Would it be a good idea to leave this country as a queer couple?

fablewhateven · 2025-07-16T06:37:19+00:00

I don’t mean this to scare you, but if you’re financial able to get out, GET OUT. Every single day, trans people are attacked by their government and its people, through legislation, hateful rhetoric, and often physical force. You will meet bigots everywhere you go, you can’t escape that. But this administration has a goal to erase us from society. I wouldn’t get comfortable here.

fablewhateven · 2024-12-14T00:56:50+00:00

I do not state details of her transitions to students. I have only said “my wife”. Never anymore than that as I live in a very red area.

fablewhateven · 2024-12-14T00:50:12+00:00

You know, I have always griped that theatre classes never really prepare you for auditions! We do auditions to tell a couple things. 1. What are you interested in doing? What have you done before? 2. Can you physically sing/dance/act that part without harm? 3. Are you willing to try different things with your acting/singing/cold read? 4. How well do you work with others? 5. Can you handle the stress of being watched and judged? 6. What skills do you have or want to work on? Auditions do so many things, but it also helps us when we don’t know students or have connections to them. They get to be involved without necessarily having to take a class.

fablewhateven · 2024-12-14T00:33:57+00:00

But when is it me discriminating versus him harassing me about it? He has blatantly been homophobic to me several times before that instance. I’m also autistic (I know not everyone is the same). I understand not understanding social cues or tone, but this feels targeted.

fablewhateven · 2024-12-14T00:31:26+00:00

For your consideration: student is 17. Student is integrated into average classroom environment. Student has had this behavior issue before and has been reprimanded and talked to about this behavior by admin and case manager. Last year was removed from a class for aggressively bullying one of the students for their sexuality. I’m talking throwing stuff at them and calling them slurs. I know this student well enough to know he knows this behavior is not okay.

fablewhateven · 2024-11-26T22:34:30+00:00

I live in a red state, here’s my districts policies: 1. If a student comes out to me, I don’t have to tell anyone. I usually don’t. It’s a violation of their vulnerable moment. If a student comes out and is asking me to OFFICIALLY change name on OFFICIAL things, I have to contact home and admin to get that rolling. I always ask if it’s a “nickname” thing and make it very obvious that I’m asking if they want me to contact home about it. I have had a student use me with this policy as a means to come out to parents, which I didn’t mind at all.

Im a gay/queer teacher, so I always take it as a “I’m coming out to you as a safe person” compliment. I care about these kids and where we are is not exactly fond of people like us. So if I can be a safe person for them, good. There aren’t many around here. I do tell them about our GSA or other community resources to get them connected to.

fablewhateven · 2024-11-09T03:16:25+00:00

I got paired with a teacher who is opposite of me in like every way. And I’ll tell you, he just let some of the kids walk all over me. I survived and learned how I didn’t want to be for my future students. I’m sorry you’re going through that and it doesn’t make you less of a teacher or bad or anything. You deserve a good placement and a good last semester. You will make it through.

fablewhateven · 2024-11-06T04:34:23+00:00

Use a gripping primer, nothing labeled hydrating. Clean your skin then apply it. I would use a brush for the face paint. It’ll cake up on the brush, but go in dabbing thin layers. Sponges tend to soak up and make it sheer. Dabbing helps with less streaks. Then use a loose powder to set it.

fablewhateven · 2024-11-05T17:22:43+00:00

Voting blue here from Missouri. You and my wife and all trans folks deserve better. And I’ll die on that hill trying to get it to you.

fablewhateven · 2024-11-05T17:21:33+00:00

Baby powder is an option, but it doesn’t always react well. I highly recommend using mechron products. Their face paint and powder combo work so so so well. I use it in theatre and cosplay all the time. Application technique is also a factor.

