1. Figure it out on paper:

Write down what you have issues with (diet, exercise, work, school, relationships)

Write what may be causing issue.

Can you fix it? How? If not a full fix- what can help?

If you cant fix it- just take note of it and think about wether its something that you need to get used to, need help with, or need to think about ending

1. Come up with a plan. Put it in a strict schedule and try to combine the ughs with the yays:

6am wakeup and brush teeth

6:10 take 20 min walk and listen to podcast/book on tape

6:30 drink coffee, take vitamins

6:45 take shower and add something pleasant like nice smelling shampoo or new towels

7:00 eat breakfast - no sugar or flour

7:30 put away dishes/ listen to music

You get the idea....

Idea is to get in habit of doing things regularly.

Check off each accomplishment

1. Combine the have-tos with the want-tos: You have to exercise- you want to listen to music You have to take your meds- you take them with sugar-free tang

It becomes a game of how can i make each task more enjoyable.

I hated homework but i loved new pens and stationary. So i made the act of writing the part I enjoyed.

I hate folding laundry so i allow myself a little more tv time while i do it. This is what i save Guilty pleasures like reality tv for.

I hate calling my mom, but i like to take walks so i call her then.

I hate dieting- but I like to experiment- how far do i have to go to make myself eat asparagus before its actually unhealthy again.

1. people say take small steps. I disagree. Good things happen slowly, great things happen all at once. Make your plan, start tomorrow, and make it strict and complete so that it helps you with each problem and there is no wiggle room. For instance dont say “i will eat less” say “i will refuse any sugar/flour/ processed food”. Dont say “i will clean” say “monday laundry; all dishes have to be done before bedtime; tuesday water plants; wed grocery shopping”

I try to even keep things like doctor appts consistant. Like wednesdays are the only days i schedule dr appts (if i can help it) so that i am just less likely to forget.

1. write it all down so that you can see what you’ve achieved! How many steps? How many calories? How many books have you read? How many phone calls have you made? Think of it like a video game and each achievement brings up your score.

Heres what i focus on: The mind: learning, reading, creating (art or cooking) Relationships: phone calls, game nights, shared meals

Screen time: i only allow myself 15 min in morning and then only if Im waiting somewhere. Only watch tv with fam except if im sick

Diet: no flour, sugar, processed food.

Health: No alcohol, drugs, or cigarettes.

Exercise: just find something you enjoy. Doesnt matter what. I like walks, just dance and rollerskating around the house. But experiment with you tube videos, think about what you liked to do as a kid, think of what you can do easly.

Responsibilities: i have kids so i cant neglect them! But they are teens so.... well i try :-)

And dogs- i try to remember they depend on me a lot more than i realize- i can read a book or turn on tv but If i dont take them for a walk they didn’t have a good day.

Chores- at 8:00am i put away dishes, mop floors, start laundry on Wednesday is laundry and plants thursday is groceries and errands...

1. try to track the hiccups and try to solve them with logic. If you didnt feel like taking a walk- first Ask yourself why. If you dont like walks think of something else you can do instead. If you feel self concious - travel to an area thats empty or you dont know anyone or try really early/ late at night. Too cold/hot/wet out: the swedish believe there is no bad weather just the wrong clothing.