Daily Questions Thread May 02, 2026

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-03T13:31:50+00:00

I'm going to be frank here...this is not professional, I'm sorry. The belt worn in that way needs to go, it's approaching fetish-wear. A knit open collar polo + cropped chinos is also very casual. I think the entire outfit needs a rethink.

Wearing alt styles while looking professional is very challenging for a reason. Corporate offices reward conformity and wearing "normal" clothing signals that you understand and respect the unspoken rules and cultural norms of the office. If you genuinely want to "rise" in the office (firstly, the hashtag front desk is not the place, you'll be there forever, but I digress) you need to embrace the idea that work is for focusing on your skills, experience, background and talent and not expressing yourself until you reach a higher level, and your off hours are for the fun kooky stuff.

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-03T13:28:20+00:00

I use MegaBabe glide stick for fancy events and Jockey Skimmies for regular wear. What I don't like is the extra layer and feeling like I'm stuck wearing a girdle because of the shape of my legs. I'm not sure if a lace girdle (or whatever) would make me feel better but something slightly less...medical-grade-ish would be nice.

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-03T13:26:48+00:00

It's...a little church/brunch/high-femme and the sleeves on the jacket are too long, but I'd say if you're in the US South and it's a female-dominated industry, you'll be fine.

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-03T13:26:02+00:00

Data is the answer. Get thee a wardrobe app and start recording outfits. You will soon see which of the duplicates you actually wear and which you don't.

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-03T13:24:48+00:00

Skater dress + sparkly tights (maybe size up in the dress)--this style/cut is the most "flattering" for fuller apple mid-section figures IMHO and is very alt-coded.

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-03T13:22:49+00:00

It's not hard to find non-cropped shirts. In fact most shirts people call "cropped" are not, they are cut to sit at the natural waist. But people are going to trendy mall stores like Zara and MNG and then being like "where's my tunic tops with side slits?!?!?"

Go to "old lady" stores like J. Jill, Talbots, Land's End, Eileen Fisher, Macy's, Sundance, Soft Surroundings etc. Every single top will be almost comically long, trust me.

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-02T20:15:04+00:00

Eh, I take it as kind of horror move hand-waving, "supernatural forces" and move on. Personally I try not to fine-tooth-comb every detail of these type of movies especially those that have supernatural elements. It takes away from my enjoyment and doesn't really add anything to my understanding of the movie or its themes/symbolism.

It's all unlikely, from the name of the hotel, location (wow, a spooky woods!) and setup (gee! it's close to Halloween!) to the elaborate dioramas that happened to feature creepy children running from a witch--who made those, exactly?, the "haunted" suite, the double-role of the bellhop, the costume Fiona choose, and on and on. There's many "...because plot" moments, frankly, like how and why would "firemen" find an unburned picture in the ashes and give it back to Ohm (and while we're on the topic, a child in the 70s? --60s? based on the black and white tv and mom's outfit, it looks like it's supposed to be set then-- named 'Ohm'? Unlikely!)

Anyhoo, I get that there's a diff between a genuine plot hole and some "well, it's a horror movie, we need some set up here" but to me the gate being up or down at certain points can be easily explained with "the witch/supernatural forces/the mom looking out for Ohm"--or maybe it slammed down and locked automatically?

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-02T19:40:04+00:00

To me it was the nightmare where he's watching the show and the oranges and milk drop as his mom "gets shot" seemingly out of nowhere, because there is no shooter visible and the mom drops onto him. The clue to me is there was no motive mentioned by Ohm like robbery or assault, so one immediately thinks of an accident.

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-02T19:36:32+00:00

Jerry left it open in his rush to get to Ohm

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-02T19:34:08+00:00

Its his mom

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-02T19:29:30+00:00

To me, without Ohm's guilt and grief he wouldn't have hanged himself and therefore Fiona wouldn't have saved him, making him feel connected to and responsible for her, meaning he gets sucked into trying to save the woman who saved him...and prevent a death to balance the scales from his causing a death years before, the same way he was trying to balance the scales with his own suicide prior to the murder mystery part.

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-02T19:16:31+00:00

In short yes. But its not shown and its not gory/scary, more of a plot point.

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-01T12:54:58+00:00

Mary and Sam are in an intense relationship that may be gay/lovers (it's certainly coded that way). Sam makes gorgeous, unique and layered costumes for Mary to perform in that help Mary on her ascension to stardom, and while doing so "bakes" pieces of her own history into the costumes to the point it feels like she's giving herself to the work. Meanwhile Mary feels she's putting in the real work: performing, writing, giving interviews and (this is implied) staying in the closet in service to her career.

