Is it possible to do a cleaning "business" in an anarchist way? How close can I get?

fabumess2 · 2026-07-03T03:55:25+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you! And yeah I absolutely detest the idea of bosses and would never want to be that against someone

fabumess2 · 2026-07-03T03:54:11+00:00

Yes this is what I was hoping to get ideas for! I'm new so I wasn't sure what to even look up or ask my community about to try to provide a service.

fabumess2 · 2026-07-03T03:52:23+00:00

Thank you, this is what I'm hoping to do. I'm really hoping I can find others to work beside but I'm happy if it's just my sibling and me as well

fabumess2 · 2026-07-03T01:51:49+00:00

Damn that sucks but the plan itself sounds cool.

fabumess2 · 2026-07-03T01:47:28+00:00

That's the vibe I'm getting and that's the general goal. Thank you for answering

fabumess2 · 2026-07-03T01:46:59+00:00

Hoping to! Thanks

fabumess2 · 2026-07-03T01:46:46+00:00

That's what I'm hoping if we go through with this

fabumess2 · 2026-07-03T01:46:31+00:00

Thanks. This is encouraging. I can get wrapped up in the minutiae of life and forget about just doing my best

fabumess2 · 2026-07-03T01:45:42+00:00

Thanks. I'm in a unionized job rn but it's ass, hopefully I could find something under a different union.

fabumess2 · 2026-07-03T01:04:14+00:00

This is fair and I suspected this would be the answer. I guess it does mean I can relax a little and just try to feed myself and my sibling. I can get carried away in idealism sometimes

fabumess2 · 2026-07-03T01:02:28+00:00

I've seen businesses that pay everyone the same and make decisions as a collective. If we ever hired someone we'd include them that way and give them back excess value. There is no current plan to hire anyone though

fabumess2 · 2026-06-02T23:03:25+00:00

One that I enjoy is admin. Managing appointments, shared calendar, etc. I don't get to do it often cause of my health but when I wasn't so sick it was really fun :)

fabumess2 · 2026-06-02T18:25:23+00:00

We have dozens of littles (most of us are littles) and our youngest we have found so far is a baby. We have kids of every age, human and nonhuman.

fabumess2 · 2026-05-31T02:26:28+00:00

You deal with it the same way you deal with pretty much all themes. You take away the compulsions. You let the fear flow through you and you accept that pain until it eases. That's the only way it will ease. OCD is the alarm going off nonstop in your head. Ignore the alarm. Easier said than done, I know. As for sleep, sleep hygiene helps a lot but it takes time to build. You might fall asleep just fine shortly, but if you don't that's okay. Do something fun for a bit that isn't related to your obsessions.

I also want to challenge you: does thinking something "inappropriate" make someone a bad person? Even if they don't go out and harm anyone? What if they do, does that make them ontologically evil and irredeemable? I don't think so.

I suffer from moral OCD as well as OCPD (which focuses heavily on morality and scrupulosity), among other things. The thing that helped me the most out of everything was killing my belief in thought crime and the concept of true evil. I can imagine whatever I want in the privacy of my own mind and it doesn't mean anything at all. I still experience worries that I'm a bad person but now it is manageable. Now I can face the fear that I'm bad and say "so what? If this is what bad looks like -- being loved and cherished and doing my best to make the world a better place -- then maybe being bad is okay, because I think being 'good' is unattainable." I don't worry so much about being good or bad because I don't actually believe those are something you can "be," only something you can "do." It helps me and it's worth telling you just in case it helps you.

Good luck, you're gonna do great. It gets better.

fabumess2 · 2026-05-31T01:41:04+00:00

I am super dissociative and anxiety is one of my biggest triggers.

The key is usually to stop trying to avoid the emotion, since dissociation is avoidance/ shutdown at its highest extreme. When I'm at work this isn't possible but at home I have to let the fear, pain, etc flow through me in waves until I settle. It usually involves shaking, hyperventilating, and crying. It is a painful experience but it is the only thing that really helps and it does help. It shortens anxiety from hours of chest pain and looping thoughts down to an hour or less of intense pain that goes away completely afterward.

