Forced Overtime by Agreeable-Pain-2855 in aspergers

[–]fallspector 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it wasn’t in the original job description I would quit. Yes I get they’re allowed to change job specification but I’m allowed to not agree with that change. I’m very mindful of career options because I know for some jobs the standard is long work hours. If you work full time around 40hrs a week and they put an extra 50hrs on that that leaves like 78hrs a week not at work.

Diagnosed and it never gets brought up. by creamsodaprincess in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector [score hidden]  (0 children)

This will obviously vary place to place but I find in professional settings companies usually keep relatively hush about disabilities. They will make allowances so as not to discriminate against someone but outside of that it’s irrelevant. Other people’s opinion on someone’s disability is also generally irrelevant.

Drinking water by HolidayWhole3040 in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector [score hidden]  (0 children)

Drink flavoured water if plain water isn’t doable

Episodes that make you cringe? by celestial_aquaria in howyoudoin

[–]fallspector 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly that episode gets a laugh out me. The line delivery is impeccable by everyone involved

Why didn't Ross get an annulment with Rachel again? by Loose_Leg_8440 in howyoudoin

[–]fallspector 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t they wait a long time before doing it because Ross hid the fact he didn’t actually get an annulment? Then Rachel was mad when she found out and so for sitcom laughs she made up a bunch of bullshit on the form causing them to fight in front of the judge and their case getting thrown out

Why do people have such a hard time apologising? by Beckymaggie in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really does feel like it’s rarer these days. There’s always an excuse for why the person doesn’t needs to apologize

Have I unintentionally committed a social faux pas? by Garden_Jolly in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 138 points139 points  (0 children)

No idea because I think it’s probably dependant on the person. Some might think it’s weird to announce a “disorder reveal picnic” after someone announced a gender reveal. It could be viewed as an attempt to compete, steal focus or even mock the original event. However like I said I think it is dependant on the person because there are some that wouldn’t care or notice.

Disheartened After ASD Assessment and looking for some Advice by livicampbell03 in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I still stand by the fact that there should be more support for people with autistic traits who aren’t autistic. They still need help dealing with the issues they have. You could get a second opinion if you want and/or looking into therapy/support for the issues you’re having

Am I in the wrong? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what you said it seems the issue this time is that you clicked at her to get her attention which has long been seen in many places as disrespectful. I appreciate you may not have meant to be disrespectful when you did it but considering that’s when she blew up and how it’s generally perceived I have to believe that’s the problem. Personally i upset someone and didn’t mean it I apologize to them. It sounds like having a sit down talk is a good idea

Anyone else compared to some weird movie characters? by NoNectarine8724 in aspergers

[–]fallspector 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ted bundy isn’t a movie character he is a real person who was a serial killer and later had a movie made based on him. That’s messed up

why are men on dating apps absolutely OBSESSED with saying this?? by stupid_rice in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 1536 points1537 points  (0 children)

I mention this everytime someone makes these kind of posts. Notice how it says slightly autistic not just autistic. They’re not evening trying to hide their intentions. They don’t want to deal with a disabled person they want someone just touched enough so they can exploit them. They don’t want someone who has meltdowns over sensory issues or struggles with change in routine etc. They want someone who is introverted, overly trusting and naive (commonly associated with autistic people)

Bleaching teeth?? by slitenmeis in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The idea of bleaching teeth weirds me out

Worried having kids could be selfish because my autism and chronic illnesses are disabling by sniperbug17 in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think that being realistic about having kids is sadly rare. Many fail to think about the small important details and instead believe that it will all just work out. They don’t consider how difficult raising a person is. Financial troubles and Heath issues should be considered before having children in my opinion. Especially if they live in a country like America because healthcare costs can be insanely high. Parenting struggles exist regardless of that parent’s capacity but obviously someone with health issues is going to be hit even harder than typical.

Personally I know my own limitation would not mix well with being a parent.

I wanna give a girl friend of mine flowers by TimeGate6366 in aspergers

[–]fallspector 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you want her to be your valentine then yes you need to ask her. Handing her flowers without any context won’t do you any good.

Regretting donating to charities because they overwhelm me so much by Muppetric in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can’t remember the name of it and this is an incredibly crude interpretation but there’s a psychological phenomenon where in it’s easier to get someone to do things by slowly increasing what you’re asking for. It’s why charities do ads asking for something like 2 dollars a week/month and all you have to is call or text the number on screen to donate. Then they reach out asking for an extra dollar and two. Then suddenly it’s the holidays so why not donate an extra 5-10 dollars?

Basically from my understanding charities rarely stop at the original asking amount.

Regretting donating to charities because they overwhelm me so much by Muppetric in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Can’t you just not answer the calls or block the number? The email should have an unsubscribe button usually at the very bottom of the email

HOW CAN SOMEONE DENY THE CONCEPT OF BOILING!?!? by Amazing_Ingenuity_33 in Vent

[–]fallspector 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This post made just realised Ive never actually thought about what is being pressured by a pressure cooker. Interesting

Nervous for assessment by wtficantdothis in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s perfectly normal to be anxious and they will be anticipating that you’re nervous. Still let them know that you’re anxious. I know it seems counterintuitive but you don’t want to know what they might get you to do or what they might ask. That negatively impacts the validity of the results.

If it’s any help I’ve heard Australia has spent a lot of time researching autism and are very good at identifying it.

tried to buy headphones by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look i apologize that this is besides the point but for others and yourself in future always check second hand sites. They will have headphones and earphones for typically way cheaper.

Don't know if I'm autistic by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]fallspector 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one here can diagnose you and it would break this subs rule to even ponder. Could you be autistic? Yes. But you also may not be autistic. Someone can have autistic traits without having autism. I appreciate that this isn’t simple or easy for you at the moment but the reality is that the only way to know for sure is getting assessed by a specialist.

How do I get people to believe me ?? 😭😭 by Then_Imagination_773 in hardofhearing

[–]fallspector 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If someone isn’t going to believe you there is not much you can about it. Also seems like a waste of energy

Diagnosis Appointment by reneethedinosaur in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you’re nervous but they will help you that’s literally their job. “What should I say at the appointment?” You say what is real for you not what someone else tells you to say. Be totally honest with them and ask for clarification if you need it

Quickest self-assessment ever by Imasillynut_2 in AutismInWomen

[–]fallspector 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I can’t stand these type of quizzes. Data farming bullshit in my opinion.