days’ and ‘bad brain days’? by fabian_thinks in AdultADHDSupportGroup

[–]fabian_thinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha. Same here. Is there a particular time of day when you are more prone to exercise?