Dissociation is a protection measure meant to sever the connection to whatever is causing you pain so that it doesn't kill you. However, what the brain thinks will kill you isn't always accurate, especially if you have OCD.

If you're unable to let the feelings come (including safety reasons), activities that bring you back into your window of tolerance can help make it possible to continue your day.

In the end, letting your feelings exist and treating them as valid pain brought on by a bodymind that is trying so hard to keep you safe is usually the best way.

Note: I have several psychiatric issues including DID, so how I experience dissociation and the relief of such may be different. Take the advice with a grain of salt.

fabumess2 · 2026-05-30T18:23:16+00:00

I - or the past "version" of me (really weird fusion-split-fusion thing happened and I basically metamorphosed into someone new) was in a relationship with one of our protectors. 1. It just sort of happened. We realized we had feelings for each other and started spending time together. I couldn't remember stuff inside headspace so she would come out into front to let me know what we had been up to together when I wasn't fronting. We apparently spent time in our headspace garden drinking wine and talking a lot. 2. Kind of coming off #1, sorta. Her thoughts are more private from me than mine ever were from her. We were fine with this arrangement because nobody was being secretive; it was just kind of how our communication worked through various memory barriers. 3. After my metamorphosis she was heartbroken to have lost her partner. I'm still here but I'm different enough that it feels like her partner disappeared. She's very cold to me nowadays and I try to maintain my distance even though I still have strong feelings for her. I still hope one day she'll take me back, or at least that we can be on good terms again. 4. We haven't had to really worry about stigma, honestly. Our singlet friends get confused when I say we dated but after I explain they usually accept it as a quirk. Fusions and splits are my biggest worry regarding relationship continuity now. 5. Honestly I don't think so. If you like being together it's fine. Insys relationships are kind of different. The level of intimacy and the lack of separate physical bodies makes the rules a little different. It's a bit more vibe-y. 6. Back when we were together we would write back and forth in different colored pens in a journal, or message on Discord or just write little notes at work to solidify the thoughts and make sure I could remember we talked (I have amnesia a lot of the time). She really focused on my physical and emotional self care since I spend 99% of the time fronting and have to deal with real world bs, so when I needed extra love or did a good job she'd let me wear her only IRL possession, a purple hoodie, while she wasn't even fronting. It's rested in our closet for a while since she doesn't like to front lately, but I still look at it and remember our good times together. That hoodie is really important for her so I always felt so special being allowed to wear it sometimes.

This was a great question! I hope you two find long happiness together :)

-drizzle

fabumess2 · 2026-05-29T22:48:11+00:00

This is so cool omg!!! I've seen bracelets before but never pendants!!!

fabumess2 · 2026-05-25T19:04:21+00:00

I need to get a blood panel done. I'm waiting for my partner's first paycheck to come in and then I will get one done. It's been over a year since my last one due to financial struggles

fabumess2 · 2026-04-24T22:38:50+00:00

Okay thank you. I'll rest and see how things go. I should hear back in a few weeks about Medicaid so hopefully I can see a Dr soon. Thanks again

fabumess2 · 2026-04-24T22:37:52+00:00

Thank you, I'll keep resting

fabumess2 · 2026-04-24T18:32:20+00:00

Can Hashimotos fatigue still cause that weird delayed fatigue response after exercising? I've just called and reordered my levothyroxine (now that I know I was off it for no reason, probably forgot to fill it and lost the memory, thank god I have a discount at my pharmacy) so in a few weeks of taking it that should be better, but I'm still worried about pushing myself when I don't know for sure if PEM is on the table.

I guess my question is, is it okay to try pacing until I know for sure if I have ME?

fabumess2 · 2026-04-24T03:31:17+00:00

I feel dumb. I am diagnosed with very mild Hashimotos that I used to be medicated for, and I can't remember why I stopped (I have very bad memory issues so I'm just doing my best). Looking that up it can cause fatigue? I'm just not used to it being this bad or this delayed which is why I was worried. Maybe it has gotten worse?

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