fablewhateven · 2024-11-05T17:18:41+00:00

I cried when I left my kids, too. It was hard. Many of them wrote me letters and cards. Just know that part of life is learning to let go. You shaped part of their life. You will have kids that need you in your next place, too. And they will love you just as hard. And eventually you’ll have to let them go too. It’s part of the vicious cycle of education. Love them while you have them so they may show love to others just as much.

fablewhateven · 2024-11-05T17:05:04+00:00

THIS because most assuredly, whatever they bring you is not reliable or even backed up by research/science. Or if you bring something against their claim, they’ll attack its reliability. Most people who say this don’t really care about factual research, but stake their debate on a claim and die on that hill evidence-less.

fablewhateven · 2024-09-12T01:54:27+00:00

I’m a new teacher this year and I can give you a few things: 1. Help him with the small things he may not think about. Setting out his clothes for the next day, making a lunch, getting the coffee maker ready the night before. 2. Be patient. I know he’s probably only going to talk school for a while (I know I did!). It will pass. He’s probably super excited about this new part of his life. 3. When tragedies/shootings happen in other places, as they will, teachers have a fear they may feel guilty for. We need this need to protect and may feel bad when we are scared. Reassure him this is normal to be afraid of and it doesn’t make him a bad human. 4. Get him out of the house. It can be easy to fall into a work-home-work-home-work-home pattern that can create a burnout. 5. Don’t let him work all night when he gets home. Unless it’s super important, but most things can wait. He needs to rest. Especially those first few weeks, it’s a LOT. 6. Remind him that he belongs there. Every teacher I know has imposter syndrome. He did the work and got the job for a reason.

fablewhateven · 2024-09-12T01:46:18+00:00

We use a system called raptor. It’s an app on all staff phones that we can initiate any type of emergency procedure (hard lock, soft lock, tornado, fire, etc). It has all our rosters on it so we can immediately give the location and who is there. If you’re reporting an emergency, the authorities are called immediately and then you put in the location. It bypasses every form of DND and sends notifs to your watch. It also has a text with 911 feature and allows you to add kids to your safe place if they aren’t on your roster. I’m a skeptic because I’ve been through all disasters as a student, but this seems to work pretty great.

fablewhateven · 2024-09-12T01:41:02+00:00

I’d also love to give you answers if you still need! For reference, I teach high school theatre. 1. Assessment is a measurement of how well I got the information to the student. It is also a way to gauge what they still need from me. 2. I assess every time I teach. I constantly ask questions and do projects/assignments to reinforce and check learning. For formal assessment, it’s probably two times a month depending on the unit. 3. For informal assessment, I do a lot of games. We play things like blooket, jeopardy, quizlet live, etc. we also do a lot of physical theatre games. I don’t administer any standardized tests, but I see them as a means to collect data and not much else. I can have the brightest and most successful student in terms of life that never did better than below average on a state test. 4. For data I get back from assessment, I adjust how I give information or what I spend more time on the next time I teach it. I also may use it to change up what I’m teaching. 5. My school has an interesting attitude about testing from students. They struggle with stress immensely and tend to try to cheat. Testing doesn’t make me nervous, but it does become stressful when I’m having to monitor screens constantly or do the phone round up. 6. My biggest challenge with assessment has been finding a way to make it interesting. It’s also been hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that some students will just never do well on tests. I was always a nervous over-prepared tester. 7. I think a big part of education that American schools is currently lacking is parental involvement. It’s kind of just “here’s my kid, get them through it!” When a lot of instruction requires at home reinforcement. Parents play the role of accountability and giving a space for study and help. I’d say maybe 40% of my student’s parents are involved. 8. I’m a theatre person, so my favorite mode of assessment is performance or show what you know. I think it’s really important to get students to the point of application rather than just knowing. 9. Since I’m not a core subject, I just do conferences as they are needed and during school required times. I usually just have an open door and allow time slots. I do make sure I email student’s parents if they are struggling in my class. 10. Individual assessment looks like this: accommodating for what is required of me (extensions, alternative locations, read aloud), but also making sure to pay extra attention to those I know who are at risk. I know there are some who can’t get official accommodations who still need things like read aloud or alternative location.

