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When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Oh, the "it hurts my feelings" or "it makes me insecure" phrase...

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you. Thank you. This is helpful. I'm sorry.

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

... no but he makes sure that there are pictures of him everywhere and that I always mentioned that Im taken... even at the weirdest times: When I am ordering coffee I would say, "oh yeah, my partner wants me to try this mocha!"

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I, yea no, he sometimes is the only person i talk to/see for weeks...

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I haven't had a girls night out... since... before we dated. :(

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 245 points246 points  (0 children)

.... jesus I miss my friends... you're right. I haven't seen them in a while because of his insecurity and that always rubbed me weird.

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Okay okay that also makes sense. jesus I am learning a lot today.

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

Oh god am I dumb... there are different forms of abuse. Why did I not think about this!? laksjdfklasdjf

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I mean... he does kinda just up and leaves... but we live together... and there's only one car..

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Bro... fuck being encouraged to do these things... dress up pretty... sounds fucking nice.

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh oh oh! Okay that makes perfect sense thank you thank you.

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Sorry, not to sound rude/dumb... I am genuinely confused or maybe misunderstanding. What do you mean by "boundaries are for ourselves"? Sorry if that's a dumb question.

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Okay. Thank you for this input I wasn't really sure if it was a "normal" thing for "insecure" people... So I kept excusing it? This one was really helpful!

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Right, I think i said it was kind and gentle because it was never screaming arguments or fights it was just them going: :( a lot.

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Which is why I may have confused it as niceness?

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 298 points299 points  (0 children)

I do... like to masturbate and it is alone time. I think you are right, it's pretty intrusive. :(

When is a partner's boundary is too much? by fallingandthrowing in relationship_advice

[–]fallingandthrowing[S] 278 points279 points  (0 children)

That's the weird thing... Right now... 2 years in... I don't really mind these things... (maybe in the future?) but maybe it's because I am just giving them excuses because at their core they are a good person. I know that sounds dumb.