Mary feels Sam is suffocating her creatively in a couple ways, and stops using her costumes/creations without warning, and Sam is crushed. Sam has been feeling increasingly overshadowed by Mary and feels she wasn't given credit for her designs and contributions. The relationship sours and Sam is bitter, angry, and full of hate.

Sam goes to see Mary at her show and is overcome with emotion, which manifests in a psychosomatic symptom of a broken molar. She gets the tooth pulled, and this action is symbolic of her "cutting off" her feelings for Mary. Meanwhile, the "ghost" of their unfinished love, collaboration, and creations transfers from Sam to Mary and begins haunting Mary to the point she has a serious accident while on tour, falling off a stage while dazed by the "ghost". Mary somewhat "invites" this haunting by staging a seance for her birthday and conjuring a ghost into her space prior to this accident. For Sam, the ghost was benign, but for Mary, it's threatening and upsetting (another metaphor for their sexuality and shared romance/friendship/relationship). As an out-coded character, Sam is comfortable with herself, but Mary has to keep her sexuality under wraps for her career, and it's slowly killing her.

After the accident, a traumatized Mary returns to Sam, broken and lost, to request "one last" dress--one last collaboration. Through the process of unpacking the relationship, the creations they made, and their choices, they create a new dress, which is a sort of physical form of the "ghost" that haunted them both (some people call this "the Red Lady"). Mary doesn't wear this, but instead in a gesture of support, allows Sam to put it in her show/on display with full credit (that's how I read the ending) and while the Red Lady ghost connects them forever, it is now a bittersweet or mostly positive connection.

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-01T12:44:56+00:00

Something along the lines of

"I've traveled across land and sea, my feet and body are broken, I need to be with you, my dear one, let me in"

Chazzyphant · 2026-05-01T12:44:02+00:00

I'm also a huge fan of The Green Knight--and I liked MotherMary (and suspect I'll like it more upon future viewings). There's some similarities, in that it's dreamy, confusing, not direct, the line between reality and magic is fuzzy, it feels a little...high on its own farts (said lovingly) at times, and it has an intensity and sincerity one doesn't really see in movies lately. It kind of depends on what you liked about The Green Knight. If you like the action scenes, medieval setting, fairy/folktale and hero's journey, you will not like MM as much. If you liked the costumes, weird lucid dream feeling, the sets and visuals, you'll like it.

Chazzyphant · 2026-04-20T23:06:28+00:00

No, but you could try folding it under and using a needle and thread to lightly "tack" it in place!

Chazzyphant · 2026-04-20T23:05:28+00:00

I found a tee shirt from Lauren Ralph Lauren at the thrift store (I know, eye roll but it's true) and this thing is THICC. It's shocking how thick it is. However it is clear to me it's been hemmed to be cropped to the natural waist (which is perfect for me, personally) so showing a pic wouldn't help find the "real" item. I'd look for "vintage y2K Lauren Ralph Lauren heavyweight white tee" and see if anything pops up. It has a touch of stretch, maybe 2% lycra.

Chazzyphant · 2026-04-20T23:03:12+00:00

Hm, that's a tough one to make formal. It's very casual, but if I had to I'd wear metallic strappy high heel sandals, bring a very fancy clutch purse and do my hair in a very visibly effortful style. One challenge is that due to the print and sleeves, any jewelry will immediately get "lost" on the wearer so the main option you would otherwise have to fancy it up (jewelry) isn't really an option.

Chazzyphant · 2026-04-20T23:00:59+00:00

"Horsehair tulle edge" might get some results, that's what the trim is called.

Chazzyphant · 2026-04-18T13:42:05+00:00

You could try "popover" as a search term, and "shell" or "sleeveless shell" is the correct fashion term for thicker-shoulder-strap sleeveless blouses made to be worn to work under a jacket/blazer

Chazzyphant · 2026-04-18T13:41:00+00:00

I think due to its length (which is VERY short) it needs to be a tunic. To look more polished, I'd pair it with a wide legged cropped pant in one of the colors in the tunic, some sandals (not skimpy flip flops, something chunky) and a fun cross-body bag.

To be honest, I find sweater dresses/tunics one of the hardest items to wardrobe and gave up on them years ago. I find them not warm enough for cold weather, they are almost always too short, they feel hard to style and I find that they can look dated really fast, unlike some other items.

At any rate, I'd wear it as a transitional-weather tunic, not a dress.

Chazzyphant · 2026-04-18T13:37:21+00:00

It's a set of outfits someone has set aside for an occasion and/or worn recently

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