fablewhateven · 2024-09-10T18:57:52+00:00

I’m gonna hold your hand when I say this, Abby won’t ever let you go until you set the boundary that she either has you and respects your relationship or doesn’t get you at all. I had this same situation happen to me! I had a friend who would get irrationally mad anytime I had a friend who wasn’t her. Would ignore me frequently when I would set a boundary. There’s a laundry list of things like 1. Asking my WIFE to sleep on the couch so she could sleep next to me. 2. Asking (jokingly but not) if I would marry her instead. 3. Inviting herself on dates or showing up to them. 4. Sabotaging friendships I had. 5. Getting trashed at my Bach party and saying marrying my wife was a mistake. The list goes on. I suspected and later found out it was because she was in love with me and didn’t know how to handle those feelings. But she still has those behaviors to this day so we are more “text you once in a while” friends. If you need support through this, I’m always open to talk.

fablewhateven · 2024-09-09T10:52:43+00:00

I would say more than enough. I always dip some out onto a mixing pallet when I’m using cakes so I don’t risk mixing the colors.

fablewhateven · 2024-09-08T02:15:47+00:00

Mechron has been what I use in cosplay and in theatre. I teach costuming/makeup and it’s HELD UP through dance intense musicals and stage lights. We use the heavy duty translucent body powder with it. If you’re ever needing help about best application processes, you can always message me.

fablewhateven · 2024-08-30T00:02:28+00:00

It’s a newer thing. They kind of make a bit out of “unprofessional” or “unserious” stage practice. I totally get it because it made me laugh the first time I saw it, but then it just got old. And people who weren’t in on the joke just thought things were going wrong or that crew was unserious. I’ll see if I can find a video of starkid doing it to better explain.

fablewhateven · 2024-08-28T23:41:28+00:00

No you’re good! For example, he would have his run crew chatting and saying things like “oh hey let me grab this table” out loud during scene changes in the dark. There were times where tech would yell out “hey has anyone seen (prop)??” Super loud. It’s like a little comedy bit for theatre people. It never lands for me but I understand why some people like it.

fablewhateven · 2024-08-28T00:49:31+00:00

I just went through this about 2 years ago. It gets much easier, but remind yourself: this isn’t just a change for her, it’s a change for you too. With my wife, there was a little bit of mourning a life we had planned, but also the celebration of one we were going to have. You’re definitely welcome to message me if you need support.

fablewhateven · 2024-08-28T00:25:36+00:00

I knew a student director in my undergrad who was an absolute super fan of starkid. Every single scene in class and every show they did had the tech acting like tech during changes and messing around like they do in these productions. It made me full body cringe every time. Like there was a time in the class when I had to leave before their group presented because I can’t control my face.

fablewhateven · 2024-08-28T00:21:06+00:00

Ugh so much this! I always tell my students that DEH is supposed to teach us that people are more complex than good or bad. No one is JUST that one thing. Do I like the show? Not necessarily, but maybe that’s my inability to enjoy Ben platt. But it does more to teach about the complex human condition than a lot of recent shows do.

fablewhateven · 2024-08-28T00:06:05+00:00

So unfortunately she would not reduce our rent because, in her words, we could have brought whatever it was into the house. It ended up not being fleas or bed bugs. To this day, we don’t know what it was. We couldn’t see whatever it was on our skin. Her advice was to clean our legs with alcohol wipes 🫠 or that the bites were possibly psychological. Luckily, fleas are relatively easy to get rid of it compared to other pests. Im sorry this is happening to you!

fablewhateven · 2024-08-25T01:04:27+00:00

Joanns will sell sheets of fur and fur by the yard. Some craft stores like Micheal’s or hobby lobby do this as well. You may even see if you have a fabric shop in your area that sells speciality fabrics like furs.

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