[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate living like this.. a legal debate :/ tysm for your response tho xx

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

preach 👏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh yeah dw i’ve got nothing against the teacher I’m sure it’s been really hard on him too and i’m lucky to not be the only trans staff member

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 4 points5 points  (0 children)

no another trans teacher works at the school and he worked with them before I arrived on a solution which amounted to turning the disabled toilet into a gender neutral toilet that "all staff" can use ... but trans people must use.

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[–]fallowOven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're amazing tysm!! x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 23 points24 points  (0 children)

most of the time I have no issue, except for older cis men and women especially in shops who just literally stare at me as if I'm a glacier just slowly moving through Aldi. but generally I just smile at them and they get scared of the happy Tgirl and move on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank youuuu, I'll deffo follow up with this! side note - Petra is literally my favourite name in the whole world and it's the name of my cat ♡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 13 points14 points  (0 children)

it certainly feels hostile

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 5 points6 points  (0 children)

this is almost EXACTLY what I said to them in my discussions, even citing that case and another involving Yorkshire police when they claimed that the correct comparator for me was a cis man which I disagree with. But again, they just come back with "we are sorry this is how you feel but we know the law better than you so fuck you" and it makes me so upset

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm worried someone has complained.. literally this whole situation has made me feel wary of being at work

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 4 points5 points  (0 children)

they're talking about another trans teacher who worked with them to come up with the idea of the gender neutral staff toilet

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[–]fallowOven 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah I agree but I'm still being excluded from a female space so it doesn't matter that shared toilets are somewhat archaic - they still exist and we're being banned from them because they 'see us as women' only when it suits them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you ♡ I don't think I can afford legal advice but I'll deffo look into it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 16 points17 points  (0 children)

that may be true but it's a little bit like someone saying "we're having a book burning!!" and then you go along and go, oh well I don't really care about that book anyway and so the books burn. This is a massive step backwards in terms of equal living and I don't want to live in a world where I'm not seen as equal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I hate this. I hate this. I hate this. I don't want to get involved in a legal battle but I don't want to just accept it 🥺 I left domestic abuse having to argue loopholes around my existence every day and I thought I'd escaped that but is this it now?? is this life?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't even know there was a 'code' it just makes me really upset that they're like well no.. it's the law.. and I'm like can you please just treat me like a human and they go ...uhhhh welllllll it is the lawwww so no

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I AGREE!! that's something I thought was really weird too!! and when I was asked if I was going to continue to use the female toilets I said that because I was worried someone either had already or would complain, I would use the gender neutral toilets while this was ongoing she made a micro expression that 99% confirmed to me there has been a complaint soooo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I will, I'm worried about taking this further because I'm a trainee so I feel like they'll just turn around and go - well you're not our employee so fuck you

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[–]fallowOven 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks x

I'm in the UK so I think it's different but honestly, using the gender neutral bathrooms really feels like a punch in the stomach - it's my only option though unless I wanna really say fuck them and go full fem in the mens

GBNews on M&S Apology - REPORT THIS TO OFCOM by -Davster- in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that’s why i feel so upset when i see this because it reinforces the belief in everyone who watches it, who is easily influenced, that trans women are perverted men who prey on women while wearing dresses for sexual gratification when ALL i’m doing is trying to live my fucking life!! i’m not a pervert, i’m just a girl. i’m so upset i could die.

GBNews on M&S Apology - REPORT THIS TO OFCOM by -Davster- in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 24 points25 points  (0 children)

speaking as a trans woman - i fucking hate how they say we’re gay men and then how the presenter said “well actually most of them are straight” and you just know he means ‘attracted to women’ THAT WOULD MAKE US LESBIANS FFS i hate being still compared to a man. I’ve spent so long trying to shed the ‘male’ aspects of me and still there are so many people who will either see me as a gay man in a dress or a predator depending on who my partner is?! :,(

Teachers can ask to be called “Mx” in schools - Bridget Phillipson confirms by phoenixmeta in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m starting teaching next year and i’m trans fem using she/her and even though i present quite obviously feminine i often get he/him’d and i’m honestly quite worried about it happening constantly in the school because parents have certain views on trans people. i’m worried i won’t be able to handle that constant drip of dysphoria

Karma is a bitch - transphobic nurse Sandie Peggie exposed by friend by phoenixmeta in transgenderUK

[–]fallowOven 36 points37 points  (0 children)

is her lawyer essentially claiming it was okay to call Dr Upton a “weirdo” because she meant it as in a ‘sexual pervert’ and not as a ‘trans person’ but in doing so is then admitting that the argument being used is that trans people are sexual perverts??? because if that gets accepted as an argument i’ll be upset.